So Hubby’s a little perturbed.
By now, y’all know me. I’ll go hard with something for like a week, maybe two, then… I kick that habit like I’m Bruce Leroy with the glow. My health kicks are no different… I’ll be good for weeks, even months, but then I get amnesia and forget how sick that last cheeseburger from BK made me, or how gross those fat ass steroidal chickens and genetically engineered cows look, and true to form, I’m on hold with Dominos.
Hubby jumped on the wagon just in time for me to bail. Prior to my fall, I had watched Fat, Sick & Nearly Dead and talked a bunch of stuff convincing him that we should only eat meat once a day and juice our own fruits and veggies. After a little griping he was game and started eating right and drinking more water, only to notice that after making him eat pseudo vegetarian meals for a week, I was ordering Indian and all things fried and cheesy.
Like always, I’ll get back on, but my transgressions have caused him to waiver as well. We’ve been together for 10 long years, and I’ve most certainly been on the other side of this. It’s difficult keeping up a healthy lifestyle when the person you love and share meals with (which is truly a social act and very enjoyable) is not on the same page as you.
How do you stay focused? We all know you can’t change the other, but what has worked to help you and your boo get on the wagon… together?
p.s. Check out this dope sweatshirt I scored from Romwe.com. I feel like I’m channeling Mike and Janet’s SCREAM. #ShoulderWork
Dry twist-out using TIGI Totally Baked Mousse! Thanks Val 😉
In other news, sometime a few days ago, Alvin and his frickin’ chipmunk friends moved in to my attic, and I’m about ready to move out. I don’t know if they’re chipmunks, squirrels, or whatever but Chip, Dale and the rest of the Rescue Rangers have got to go! Keep me – no, keep them in your prayers y’all, cause it’s not going to be pretty if they don’t find another home soon.
Pray together. Set your intention. Believe in your self. Look at pictures of clogged liver ducts, diabetic foot ulcers ie. scare yourself into re-membering. Plan your meals.
I freakin luuuuuuvvvv your hair here. Awesome
you're taking awesome pictures. who takes them?
FORKS OVER KNIVES changed my life as well (even had my husband convinced to eat better). I tried vegetarian in the past and gave up because I was hungry and uneducated. Now, I'm a bit more educated after doing lots of reading and research. THE KIND DIET, is my favorite book so far. It's written so you can take what you want from it and transition to a more healthy lifestyle in stages. Very insightful!
I feel better than I've ever felt on my new lifestyle diet! I've even been able to get rid of my horrible cramps simply by cutting out processed food and meat and eating more grains. In high school, I would pass out every single month from the intense pain; that's how bad it got.
Anyway, good luck to everyone being healthy! It's the only way to live.
Nikki, if you're intersted in other ways to kick start a healthy eating lifestyle. I would encourage you to see Forks Over Knives if you haven't already. It changed my life forever and how I look at food. Thanks for all your inspiring entries. I'm a better curly-hair woman because of you.
Hmm. I don't know what to tell you Nikki. I am vegetarian, vegan about 75 percent of the time. I always cheat with ice cream and maybe some random Greek yogurt. My ability to stay grounded usually comes with finding a really good healthy alternative to what I'm craving. I have discovered the joy of coconut milk-based ice cream. Its vegan, soooo creamy, soooo tasty, and cholesterol-free. The brands I love are So Delicious and Coconut Bliss (which is even better than So Delicious). I also eat Whole Soy Yogurt for my curdled milk cravings. LOL. As for you and hubby. I don't have a boo, and I think we all can be pretty inconsistent with food, and nutrition is such a passion for me. I suggest crowding out. Rather than focusing on what you can't have to eat, eat something super healthy to learn the joy in your other options. Then you won't crave the bad stuff. Also, remember that you will need to be most consistent when Boog starts wanting to eat all kinds of crazy ish. I trust that as she gets older, you will start to be more motivated to be more consistent if only for her sake. After all, hubby is grown, but G Boog will always be your baby girl. Also, BUY those documentaries about food, such as Forks Over Knives; Food, Inc.; and Fast Food Nation. And when you get tempted, watch the documentaries AGAIN. Read some statistics on health disparities in this nation, black people in particular, cause that stuff is really real. Watch a "meet your meat" video, remember that soda is liquid Satan, sugar is legalized white powder. Also, some things are very faddish, but try to follow nutritional information based on unbiased, scientifically empirical evidence. There's a reason why I am not on a raw food diet, not enough science to back it up. But as for a plant-based whole foods diet, I've read enough to not want to eat meat for the rest of my life.
