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Let’s Hear It For the Boys!

By January 27th, 202178 Comments

Let’s Hear It For the Boys!

By Andrea Dawn

Recently there’s been some discussion in the natural hair community about husbands and boyfriends who don’t support their partner’s decision to go natural. Some of the stories are heartbreaking. It can be devastating for a woman to realize that the man she loves can’t or won’t accept something as basic and organic as the hair growing out of her scalp.

It’s good to discuss this issue from time to time because it can help a woman gain perspective and clarity, and possibly help her decide how to manage the conflict.

For every man who doesn’t support his partner’s natural hair journey, I like to think there is another man who does. I believe it’s equally important to share stories about the support and encouragement we receive from our partners on our natural hair journey. Too many “my husband/boyfriend hates my natural hair” tales can discourage and even scare away women and girls who are contemplating going natural.

My hair was relaxed when I met my husband. I wore a weave on our wedding day. Five years into our marriage I decided to big chop and go natural. He fully supported and encouraged me before I big chopped. When I returned from the salon with ¼ inch of hair on my head, he told me I looked beautiful. One year later with me rocking a big, thick, kinky, coily afro, his support continues. He always tells me how beautiful my hair is. He touches it a lot because he loves the texture of it. And he shows just the right amount of interest when I share my tales of pre-pooing, plopping, product testing and pineapple-ing. His support has definitely made my journey more enjoyable.

I’m sure there are plenty more husbands, boyfriends and significant others who are equally as supportive and encouraging. Let’s share some positive experiences!

Does your husband, boyfriend or significant other support you on your natural hair journey? If he wasn’t initially supportive, did he become more supportive over time? What does he say or do to show his support?

78 Comments

  • Anonymous says:

    Nice to see so many supportive brothers encouraging/supporting the natural hair move. My boyfriend of 4 1/2 years wasn't so supportive – at first. He's one of those brainwashed guys who believes that straight hair is pretty. I met him with permed hair (he didn't even know what a perm was!), at a long bob's length. In September of 2011, I decided that would be my last perm (I felt guilty for perming it, and that's when it hit me it was time to go natural). I told him, and he said he'd leave (he also said he'd leave if I'd cut my hair, which I did more than once)! I told him I'd let him go, and I MEANT it! :-)…

    Fast forward to about a month ago, and we're in the house watching "Good Hair". That whole section on perms taught him something. I was able to explain with a little more ease my decision to go natural. At the end of the movie, he got "it". He was still saying "indian hair is prettier", but he got it. Three weeks ago, I did my big chop. He came into the house, hugged me, said "you're beautiful" and played with the little hair I had on my head.

    I have another friend who went through the same thing with her boyfriend. She big chopped almost two years ago, and he now LOVES her hair. He's even said he'd NEVER let his future daughter perm her hair. I think it has to be understood that black men are going to be as brainwashed, if not more, about straight hair as women. In order to go natural, we as women have to embrace it and be proud. I think its the same process for the men we love.

  • Tonia says:

    My husband did my bc and listens to my hair rants….that's all the support I need!

  • Anonymous says:

    This is such a warming post! I had locs from '03 till last August. I undid them (yes, it's possible but it takes looooooong) and was less than happy with the initial results, but my boyfriend (he's Asian) loved, loved, loved my hair. His enthusiasm helped me love my hair. He continues to tell me how awesome it is and loves to play with it. He keeps telling me 'wear an afro!' XD. He loves burying his face in it and tells me he likes how soft it is. I'm very thankful for his love and support.

  • Anonymous says:

    My boyfriend is having a hard time with my going natural, it's a little discouraging. We met when I had long hair and then I slowly started cutting off my damaged ends. He absolutely hates it but i can't let his dislike for short hair deter me from going natural. I miss my curls and it hurts that he doesn't support it but he'll get over it lol he'll see the progress and realize that my short hair isn't permanent. To any woman out there that doesn't have a supportive partner…i say go for it and go natural!! it's a way of life and they'll eventually see how gorgeous your natural is lol and if not, well his loss!!!

