by Tammy Goodson of CurlyChics

Yeah you have natural hair swag now but what about when you were first relaxer free? Did you wear it with confidence? Did you embrace the new you right away or did it take some time to adjust? How did you handle the reactions to your new life as a lovely curly? Did you receive compliments right away and if not, how did that make you feel?

Today I can rock any style and walk with my shoulders square and head high but it wasn’t always this easy. It’s not a vanity thing, it’s a comfort with yourself. At first I didn’t know what to do with my new found freedom. I struggled with the urge to pick up the flat iron. I tried to use the same hair products that were my staples for my relaxed hair which for me, was no bueno. The first time I wore my hair curly, no one said a word to me. I kept waiting on some sort of approval such as a “your hair is so cute” to roll off of someone’s tongue but instead I received uneasy stares and “so now what are you going to do with it?” Talk about making me want to crawl running back to my ex lover – the relaxer!

You know how your relationship with your man is great when there are no trials and tribulations? Those are the easy times right? Well, what about those times when things aren’t so good? Do your ties stand the test of time or does the negative wear on you? I felt like that with my hair. I was excited when all the frayed permed ends were gone but when I didn’t know what to do with my hair, when the chaos of being a neo natural reared its ugly head, I was ready to run!

At what point did you become confident about your hair, no matter what the reaction? When did you find your natural hair swag?
Sharing hairstories and life experiences from a curl’s perspective. Find Tammy at her blog, Curlychics, on Twitter, and Facebook.