Whew. Didn't mean to go on such a diatribe. Here's to health! [imaginary champagne salute]
I agree! It is very hard to get my girlfriend to jump on bandwagons with me!!! especially about food or working out!! which usually results in me falling off the bandwagon before I even have time to see if it was worth getting on to begin with!! lol! idk! but i know you look amazing in that outfit girl! WORQ!!!
I need this sweatshirt! Your hair is rocking!
Nikki, I am loving your style. As for getting healthy with the hubsters….I started with buying healthier snack alternatives, then doing half ground turkey and half ground beef in meals that call for it, I invited him to Zumba with me, and now we're doing the Daniel fast. For 3 week we can only eat veggies, fruit, brown rice, other whole grains, and water. I'm praying that we can a spiritual revelation and also a physical transformation and just a greater understanding of how our bodies work and what we need to do to preserve it.
Nik, you look fab as always! Gia is too cute for words.
Dh and I try to do things gradually. Smaller portion sizes at first then gradually eliminating things from our diet. Same with exercise….start with a brisk walk, then on to heavier things. We also allow ourselves to indulge from time to time —- just in smaller portions. Over time it becomes a lifestyle change and less of something "forced", so it feels more natural.
Girl, rodents in the attic! I'd be calling "Billy the Exterminator" from A&E!! LOL!!
LOVE the look. Secretly plotting to steal your hair…
I can not find this sweatshirt on the website!
Well that's just it. It worked best when we did it together. And, it was really hard to go without meat (except seafood) for the first week or so, but after that, my body adjusted and I just used really, really good substitutes. That did the trick. I never missed burgers, but for everything else the subs did the trick. I'm going through a similar phase now though. My mom came to town and for some reason I felt inclined to eat with her, even though I hadn't been eating much pizza w/ cheese or chicken. And for the last month or so, I've had it every once and a while. But I think it's like anything else. If you do it less, that's still a triumph because you're still side stepping those gross pesticides more than you would have in the past. So, don't be too hard on yourself. 🙂
Sweat shirt is very cute. I thought you were wearing a back pack. lol
I love your hair in every picture, you look fab!
LOL @ Bruce Leroy with the glow!
I've had my share of squirrel trouble. The first time was at my college apartment. It would come in, eat my food and then leave. I was already an broke, semi starving( maaannn cafeteria food was just nasty!) college student, and to come home from class to see a half eaten loaf of bread and teeth mark in the other food! I'm an animal lover, but me and that squirrel was about to fight!
The other time was at my parents house. there was a hole in the roof somewhere. Took too long for the pest people to find it – at least 2 trips to the house.
ps. your hair is lovely as always!
WOW! I am loving the sheen and red halo surrounding your hair with the henna! I cannot wait to get to my head and get it popping! Have you tried the Lush brand Henna before? Its supposed to be easier to apply/mix…
I applied a henna to my daughter's hair, she is transitioning back to natural after having been barely permed for about a year now – she JUST HAD to have a perm when she turned 16 – smh. ANYWHO…
She loves her highlights so much! I am soon to remove my protective weave styling (in about two weeks) and want to henna as well but want to go the easy way… LOL!
Any thoughts knowledge on the Lush brand henna? They have four colors red, brown, marron and black…
My fiance and I have been together 6 years. He has always been more motivated to work out and I am more motivated to eat better. I have been trying to convince him to try a vegan lifestyle for years and he has always been resistant. But he had a cathartic moment after we watched Fat, Sick and Nearly Dead and Forks Over Knives one date night. Also, I plan meals that vary in taste from day to day so we don't get bored. As for going to workout…he brought home some bright pink running shoes for me and I have been running 30 miles a week every since. You have to find what your partner is worried about missing after a lifestyle change and reassure them that you are doing what is best for each other and that you are doing it together.
I love the dry twist out! It's sooooo pretty. I wish I could master that style. It would make life so much easier. But every time I try to twist my hair (wet or dry) and I sleep in them I wake up to flattened hair. It's really frustrating!!