  • Kiki says:

    My husband definitely supports and loves my natural hair! He plays in it and even holds the mirror for me when I need to see the back, but need both my hands! I have been natural since before we started dating, which was 12 years ago. I joke about getting a relaxer when I'm frustrated and he is totally against that. He even sits and listens when I talk about my single strand knots and sealing techniques! It makes all the difference that he loves the way my hair grows out of my head. What a guy!

  • Anonymous says:

    When I met my hubby, I was wearing braids. When I'd try another style/color, I'd email him a pic of it and he loved any and everything I've tried. 2 mos after we were married, he (a white guy)helped me remove the waist length braids I married him in.It took both of us 7+ hrs to remove them, and of course, you don't look cute with the 1.5" new growth/rest relaxed/yucky buildup at the root.If that didn't break him, nothing would! In the 12 years since then, I've been blonde, brown, red-headed, highlighted, curly, straight, weaved, nappy, and everything in between. If it makes me happy, then he's all for it. And I think I've been the happiest with my hair as it is now-natural, hennaed, and happy to be all curly.

  • Anonymous says:

    I'm so glad a topic like this popped up. When I met my fiance (who was my bf at the time) my hair was relaxed. We've been together for 4 1/2 years. All the way up Jan of last year, my hair was relaxed. I decided in Jan I was going to go transition, go natural AND STICK WITH IT THIS TIME. lol. He supported me, however, I don't think he knew what that all entailed, lol. I say that because even though I talked to him to prepare him for my BC, he was totally surprised. To say the least, he did not like my hair when I BC (And to tell you the truth I didn't really like it either at first). But, he still said he supported me and he was sure he would grow to love my hair as I grew to love it. I can say now he is definitely getting used to my texture and absolutely 100% supports my decision still to this day. Although he misses my longer, relaxed hair, I told him I would compromise by flat ironing my hair time to time, which is a style he loves on me. But I couldn't ask for anything better. I don't need him to like or love my hair but I just need his understanding and support. And that's what he has given me to this day. And he still tells me and treats me as if I am the sexiest woman in the world. This is one of the things that has given me the confidence that I need to rock my natural styles. As my hair has gotten longer, I have gotten used to it and able to style it differently and my fiance is definitely getting used to it to. But his support has and still is there for what I did, which I can look back and say I am proud to have done what I did.

  • Jaye says:

    I had micros when I first met my now-husband. Since, I have had not only the micros, but also twists, afro, and once I pressed my hair out. My husband, who is caucasian, likes the look of the micros best but doesn't like the feel of it, he likes the fro also and it's his favorite in terms of feel. He says the twists are "okay," and he absolutely hated when I pressed my hair out. So I think that all in all, he's accepting of my hair choices, especially the natural ones.

  • CKW says:

    One year ago, when my dermotologist told me that it would be best for me to go natural because I was showing signs of aleopecia, my first thought was how was I going to tell my husband. It took me a couple of weeks to tell him, but when I did he was very supportive. That gave me the strength I needed to get through going natural.

  • Bitty Boss says:

    My hubs loves my afro puff! He likes to sneak touches and fluffs when I am not paying attention. I realize I am very fortunate after I watched the video.

  • Berthia D. says:

    Touching story. It would really crush my heart if my significant other didnt support me in my natural hair journey 🙁 Thank God Im single though ! lol

  • AlwysEllen87 says:

    Me and my boyfriend were in college at the time that I decided to go natural, or at least start transitioning. I wore my bed scarf to class often throughout our senior year because of my new growth was ridiculous. but 6mnths in I big chopped and never looked back. He was supportive, but Im sure he was scared in the beginning lol. He still says he loves whenever I{ straighten, but also loves my natural hair and prefers me as such. I glad he didnt have the stereotypical reaction to my journey to my roots lol.

