What’s your child’s name and age? Tell us a little about her.
My daughter’s name is Chloe and she will be 7 years old in March. She is so sweet, she cries at movies, she loves ALL animals and is a girly tom-boy *lol*. She loves makeup – Sephora is her fave, because of all the tools and makeup just begging her to put them on her face. We’ve wanted to get her modeling gigs, but I’m so leery of the people who take advantage of kids. Now she’s in the weird stage with her teeth … ugh, and she won’t stop smiling, she’s a jack o’lantern!
How do you care for her hair? What products do you use, how often do you wash/condition, what techniques do you use (i.e., how do you detangle), etc.?
No matter the style, Chloe wears a satin bonnet every night and sleeps with a satin pillow. Initially, it was because Mama did and she wanted to too, but then it made sense that a lot of what I was doing for myself would benefit her as well.
I wash Chloe’s hair twice a month with Tresemme Low Sulfate Shampoo or Organix Coconut Milk Shampoo. I co-wash her hair weekly with Organix Coconut Milk Condish, Aussie Moist, HH HE or the Suave Almond and Shea Butter Condish. I always leave some condish in her hair and then wrap her hair in a white t-shirt to get the excess water out. I then section her detangled hair and apply Giovanni Leave-in, Kinky Curly Knot Today or Shea Moisture DC (smells so good) to her hair. Then the products vary depending on the style.
I detangle Chloe’s hair by sectioning the nape from side to side (this hair has looser curls) and then parting the rest of hair in 4 sections. I use my denman brush, along with a spray water bottle, and work from the ends up and then, if I want to stretch her hair, twist or band the detangled section with Karen’s Body Beautiful Sweet Ambrosia Leave-In or BeeMine Curly Butter.
Do the same products that work for you work for your child’s hair?
Yes and no *lol*. Chloe’s hair is thicker than mine, so I have to use more product on her or just a heavier alternative. But, for cleansing and conditioning, definitely we use the same products.
What is a typical style? Do you employ protective styles? If so, how often?
Chloe loves her hair out and we’ll do a WnG. But, depending on the hold, we’ll use different products. For a softer, fluffier WnG, we’ll use crèmes, like Aveda Be Curly or Mixed Chicks (but these two are pricey for our budget). For a more defined curl with some hold, we use KCCC with the Knot Today, Elasta QP Feels Like Silk or Eco Styler Olive Oil Gel and last, apply a few drops of Organix Coconut Milk Shine Serum (love the smell).
For her ponytails, I use TCB Lite Hair & Scalp Conditioner. It looks like gel, but goes on like a pomade. No sticky or tacky feeling and has amazing shine and lays down her stubborn curls and wispies like no other. I’ll sometimes use the Feels Like silk on her ponytails, if her hair is out for a curly ponytail. I have to use rubberbands on her ends (I know, I know), but her ends will unravel with the “twist around your finger” move. I even bought the ORS Lock and Twist Gel thinking that would keep them together, but no luck.
We’ve even attempted a straight do, but Chloe’s curls will not be tamed and ’m not willing to burn her locks to try. I purchased the InStyler, then I use a heat serum on her hair (right now we have Carol’s Daughter Macadamia Nut Heat Protectant) and it does the trick, but within a few hours she has BIG HAIR. But, she’s happy and grateful for the hours she does have it straight.
I most definitely take advantage of the talented hair braiders whose styles last for 2 weeks and save me precious time in the AM!!! She loves the beads they put in her hair. I use Karen’s Body Beautiful Heavenly Jojoba Oil to lube her scalp or Palmer’s Spray Oil (I think it’s coconut oil) and alternate with Shea Moisture Curl and Style Milk or KBB Leave-in to moisturize.
What challenges do you face with your child’s hair?
Chloe has a few textures in her hair as well as her hair grows unevenly! You can see that one side is curlier than the other when I do a WnG. One side will be on point and the other will be just ok *lol*. And that troublesome crown area is always dryer and has a mind of its own. The length of hair at the nape of her neck goes to her bum, but then her next “layer” will be mid-back! CRAZY, right? Well, I ignorantly had someone cut it up to mid-back (she wanted to try and cut it all even – she has layers that go up to her chin – heck no you ain’t cutting her hair even), thinking it would start to grow evenly. Well a year later, that nape section is to her bum again, but not the bulk of her hair. I’m concentrating on healthy hair, moreso than length with Chloe. But, I think I have to look at both.