I love it!
Wow your hair came out looking gorgeous in every photo on here. Little Gia hair is growing so quickly, look at the baby puffs :). The story of the little critters in your attic is to funny. I would be afraid to sleep at night or even take a nap in the daytime, you never know they may be in the bed with you. Just plotting on how to scare you and get food, loll…j/k…lol…..
Just curious CN have you tried any styles from this youtuber "Lilithedarkmoon"? who is a white female,but does great hairstyle tutorials. I think with your hair texture would look good on you as well.
OMG! Thanks Anon 11:56AM!
I was searching for the ingredients last night. Guess I won't be buying that one. I was already leaning against it-given the fact that mousse tends to dry out my hair, but you just convinced me 100%!
Nikki you are fabulous!
Hi Nikki! Love your hair but I do want to point out that the tigi bed head line contains Parfum (Fragrance). Unless a fragrance comes from essential oils or says phthalate-free, it contains phthalates (the ingredient linked to fibroids and endometriosis). Tigi just debuted a natural line called Love, Peace & The Planet so maybe you can find a substitute for the mousse there. Coming from a place of concern.
What kinda camera do you have? I need one in my life. You always take the most amazing pictures and my lil digital nikon makes me feel like a 1 year old with a view master toy from the 80's.
Thanks Patricia and MJ!
@ Anon, I love sugar too, lol. too much! Diabetes runs in my fam as well, which is why I've made several lifestyle changes. Like, I've changed many of the small things… you'd never find soda in my house, not even juice most of the time. We eat whole wheat pasta, bread and grains and lean meats. All of that is consistent all the time. There are no chips in the house, no candy… sometimes cookies 😉 My issue comes when I get a craving and I'm forced to order out and head to a restaurant. I need to learn to eat something in the house to curb my appetite before the cravings spiral out of control. This is also how I spend so much money on groceries that go bad… cause I have good intentions but get lazy.
@anon, I stretched my hair freshly washed and moisturized hair using the tension blow dry method on moderate heat (like not even hot enough to feel hot on your skin if you hold it to your hand for a while). The finished result looks like a crinkly, stretched out, frizzy wash and go. I then separated my hair into sections and applied a little serum (davines) + TIGI mousse to each smaller section to twist. I flat twisted the roots and two strand twisted the rest. I ended up with 12 or 13 twists. I let it air dry and several hours later removed and finger raked through the definition to create a little more volume. Thanks a million for the compliment 🙂
There is no WholeFoods or Trader Joes here sadly… but there's a decent grocery store with an organic section. I try to do the rule and buy 90% of my food from the perimeter of the grocery store… but you know how it is!
@K.D. I like, 'imma just do me til we can do we'. love that!
I am feeling you. A healthy lifestyle is no easy thing. I am glad you are hanging in there though. I have been working on my husband for a while now… I am gradually breaking him down. But, until he brings his wagon full circle I just try to cook dinner or suggest what dinner should be (if I'm not cooking). I normally get my own healthy snacks and he gets his own snacks. I've noticed that organic cookies and chips are starting to make their way into the house. Hey, he's gotta start somewhere right? Anywho, I mostly just sneer my nose up at him in disgust when he is munching on junk or slurping down juice filled with high fructose corn syrup. I just figure he will come around at some point. In the meantime..Imma just do me til we can do we.
Nikki – tell us about your hair in the pictures. How did you get that style? What are the steps? I would never straighten my hair if I could achieve that great hair.
I do most of my shopping these days at Whole Foods. So far I have taken dairy out my diet and since I have never liked pork it went 20 years ago!
Ladies: Lets keep striving for better health – we're almost there!
This article is on point–I can stay pretty consistent about eating healthy, but I LOVE dark chocolate, and well, anything with sugar. lol
What I try to do, TRY being the operative word, is limit sweets to the weekends. I'm petite and have never had a weight problem, but diabetes runs in my family, so I want to make it a point to stay healthy.
By the way, I love your style and hair Nikki–you are gorgeous!
This is too haute. I'm getting those tights!
Thanks for all of the beautiful comments ladies!
Beautiful! I absolutely love the outfit!
I love the outfit! So edgy! Your hair looks lovely too!