  • AllThingsMe says:

    My beau told me a few times that he didn't like short hair, so I wasn't sure what he would think when I decided to big chop (with less than 2 inches of hair). But guess what? He actually helped me do the BC. So even though short hair wasn't his preference, I was glad to know that he supported my decision.

  • Anonymous says:

    @Anon January 14, 2012 3:18 PM

    ITA

  • Anonymous says:

    My fiance is very supportive of my hair transition. He is Irish and when we first started dating I had to "school" him on black hair….lol. I was relaxed when we met and wore extensions from time to time, he even helped me put in some tracks!
    When I decided to go natural he was fully supportive. He loves my curls and always has his hands in my hair.
    I'm not sure what I'd do if my partner were unsupportive…..wait a minute..I know exactly what I'd do..tell him to love it or leave it!

    -Anissia

  • Anonymous says:

    My husband of ten years is a Canadian of Scottish ancestry. He absolutely adores my curly coils and constantly compliments my hair. He also loves to play with it. He knows all my product purchases and changes because he's usually with me when I'm fulfilling my product junky habits.

  • Anonymous says:

    I personally would like to hear more positive stories like this because I'm getting quite tired of the "My man hates my hair" stories. Thanks for sharing your good experience with us!

    -Foxyrou

  • A. L. Venable says:

    Like many who have commented, when my now-fiancé and I started dating, I had relaxed hair. He's white and British, so he had no idea what relaxers did to black hair, the "addiction," etc. until he saw the "Good Hair" documentary.

    When I decided to transition to natural, he was happy about it because he didn't like the amount of chemicals used. I'm only about three months into the transition, but he's been incredibly supportive and he's told me how much he prefers my natural hair to the relaxed.

  • Anonymous says:

    "It can be devastating for a woman to realize that the man she loves can’t or won’t accept something as basic and organic as the hair growing out of her scalp."

    I think it's devastating that this mentality isn't applied to body hair. I know from youth women are made to think that our natural body hair is disgusting, unfeminine, or unattractive, but isn't that completely ridiculous? How is hair disgusting if we shower (and if so why don't men shave?)? How is it unfeminine when most women naturally grow underarm and leg hair? Why do we believe people when they say it's unattractive? I feel like shaving is something we do for other women. Women are threatened by the idea of other women not shaving because it threatens their socially constructed ideologies of what a woman is and should do. I honestly believe many men either like body hair or do not mind it. And those that mind it probably have never seen it before and who isn't weirded out by new things? Once they get used to it they generally accept it.

    Anyway my rant is over. I just wish I knew like-minded naturals. Naturals who are all natural.

  • Anonymous says:

    My boyfriend absolutely loves my hair. He even calls me his 'natural queen' from time to time. I've only been natural for 3 yrs, so to have someone who is so supportive and loves natural hair is wonderful! He just loves smelling my hair and touching it, constantly commenting how nice my hair smells…reason I love using natural scented products…wink wink

  • Bridget says:

    My fiance absoluely adores my natural hair. He is the one who encouraged me to rock my natural curls in the first place. I have been relaxer-free for over 10 years, but I didn't rock my natural curls on a regular until approximately 2 1/2 years ago when he encouraged me to do so.

  • Sky says:

    My Boyfriend loves my natural hair! It's always a refreshing feeling because I've been natural all my life so he was aware of my hair being natural going into our relationship. I spent winter break with him and I told him that it's been a month since I straighten my hair..and he was like good..I love your hair when it's curly 🙂 He's one of my biggest supporters and I love him for that. Shout out to all the Kings who love their Queens Natural!

  • Miche'al says:

    My S.O. supports my natural hair decisions. He pokes fun at times by saying things like "oh boy you're on Curly Nikki again or how long will it take you to do your hair?" Its all good and fun.

  • Anonymous says:

    I Love This Post!
    My boyfriend love my natural hair. He loves to play in it and even love to grease my scalp every time i wash it.. LOL.. If Your husband/boyfriend
    does not accept your natural hair. Then he does not love the real you.
    (pause) and that's something to think about long term.