How does your child feel about her/his natural hair?
Well, we live in a diverse community and Chloe wants to wear her hair out more frequently like some of her lighter friends. She’s even come home begging for a bang, this was in Kindergarten. Well, the AA community I grew up in didn’t even think of cutting bangs until maybe middle school!!! Her dad began to stress that his baby was getting grown and I had to explain to him that Caucasians get their little girls hair cut in bobs as early as toddlers; she is just expressing what she is seeing. I was just grateful she just wanted a bang and not the whole shebang, ok?! I pointed out to Chloe that her hair doesn’t want to stay straight when we InStyle it and her bang would just be a bush on her forehead if we did cut it and, after she finished laughing, she was ok with it. She’s more aware of her hair because of the attention that she gets when she wears it out, but overall, she loves her hair and thinks the shrinkage is really cool!
Have you ever relaxed/texlaxed your child’s hair? Why or why not and, if you relaxed her hair, what prompted the decision to return to natural?
No, I have never put a relaxer in Chloe’s hair and I won’t. We have so many resources at our fingertips as well as products that are just a website away that I just can’t see putting such harsh chemicals on her hair. She can make that decision when she is old enough, but hopefully she will appreciate what God has blessed her with and the evergrowing community of Natural Hair goddesses to relate to too!
Anything else that you’d like to add?
I think that this series/subsection of Hairscapades will be another resource for our curly families. One-stop shopping for moms and kids! I’m looking forward to reading other mini-hairstories and learning some new and better ways to maintain Chloe’s hair (if anyone can grant me the magical power of cornrowing, flat-twisting and parting, I’d be eternally grateful). Thanks Shelli for allowing us the opportunity – you are the bomb.com *Tamar voice*.
Her hair is beautiful. My 9 year old wants to transition now. I'm having such a hard time trying to figure out what to do..I wish I never relaxed her hair me just being lazy. I so regret it…..AWESOME job mom 🙂
@Anonymous, February 10, 2012 12:02 pm, well you too can be "blessed and fortunate" just as long as you don't procreate w/ a "nigra" w/ "bad hair. Or if you must, make sure his "nigra" genes are watered down, so that ugly nappy curse won't affect your kids.
I need some help. Like, I really need to take a class or something because I do not know how to do hair. My 20 mth old daughter's hair is probably four inches long and doesn't hold product at all. The same products I use on my hair do not currently work on hers. I do not know how to braid or anything. The best I can do is just put four plats on her head and that's sad…
My daughters hair is shorter in the back, & is a different texture than the front & crown. Ive been searching for growing & care ts, please help? The back is dry & not as soft as the rest of the hair.
Um, that hair is amazing. Seriously. I'm speechless.
Great Story. She is gorgeous and so is that luscious head of hair. WOW!!! Hopefully she will never relax it.
Thank you so much for this write up! I needed this. My daughter has similar texture and would love to wear a W&G more often, but i never know the right product to use to have that defined curl. She has type 3 hair with some 4a hair at the crown (from me i suppose. LOL), and once her hair dries, she looks like the remake of Diana Ross. I will have to try the products listed! Great job Shelli!
I ENVY her hair!! #ThatIsAll
Her hair is SICK!
That softness and sleekness of that last style is a dream! Is that a bantu knot-out?
Way to go, Mom!
Love this article by the way,would love to see more natural kids thanks.
aww she's so beautiful and her hair is stunning but what i love most about her hair is its layers.I have hair like that and i did something that made my front hair grow faster but then the back hair started growing slowly for months till it seemed like my front hair was growing faster and longer than the back hair but i think my hair's gone back to normal now so Mama keep up the good work of treating her hair and its layers with care.It really is best how God wants it
Oh my goodness what a cutie pie!
Chole is stinking adorable! Love her hair, if I knew then what I know now I would have never straightened my daughters hair.
She is so CUTEE!
What a pretty little girl. Thanks for sharing about how you do a wash and go. I have always wanted to try that on my girls.