My husband is very athletic, but could live on carbs, if I didn't throw vegetables in everything. Meat is really expensive where I live, so that's already motivation to eat more veggies. I am one of those people who really enjoy a good hearty vegetable soup. Even pizza can be healthy, you can buy or make whole wheat or gluten-free dough, slap on a lot of veggies, bake and sprinkle feta over it.
I think one thing that helps is to take the things you like and adapt them. If you love fried chicken, try buying organic chicken and oven frying it (less oil needed) and serve it up on a bed of salad.
One thing that helps my husband and myself is cooking together to reinforce healthy eating. We also have one night out of the week where we cheat. Stay focused you can do it!
Love the outfits and the henna glow to your hair!
That's walking, not waling
Shelli's riddle is actually the well-known Riddle of the Sphinx. The answer is ' a human' and is making reference to the stages of life.
Morning ( a metaphor for early life)- a baby uses four limbs to crawl
Afternoon ( a metaphor for adulthood)- average adult gets around with 2 legs
Evening ( a metaphor for senior yrs)- waling using a cane (3rd leg)
The sun lighting on your hair is insane! What type of camera is that?
Nik, where would one find this totally baked product? Your hair is amazeballs!! Hopefully it works on my relaxed ends for a really voluminous twistout
Nikki you look fabulous as usual . Ladies, have y'all seen this article about the 70 year old lady and how she's managed to stay so young looking a fit with a raw vegan diet. Now that's some motivation to start making some diet changes. http://frugivoremag.com/2012/02/ageless-woman-explains-how-raw-vegan-lifestyle-is-the-fountain-of-youth/
I just watched the documentary for free on hulu.com It was great! We have takeout nights twice a month. This allows us to have something to look forward to and work towards.
I need that sweatshirt Nikki! The link is not taking me to the sweatshirt and I can't find it! help!
We have a weightloss website together! Its called www.thebatesbiteback.com…I recently had a sore throat and once I was able to eat again I went ham! But Im tightening up and will get back to blogging soon!
for the things in your attic:
first find the source;
then go to home depot and set a trap – put peanut butter or a opened can of tuna fish…(i think they're raccoons)
once you're sure they're not in there, get some chicken wire and block the hole.
These comments are so amusing! And so timely. My husband never goes on a health kick, he's one of those genetically skinny guys. We have been married 3 years, and my Haitian mother dares to pull me aside one day to ask, "Are you feeding your husband? He hasn't gotten any bigger!" (Weight is a sign of prosperity and happiness in the Haitian culture.) Anywho, I tried not to roll and cut my eyes, and told her I am doing my best.
On the flip side, I exercise 4-5 times a week, and say no to pizza to keep me trim. My husband supports me through it all. It also helps that I do all the cooking and grocery shopping. So he can't eat what's not here, and my healthy cooking is better than his bachelor food days. Take control of the pantry and cupboards, and your husband will be on board.
Waiting on the response to Shelli's riddle!
I'm going to Netflix right now!! Thanks. . . commenter above me. lol
Absolutely fabulous, I love that shirt!
I love the look!
Hey fellow curlies, where might i be able to watch this fat sick and nearly dead documentary? for free? it seems like something i would definately be interested in trying and learning about.
Haha sounds the opposite to my household. I am the one eating chicken salads while the purse guy munchies on french fried chicken *shakes head*.
Glam and chic!
We eat organic meat in our house and only shop at Whole Foods now. We're more focused on the quality of our food and its sources. I hope to eliminate dairy. We follow the Paleo style eating and its been proven to be healthy. The meats aren't the killer its how they're processed and how the animal was fed from the beginning. Try eating from your local farms so you see what you're getting.
Ya'll better check out the Brazilian Butt Lift package, it's hot and guaranteed you'll tightened up hips, thighs, waist and your boom boom (butt) in 30 days–must do every day. Do an Internet search for it.
I love Romwe too! CN you look great, cute boots!
Hey don't hate the chicken legs, they'll keep you able to eat greasy food for another decade when others can't even at 50 and two kids and a grandson later and one day you'll be wishing for the good ol skinny days…TRUST, it's comin'! hahahahahha
Cute sweatshirt, I love the whole look. How did you use the tigi in your hair? It looks beautiful!