  • Anonymous says:

    My husband supports me 100 percent. I have been getting down on myself lately because I have thyroid issues and have alot of hair loss.Yet, I am seeing some growth as well. He has been there through the product finding and helping me along the way. He is a man of character and doesn't care what length my hair will and can be.

  • Anonymous says:

    I met my husband in 8th grade and started dating him right after graduating high school. We've been together for 25 years and married for 14. Needless to say, he's seen my hair in many styles and lengths and colors. With my husband's encouragement, I went natural 14 years ago. I went from MBL relaxed hair to a TWA. Nobody "transistioned" back then…lol! He loved it and has been 100% supportive of my natural hair ever since. After wearing it short for many years, I started growing my hair out almost 2 years ago. Like some of the other posters said, my husband loves when I wear it out and big…the bigger and fluffier the better. I think I remind him of Pam Grier as Foxy Brown and he loves to snap pics of me and my big ass 'fro.

  • WellWorn says:

    My partner (who is white) fully supported my transition back to my natural hair. When I was ready to big chop, he was standing there with the clippers in his hand!

  • Anonymous says:

    My boyfriend has always suupported my decision to go natural. He continues to this day to support me, even when I has a tiny weeny afro!!!! They definitely deserve their props!!!!

  • ExpatCentral says:

    I met my husband while I was rocking the creamy crack, and I was still relaxed(though it was my last one) when we got married. Right after that I decided to go natural, but I hadn't told him – he'd gone back to the UK and I was still in the States! But when I finally did cop to it, his support has been the strength I needed to keep transitioning(and to keep away from the creamy crack). I've been doing protective styles on my own, and not only am I lazy as all get out, it's taken me longer to accept my new growth than it has for him(he's loved every style he's seen me in), and now that we're both in the UK, his fascination with my hair regimen keeps me amused, which keeps the frustration at bay so I don't go crazy with the scissors… ;o)

  • Anonymous says:

    SOO grateful to be in a relationship with a latino man who loves my hair natural. He told me last night "i never met a black woman who loved and wore out her natural hair…i couldnt imagine you any other way" he even bought be a bottle of jojoba oil cause i complained that i couldnt find it!!! so blessed

  • Anonymous says:

    my boyfriend tries but he doesn't like certain styles i do which is fine because I do what I like.

  • RazzyYazzy says:

    I am in the middle of transitioning and my husband has been super supportive. He loves the texture of my natural hair, and even helps me undo my twists on wash day. Best of all, I taught him how to do scalp massages, and I float away on cloud nine as he works his magic on my head! What a man!

  • gblogger says:

    My husband and I work as a team in all things, and that includes hair. He loves my natural hair and encourages me in my hairstyles and flops, product junkie-ism, etc. 🙂

  • Temetria M. says:

    The guy I'm dating loves my hair. He has seen pictures of me with relaxed hair, and he said he likes my coils better. He always has his hands in it and the other night when I was re-twisting my hair for the night, he asked if he could try one. He did a great job and ended up doing the back of my head. Cut my "twisting time" in half. 🙂

  • Anonymous says:

    my boyfriend and i met in highschool. he knew me before i stopped relaxing.he loves my natural hair and often lets me experiment with DC's on his hair. can you believe he didnt use conditioner before he met me? his hair is so soft now.

  • hairscapades says:

    I've been natural 12 years, so most of my dating life has been spent that way. I've never had a problem with boyfriends liking my hair. And, my current SO … the love of my life … is so supportive that he writes for my blog!! He has a regular guest feature that I call, S.O. He Says:

    http://hairscapades.com/category/miscellaneous/s-o-he-says/

    He doesn't get it all, but he tries and he really pays attention when I ramble about stuff … picks up all the little acronyms … asks what he should use on his curls:)… gives his thoughts on different things. It's so cute. Oh, and I'm really excited, because he did an interview with Malcolm-Jamal Warner that I'll be posting next week! So, stay tuned for that:)!!

