After a huge blow up with a loved one a few weeks ago I had to do
some self-reflection OBVs. When toxic, judgmental and negative people
enter your life, most sane people would show them the door. But when it
comes to our family members we have a way of holding on to them for dear
life no matter how painful it can be to love them. We pray, work hard
to change our behaviors and hang on to the hope that the relationship
will get better. I’m finally admitting that not every relationship is
worth fighting for.
I have deeply rooted abandonment issues that I’m not afraid to admit,
so letting go can be extremely traumatic for me. Losing someone in my
life makes me feel as though I’m losing a piece of myself.
Instead of spending my time thinking about the ending of a
relationship as a loss, I think about it as an opportunity to love
myself and them even more. My definition of love continues to transform
and now I know what the true meaning of unconditional love is.
Unconditional love is having an argument with your mom but knowing that
when you need her most she is always there. Unconditional love is what
people have for you when you are at your worst and they still give you
grace and love you through the pain.
Today I choose me. Today I choose the people that continue to be in
my corner whether I’m up, down, hard to deal with or down right
disrespectful, because they know my true heart and my true intent.
I’m done forcing relationships that are clearly unattainable and
leaving well enough alone. I’ll keep those I’ve had to move on from in
my prayers but not in my life.
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