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What’s Holding You Back?

By January 27th, 202111 Comments

What's Holding You Back?

by Kim Jackson of PeaceLoveandPrettyThings

The simplest way to jump start progress in any area of your life, is to find out what’s holding you back and keeping you from seeing things through. Often we’re holding ourselves back, because of a fear or a lingering issue that we just can’t seem to move past.

By way of example: I have a friend (and I hope she doesn’t mind my using her story) who wants to lose weight. She has started over and over again, only to fall short. Many of us have this same issue—but what is odd about it for her, is that she is normally a very decisive person. She sets her mind to something, and accomplishes it without hesitation; and often on a whim. She just has an uncanny self-awareness that allows her to know what’s right for her, and to go for it. So why the block in this one area of her life?

The key to removing the blocks on her heart and mind—and to removing yours–is self-evaluation. You have to ask yourself the hard questions and really get honest about the answers:

1. In what areas of my life do I find that I’m spinning my wheels, but never getting anywhere?

2. What are the given circumstances of this situation? (The things that are out of your control; where you have to change yourself instead)

3. What past fear or hurt still lives in my heart today that is affecting my ability to thrive or to make progress at this thing in particular?

4. How have I been using that fear or hurt as an excuse?

5. What do I need to do to let go of the past?

The answers might come to you in meditation or stillness. They may come to you through goal-setting or action planning. They may come to you in prayer or while on a walk. Maybe you can’t come to the proper conclusions alone—talk to your pastor or a therapist. Do whatever will help you to gain the most clarity. Then, walk freely into your future.

And feel free to use the comments section here as a forum for discussion–you never know who else might benefit from your story.


PLPT is co-authored by Kim Jackson and GG Renee with the intention of connecting with women through messages of self-love and personal freedom. We believe that true beauty starts on the inside and radiates outward, so maintaining emotional health and balance should be an essential part of every woman’s beauty regimen. We use this platform as an opportunity to share our personal experiences, and to help other women who are seeking guidance to find their own truths and live fabulously.


  • miss kennedy says:

    I enjoy the motivation!!! thanx

  • Fatima says:

    I'm finding it hard to move forward because I don't know how to forgive someone who has hurt me. I've said I forgive them but I really haven't in my heart and I don't know how. I know I should do it for myself not for them. But until I learn how to do it I'm stuck in this place. It's incredibly frustrating and sad.

  • thebrownesteye says:

    Thanks for posting. It's a positive message that so many of us need to hear

  • Anonymous says:

    Happy Birthday sammiegotsoul!

  • Anonymous says:

    Ah, this right here, (as I read at work – long evening); each week these pieces minister to me on so many levels.

    @ sammiegotsoul: Assuming that you are not physically challenged, when you learned to walk as a toddler, you had to stumble numerous times. Those same stumbles are what we encounter along life's many paths. Keep stumbling with the understanding that you will be walking upright one day.


  • Samantha Nneamaka says:

    My biggest fear, as a 18 year old (as of today ! ) just about to enter the real world, is the fear of failure. I think I see it as the harder I try and the more I push for what I want to be the harder and deeper ill fall when it isn't made possible. So why should I venture out to things I haven't had experience in or haven't had oppurtunity to experience before. That is sooooooooooooooooooooo bad now that I'm typing it up. Its easier for me to say I can reverse this attitude then to actually do it.

    Its kinda of like the things that people say are too good to be true. But I see a lot of women that are like me that have done just that, but some out of millions …..

  • Sydni_Michelle says:

    Niceee! I love the question "In what areas of my life do I find that I’m spinning my wheels, but never getting anywhere?". So true, and so present.

  • Tanika says:

    Right on Time! 🙂

  • Davina916 says:

    This is right on time.

  • Anonymous says:

    I prayed about this same thing this morning. Thank you so much for this! =)

  • Toccara says:

    Conducting an honest evaluation of self is one of the most scary yet liberating experiences we can choose to have; the end result is priceless…

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