    Shelli

  • Anonymous says:

    My husband and I have been married for 20 years and he is very supportive of my hair…in whatever state it's in. I've been transitioning for 10 months and recently got some more of my relaxed ends cut off. On my 1 year anniversary in March, I will have the rest of the relaxed ends cut off and will finally be completely natural….Yeah!! He absolutely loves my braid outs!! It's been so nice to have him enjoy this journey with me, even though he really didn't understand it in the beginning. We're both looking forward to seeing exactly what my natural hair looks like. It's wonderful to have a man that loves me and supports me and my hair!
    -Joyce

  • Envy 252 says:

    My husband met me when i was wearing weaves, perms, and anything but my natural hair. It was his idea for me to go natural because of the grade of hair I have. Since the day I listened to his advice he has supported me, helped me do research and appreciates me for the decision I've made.

  • NaturalG says:

    My boyfriend of almost 4 years loves my natural hair. We started out dating with me having relaxed hair, and I just finished transitioning, so he's seen me through it all when it comes to my hair. At first he didn't understand what transitioning meant and why I was doing it but he's told me multiple times that he loves my curls even more than my relaxed hair cause it's different and he knows how important it is to me. I even tested him one time and asked him what he would do if I got a relaxer again, but I realized he didn't understand how drastic a relaxer was, so I explained that it would make my hair permanently straight, there's be no going back to my 3c for a while. When he realized that, he said "Oh, then nooooooo, no, no," but that he would still like it to be straightened w/o relaxing once in a while, just to change it up, and I have no problem with that.

  • launie says:

    I was already deep in my natural journey when I met my boyfriend. He loves my natural hair! Especially when I wear my mini twists.

  • Carlisa B. says:

    My S/O loves my hair and can't get enough of it! Lol, he loves to touch it and likes when i wear it big :]

  • Anonymous says:

    Yes, my husband supports me. He knew me when I was relaxed for many years. When we ran into each other a few years ago it was his first time seeing me with natural hair. When began dating and I asked him if he liked my hair. He said, "I love it. I love you." To me that's that key. He loves me (in totality) and accepts me as I am.

  • purplgirl48 says:

    These are such nice experiences to hear. I hope my husband comes around.

  • Dana says:

    I was relaxed for the first 9 years of our marriage. My husband was supportive from the day I first mentioned going natural 4 years ago, through the BC, and has remained supportive everyday since. He even encourages other women to go natural and speaks of the benefits of 'being free of chemicals'. He thanks me for being an inspiration to our daughter and strengthening her "hair" confidence. I think that's pretty cool.

  • Anonymous says:

    I complained about my long Saturdays at salon.Eventhough I had no breakag my thick Bob length relaxed hair kept me scared to enjoy life.I climbed Mt. Fiji with pin curls in my hair so I could be cute for pictures. But after complaining one to many times he suggested. I big chop and three years later I'm so happy . And now we have a six month old daughter . I am proud her mommy natural. It jumped started a healthier life for all of us.

  • Izoela says:

    My husband is very supportive. Actually sometimes he can be too supportive. He is my very own natural hair NAZI, smh. If he see's me pull out the blow dryer, flat iron or anything of the sort he is concerned about me damaging my hair. We actually have small bickering sessions over me dying my hair. I love that he loves my hair but sometime I have to remind him that, "I got this."

  • Ashley_Nichole says:

    I met my boyfriend rocking my fav kinky twist, later I would sport a weave. A few months into our relationship I revealed to him how damaged my relaxed hair was and that was why I never wore it out. He convinced me to go natural! He supported me and encouraged me 100% and I'm not sure I would have had the courage to take this journey without him.

  • Kiara Gaston says:

    My boyfriend loves my natural hair but he loves it most as a fade. I'm attempting to grow it out but he always says "I support your hair growth bae but you know I love the fresh fade" lol…he's amazing 🙂

  • Anonymous says:

    When I met my husband, I was relaxed, and we were only 12 years old…smh. Anyway, we've been friends ever since and married for a long time now. We're 45 now, and from the time I met him until I started transitioning in October 2010, he has only seen me relaxed or with braids. And from the very beginning and through my BC and huge learning curve of going from relaxed to natural, he's been nothing but loving and supportive and genuinely interested. I love him for that.