Beautiful little girl and amazing head of hair (can I borrow some)!? I really enjoyed reading with how you talk to her positively about her hair, especially in the context of being around friends with straight hair.
Her hair is totally cra!
Wow! Her hair is absolutely gorgeous! Cornrowing is easy once you get the hang of it. If I can figure it out on my daughters hair (couldn't even plait my hair good as a kid) anyone can do it.
Barbara of http://www.barbaranaturallyspeaking.blogspot.com
Her hair is absolutely beautiful and so is she! She reminds me so much of my niece,who's 3, they almost have identical hair! You are teaching her so many great things already!
What an adorable little girl, with gorgeous hair! I should state that it sounds like Chloe and I have the same hair woes! My hair grows unevenly, too. It grows exactly like Chloe's hair! Also, my crown area is drier than the Sahara desert, so I have to moisturize it regularly or it will become brittle. Furthemore, My hair has more than one texture, in which one side always looks gorgeous when I do a wash 'n go, while the other side looks "only OK!" LMAO! Nice interview!
Thank you ladies for all the compliments! I just let Chloe read them and she over the moon! I'm so grateful for CurlyNikki and Hairscapades for not only featuring my baby but the wealth of information that I have learned and tweaked for our own regimens. We are all beautiful when we love who we are naturally-God Bless!
You guys have to go check out the original post on my site … there are a lot more pics in a slide show at the end!! Michelle is Chloe's mom and she sent me a whole lot of pics and I couldn't even choose!!! She's so beautiful, I had to share almost all of them!! LOL!!
Shelley … can't believe we have the same name because, pretty much, I said the SAME thing!! I sooooo have baby fever and Chloe's pics put me over the edge! Nik didn't re-post my additional comments about that!! LOL!!
(p.s. I'm looking for more mini-hairscapades stories if you're interested in sending in yours!! Here is the link to this interview with my contact info at the bottom:
(p.s.s. I have to give credit where credit is due, this was Chloe's mom's idea. I just came up with some questions and she took it from there. So thanks again Michelle! You know I LOVE it!!;)
Adorable! I just love the heart shaped sunglasses pic!
Wow – I havent even read the article yet – she is gorgeous
It's official…she is super adorable!
OK, my uterus just turned a flip. I really want a daughter!!!!!!!
Way to go Mom!!! I was just reflecting with my own Mom just how helpful all this new knowledge about natural hair would have been when my sister and I were growing up in the 80's and 90's. Chloe's hair is beautiful and I applaud all the time and effort you put into it.
She's beautiful…I hope she'll grow up and continue to take care of her hair so she won't damage it and have to re-learn hair care all over again (or for the first time) like some of us.
She is just too adorable and her hair is gorgeous great article
JEALOUS!!!!! If I had hair like that, you couldn't tell me nutin' PLEASE don't let her relax it.
She's so cute!! And her hair is BEAUTIFUL…good job, Mom!
Good job Mom! She is beautiful ! I hope she has the same confidence when she gets older!
This reminds me of my hair when I was a little one. I can't wait till it gets back to that length!
Wow! Her hair looks better than mine! Way to go mom!
Great interview. And great job mom of caring for her hair. I need to better with my girls
She's so cute and beautiful!
She's so cute. You said mixed chicks is out of your budget. Try Mixed Silk – the generic version from Sallys. It's way cheaper and IMO better.
Chloe is just too adorable (luv the heart-shaped sunglasses picture)! Get ready Nikki for when Mz Boogs gets that age!
She is BEAUTIFUL!
what a cutie and what gorgeous hair! great job, mom! 🙂
she is gorg! and her hair is sickkk…amazing. my hair is nowhere near as lush as hers but i do have the same issues with grow rates…my nape and sides will grow forever and rapidly and then the rest is in slow motion..that's why i get so angry when stylists cut into my crown..it takes it forever to catch up or they think it's broken off. it is a drastically different texture, shrinks much more than the rest, much more fragile, and just takes it time..my last cut has left me with very uneven hair b/c my sides are growing growing growing and the crown is lacking.
she is a doll!!!!
Cute kid, she is blessed and fortunate to have that long 3 hair type that she does, sorry if some dont that that politically correct but its the truth!
oH MY GOD SHE IS SO CUTE!