Gorgeous and you sound just like me! I'm terrible at keeping up good habits!
wow this sounds like me. My mom is a fitness instructor so whenever i go to her class (once a month or so..) i get motivated and start to eat healthier and drink more water but it never last lol darn that popeyes chicken..
OMG! I watched Forks Over Knives too and still fall off the wagon, lol!
Thanks ladies for the sweet comments. I actually searched the Romwe site and they must have sold out of that sweatshirt cause it's GONE 🙁 The leggings are still in stock though. They've got some dope blazers… got one on the way #ShoulderWork
I've tried everything (talking sweet, doling out guilt trips, and throwing tempter tantrums) trying to get my boo to eat healthier. But nothing has seemed to work. Those McD double quarter pounders and Bojangles wings be callin' him. So I just do my thing with out him. I'm hoping he sees how well I'm progressing and then join in (fingers crossed).
You look absolutely amazing, like a model. I wish I had your volume.
Compromise! Start with 'healthier' before getting to 'straight-up healthy'.
For example, a pizza could have:
1) Meat and cheese
2) cheese only
3) cheese and veggies
4) veggies only (vegan)
So, depending on what a given family's goal is and where they currently are, one could compromise and agree to going to the next healthiest level at some point in the near future. . . with the intention of making that level the new habit.
That's just a small example, but every bit helps. Just wait until you have a 3rd or 4th person's taste to have to contend with- esp. a teenager. You and hubby gotta get on the same general page before that happens or it's gonna be a divide and conquer mentality for the teen. :0
I totally agree with the poster who mentioned juicing (or rather, blending). It's a great way to get all nutrients/vitamins/fruits and /or veggies in one bolus dose. And you can't beat the energy level it gives you. If one is going to do it right, it is recommended that you do not extract the pulp from the juice, as you'd be removing essential nutrients. Get a highspeed/powered blender (Ninja or VitaMix) and blend vegies/fruit down to a pulp/juice. Add a bit of water to water it down a bit if need be.
Good luck to all who are trying to get and stay healthy!
I just looked too! I can't find it Nikki!
well i wish i could find the sweatshirt your wearing on the website. Love it!!!
Nikki you're killing it! YOure my fashion twin!
And @Jo Somebody — LMAO at "someone the hell else"
One thing that helps me stay focused is keeping my goal in mind and my husband is a constant reminder/ supporter. It's definitely a team effort
Girl, that henna red is amazing. Your hair rocks!
That top picture could be in a magazine. Love your style!
We saw that docu and kind of waffled with a semi healthy diet and intentions to go plant based, and, THEN we watched forks over knives…twas over. if forks over knives don't make you kick the habit, only a heart attack will.. Really tho, inappropriate humor aside, we just take in steps. And whenever one of us starts to fall off the wagon, we focus on feeding our minds and our stomachs follow. meaning pop the fat, sick docu back in and remind yourself of your previous convictions. or try forks over knives and see if that don't get at you. these habit and lifestyle changes don't happen over night and take time to resolve, so no stress, just keep working at, step by step, little reminder in between.
I love that sweatshirt!
Your hair is sooo beautiful.God bless your marriage.
I totally feel you on Alvin and his friends. I don't do rodents in the house. I TOTALLY moved out of my last house because one mouse. Yes, one little mouse chased me out of my house, y'all! BTW, you look great, Nik! -Pamela
Motivation: Catching an episode or two of biggest loser, i used to weigh 600lbs, or any other "i used big and now after 2 months of intense workouts and strict dieting i'm not longer big" shows AND have a GREAT support systems. I have a group of girlfriends who are all motivated to lose weight or just get fit. Also Black Girls Run….they are so inspiring and motivational!
Hair looks fab!! And you're welcome 😉
I'm boo-less at this time, but I know that growing up in my house balance is important. When someone decides it's healthy time (usually my dad), he thinks about how to incorporate what we want. It's not like cheeseburgers one night then only kale with a dash of pepper from then on. Also, Indian food has some good options for veg if you check out recipes. They're often saucy, but that doesn't automatically mean unhealthy especially if they're made from scratch.
I think making an order-in schedule helps too. We ordered in Chinese once a month, which lasted for about three days in leftovers, then it was back to mom or dad making dinner. I think it's easier to stay on the wagon when you give yourself some wiggle room!