  • Anonymous says:

    Early in our relationship I let my boyfriend know that at some point in the future I'd be going natural. When we met I did a lot with my hair including relaxers, braids, weaves, and wigs, and he didn't mind any of it, as long as it looked good.

    When I BC'ed (with his help!) he was worried that I would be wearing my hair in styles that wouldn't look good on me, or be attractive to him. For almost a year I kept it in protective styles and wore wigs until my hair was at a length I felt comfortable with. The other day, I twisted and Bantu knotted, unraveled and we're both pleased at the results!!!

    He has been a tremendous listener, a student along with me. He can't keep his hands out of it! But I'm also guilty of that, lol.

  • Davina916 says:

    My Husband supports me in whatever I do, that's why I love him.

  • Anonymous says:

    I am so thankful for my husband (my boyfriend at the time I BC'ed). My parents we so unsupportive when I first decided to go natural and he's a big part of the reason I stuck with it. I know I won't be relaxing my hair again because he said he doesn't want to go through the stress again 🙂

  • Nat says:

    I guess my husband is strange, he really could not care LESS about my hair. When we met I had weave, then a few months later I cut all my hair off( this was before big chopping was the "in' thing to do) since then I have dyed, weaved, permed, and a heck of alot of other stuff in the 7 years we have been together. I am currently natural with a very low cut that he cut himself and not one time has he said anything negative or hurtful to me in regards to my style choices, big ups to him for that because that shows me that even if he doesnt fully agree with me on things such as the above mentioned he respects me and supports me enough to be nothing but positive. its always, " Do what you want baby, its up to you and its your hair…" I love and respect him so much for that 🙂

  • Kenya V says:

    I feel very blessed by the fact that my husband is totally supportive of my decision to transition from relaxed to natural. I feel bad when I read about ladies that have no support from their mate. I think that my husband's mom and sister's choice to remain relaxer free has been helpful in his support of me. He compliments me often and sometimes calls me Curly Cookie (Cookie is my nickname & I'm forever on this site!) As long as my hair is well kempt, he doesn't mind it at all!

  • Mauve_Avenger says:

    i'm currently not dating anyone right now, but i do have two major men in my life; my father and my brother in law. my bro in law thinks it's awesome that i went natural and my dad…well he doesn't hate it. he says it's me, which i choose to take as a compliment. he just doesn't want me to get locs. other than that, they don't really get involved with what's going on with my hair.

  • Anonymous says:

    My hubby thins I'm a tad obsessed with my hair since i'm always watching videos or on curlynikki, but he loves the 'fro too especially when it's big. He's always playing touching it.

  • Anonymous says:

    I definitely agree there are a lot of boyfriends out there who appreciate our journey. My boyfriend was totally apprehensive at first when I Bc he couldn't understand why I wanted to cut my hair off but he still supported me. Now as it grows in he tells me all the time I love your hair now and so glad you went natural. He is definitely an active part of the journey: he knows what products I use, request them by smell like "I like berry conditioner", he always smelling my hair and best of all he can't keep his hands out of it!! When he sees other naturals, he is sure to compliment them. And tell me why now he giving referrals and advise?? He told someone the other day you need to chk out curlynikki for some tips on how to help you with your natural hair. Lol I'm so proud n grateful to have him by my side. I consider this OUR natural hair journey together.

  • Anonymous says:

    Love this post! I'm blessed to have a hubby that supports my decision to go natural. When I bc'd, which was almost 2 weeks ago, he even offered to line me up! LOL He's been so encouraging. I'm not too confident to show my twa, but he's been like, "Wear some nice earrings and accesories" or "You look so beautiful honey. You should show your hair." He's even been buying the products for me. I find a new one I want to try and he gets it. I've been wearing a curly weave…I might part ways with it soon…

  • Jasmine says:

    I love zolaniorganics.com for my natural hair. I couldn't ask for more. It really works wonders for me.

  • Anonymous says:

    This is a great post. I am transitioning (8 months without a touchup) and my hubby is also very supportive. When I get frustrated, he reminds me of my goal and that it's friggin' awesome. He also likes that he'll never have to worry about running out of conditioner. I have enough to last both of us five years.:-)
    —MrsDjRass

  • b. says:

    Thanks for this post!

    My hubby loves it too and prefers it really big and out! (Can't do that all the time tho…the tangles…)

    Love my sweetie 😀

    Glad to see all the love on here for the SOs in our lives.

  • Anonymous says:

    I have been natural/texturized all my life. I am now transitioning back to my natural "roots" and my fiance is more than supportive. He too says the same thing, "It's your hair." My fiance loved the fact that I never went to the hair salon and now that I'm even more into the natural hair journey, he asks me questions along with brings up hair topics every now and then. It's even gotten to the point where if any of his friends girlfriends or wives are natural or thinking about it he says you should talk to my fiance…she's a pro lol. He says "look at her hair it's so healthy and beautiful." I love it when he says things like that, even if I think I didn't do a style just right or if he did steal my beloved satin pillow in the middle of the night and I woke up looking crazy lol. For some reason he loves y satin pillow so I think I may buy him a satin pillow case but then he may try to sleep on both of them! I think he steals it just to mess with me. Well, I'm glad my fiance is so supportive and if your man isn't then maybe he has an issue not you (just my opinion). Some men might not be that secure to be with a beautiful natural sister!!! This is coming from me- a mixed lifelong naturalista 🙂

  • Ms.LondonCurls says:

    My boyfriend actually was the main reason behind me going natural. I pretty much wanted to show him and myself that I can do it. I guess he got tired of me complaining about my hair not growing and indecisive about the next hair-do etc.
    My mum also has been telling for a while that the only way my hair will get back healthy is going natural and I have been so far 3 months.
    So not only is my boyfriend supportive and suggesting styles (annoying) but my family and friends do also. Best of both worlds.

  • Anonymous says:

    I met my husband while rocking a twa so I knew off the bat he was into natural hair. He had been suggesting that I get locs a couple years ago but I wasnt't ready for such a huge commitment. Last year I finally took the plunge and started my locs and I absulutely love them, now I'm like dag If I had listened to him back them I would be so far along and he's like see I told you..lol.

  • sparkspop says:

    Funny. There was just a MAJOR development on that front today. Initially I think he thought this was short term like I was gonna perm again when my hair got healthy. But today he said that my hair looked fly LOL. That's progress.

  • CurlyInTheA says:

    What a beautiful story! My husband says the same thing, "it's your head" but he does like to see it straightened every so often. It's a compromise. And he has asked me to cut my MBL hair to a TWA. WTH? He likes the short curly look on me, but this is one request that he will not get. I'm growing it out over the next 3 years.

    http://www.hairnista.blogspot.com/2011/10/hairtroversy-what-would-you-do-if-your.html

  • Anonymous says:

    My husband and I have known each other for most of our lives including before my first relaxer at age 10-ish and the 24 subsequent years of the "creamy crack". He was the one who recommended that I consider going natural after I called him while I was in the shower to show him all the hair that was coming out while combing conditioner through my hair a week after my very last relaxer. He had been through the growth and chops every few years when my hair got damaged and was over it. It's one of the best suggestions he has ever made to me and his support throughout my very short transition, big chop, frustrating hair days-weeks, watching youtube videos, trying different styles and products, and over a year of being natural contributes to my confidence and continued success in my natural hair journey.

  • Annabel says:

    My husband is really supportive and really loves my curls! In fact he cut my hair for me when I transition chopped. I'm always talking about being excited for my natural hair to grow longer and he's constantly reminding me to chill out and enjoy it.