I like what your hair is doing a lot! It looks especially rock star-like these days. Is it the haircut? Also, Boogie is a raving beauty… your husband is really going to have something to get upset about once the boys start coming around!
Your hair is amazing and I see that henna color popping off of it! You look beautiful!
@Jo Somebody, I LOL'ed at 'someone the hell else'. Girl yes. I called the people today and they came over and set 'humane' traps and will be back tomorrow and everyday after that for 2 weeks. Thank God. I can lay in the bed in the a.m. and hear them scampering from one end of the attic to the other. I've never been in the attic and have no plans of ever setting foot up there. Hopefully we'll be long gone before then!
@Shelli, I love that! Great way to look at it… I just feel terrible (like last night) when I'm sitting there eating pizza and he's eating a salad, lol. I feel like it's cruel and unusual torture!
Okay, and what the heck is up with these Captchas lately man?!?! They are killing me with the two word, 24 letters each combos!! It's like trying to solve a riddle publishing a comment!!! LMBO!!!
… and now … What walks on four legs in the morning, two in the afternoon and three in the evening ….
I watched that documentary also and I've been going hard on smoothies since Thanksgiving. I suffered from a few health issues that have improved significantly since I started drinking the smoothies and my cravings are at bay so I've kept it up. I usually mix kale, spinach, ginger, peaches, flax seeds and a banana. Mmm mmm good! I'm following Dr. Fuhrmann's Eat to live lifestyle but I have cheated and eaten a cheeseburger a time or two.
My favorite recipe is the cauliflower crust pizza! Its so good!
I love the top although I thought you were wearing a backpack at first! Lol!
I'm like you, I go crazy doing something, then my passion for it fades within a month. Having a partner in crime usually helps, but I'll be reading the tips intently for better advice.
I couldn't with animals in my attic. Maybe you could spray a whole load of something to repel them and seal it off, then check later? By 'you' I mean 'someone the hell else' of course!
Nik, I swear, Wei and I yo-yo!! When I'm on a health kick, he wants to eat junk and be lazy. When he wants to eat healthy and jump rope, I want cake and hair blogs! It ain't cute. But, this is how he sees it (and it's a good point), although we might not always be on the wagon together, one of us is in it and one is walking along side it!! LOL! Watching the other be healthy allows the pendulum to swing back and forth in a good way. Meaning, me watching him eat healthy and exercise regularly when I'm feeling like a slob eventually will get me back on track and vice versa. It ain't pretty, but it's better than the really bad alternative … we both eat unhealthy and turn into coach potatoes, progressively getting larger each year!! LOL!
p.s. Girl, how is your hair getting more and more FAB every day?!?! I think you are getting back to your pregnancy thickness … FOR REALS!!
p.s.s. Rescue Rangers. #done
@Courtney, what's the Flat Belly Diet?
And who uses a blender in place of a juicer? I have a great blender and make smoothies but don't know if I should drop the 300 on a juicer… cause I know I'll juice for a week and then stop, lol
Your hair looks super cute!
I don't have a dude to help me stay on track, but I am drinking a smoothie I just made. It has Fresh carrot, and apple juice. Squeezed orange juice (from store), strawberry greek yogurt, spinach, a piece of a frozen banana, and a half cup of spinach. DELISH!
Get one of those individual blenders that has the removable/drinkable cup.
Just watched Fat, Sick and Nearly Dead last week. Can't jump on that bandwagon until I' m finished with The Flat Belly Diet in 5…4…3…2…
I am loving that Henna glow you got going on!
@pearlsandcurls37, Romwe is BOMB. The prices are great and the fashions are like nothing I can find over here. And yes, ASOS rocks too! I've got a package on the way !!!!
Anybody else got some online boutiques they recommend? I need some new options besides ZARA, ASOS and Romwe. Thanks!
I kick that habit like I'm Bruce Leroy with the glow
You look cute!
@ahmiamglam, thanks lady! I'm wearing MAC Rebel thanks to the suggestion of the lovely Shanti and Antoinette of Round the Way Curl (formerly acurlsbf)!
LMAO @ Alvin & the Rescue Rangers!!!
I'm loving the pics ma'am… Chicken legs & all you look fabulous. What lipstick is that BTW?
Love the outfit. I just got hooked on ASOS…guess I'll check this one out too. I'm gonna go broke followin' you up.