  • PhenomenallyMe says:

    My boyfriend supports my natural hair and was even the one who suggested it back in 2010. After battling with my damaged hair so much, he was like, why don't you try to wear it natural and see how you like it. His input was so influential and helpful in those times when I didn't feel good about myself. He was even the one who cut off my straight ends after 10 months of transitioning. He told me today that he encouraged one of his classmates to stick it out when she was about to get a relaxer right before they got out of school. She came back to school and thanked him for encouraging her. That's a good one I have!

  • Tiffiny says:

    My boyfriend LOVES my natural hair. He even loved my hair during my 14 month transition even though he didn't like the time it took for me to do my bantu knots!
    He is a loc'd brother so he loves the way we look together. He tells me when my hair is thebomb.com and he let's me know when I need to break out the beanie Ha.
    He tells me I'm beautiful every single day and loves touching my hair. Even though he always told me I was beautiful, I love the fact that he thinks I'm just as beautiful with natural hair.

  • Anonymous says:

    When I met my husband I was wearing curly weaves which he loved. After a couple of years he saw my real hair and I thought he would just freak, but he didn't. He gave me a weird look but it didn't seem to matter to him. Long story short, he supports me in whateva I choose to do with my hair. He often jokes about the all natural recipes I come up with for my hair. I try to be an undercover mixologist. So he loves my kinky, coily curls…yes he does!!!!

  • Anonymous says:

    I have been married for over 23 years and I have had every style imaginable! My husband has always been supportive. I have been natural (this time and the last time for about 2 1/2 years) He loves my hair! He asks a lot of questions about my routine and about products. He is very engaged and I appreciate his love and support. I would even say he is proud of my decision to go natural.

  • luvmyboys says:

    My husbands is the reason I went natural. All the important women in his life were natural and he loves it. He tells all the time I love your natural hair. You look beautiful. He prefers when I wear it big and proud. I thank him for pushing me to go natural and love him greatly.

  • Unknown says:

    It's so funny that this topic was posted because I didn't moisturize my hair last night and just put on my scarf. My husband said "What's up?! You didn't moisturize your hair!" (I got a little lazy but I did it this morning, lol) It felt good to know that he'll be there to help me even when I get lazy about it. He supports me completely in this natural hair adventure and I hope a lot more women can say the same or at least WILL be able to say the same in 2012.

  • Anonymous says:

    Thank God I can say that my husband does not mind what I do to my hair. He says "it's your head." I have been permed, locked, natural and everything in between. I do believe that if I dyed it pink he may raise an eyebrow lol.

  • Anonymous says:

    My husband has always beeen supportive as well. When I met my husband I was rocking a very short relaxed cut and eventually grew it out to a bob and then cut it again. He always complimented each style. My decison to go natural was after our wedding and he was my biggest cheerleader even through those 'I didnt know what I was doing' days (dryness, etc). Today, 8 months into my natural journey I have come a long way and he continues to support me. He laughs at my youtube watching, homemade conditioners,etc. However, he loves my journey and I thank him all the time for his support.

  • ohbother says:

    My hubby loves my hair. He just admitted that there are some styles he likes better than others which makes sense because some things I do are a fail. lol. I big chopped a few weeks before we eloped. He has seen my hair all kinds of styles and lengths. He thinks it's cool that I can do so many different things to it. He's awesome

  • Anonymous says:

    I was just starting my natural journey for the second time when I met my husband. For over a decade of our marriage I wore only natural styles. Then a couple of years ago I decided to venture back to a relaxer to change things up a bit. My husband had never seen my hair relaxed, so I wanted him to see me with a different look. Well, I ended up doing a Megan Good type of cut last spring and followed it up with a very short pixie cut. By September of last year, my sweet husband told me that he was so over the relaxed looks and he missed my kinks and curls…That's all I needed to hear! We went to the barber the very next day! I am grateful to have a man that roles with whatever look I want to sport. However, we both agree that there is nothing like my natural hair!

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