Often,
when I think of allowing myself to be vulnerable, I worry about being
judged. I worry that my not being completely put together and on top of
everything all the time might somehow make me less likeable—less
lovable. Sound familiar?
But
in truth, it is when we are vulnerable that we are at our most
beautiful, because we become that raw, open, honest human that has the
ability to share a connection with another person.
In
truth, our fears, insecurities and emotional hiccups are part of the
roadmap to our growth and success. It’s when we feel at our worst that
we get up and do something about it, and learn about ourselves in the
process.
Know
that your vulnerability is just as gorgeous and wonderful as your
strength—in fact, it sometimes takes a stronger person to be willing to
open up and to accept whatever consequences may come with that, for
better or for worse.
One
of my best friends is finding her way to a relationship with a parent
who wasn’t formerly in her life, and it’s causing her to soften and to
be honest with herself about desires, hopes and wishes she didn’t dare
speak of before. And I admire the light and the beauty I’m seeing in her
eyes because of it.
Another
best friend and I finally gave a voice to the disconnect we’d each been
feeling separately for a while. We acknowledged that we’re in different
places in our lives, each valuing differing experiences right now. And
that’s okay! Despite those differences, and because of that honest,
vulnerable conversation, I feel even closer to her than before. I know
something about her that I didn’t know before.
Allowing
myself to become emotionally naked has helped me to become a better
friend and a better girlfriend. The people in my life know now that I
trust them enough to share even what’s scary and buried—something that
would have NEVER happened in the past–and ultimately, I think, that
makes me a prettier person to them as a whole.
Despite
what you may have been told in the past, your vulnerability is pretty
too. It’s a major part of who you are.
emotional armor allow you to better connect to the people in your life?
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I really needed to read this today, I was questioning myself,who I really am because of how others percieve me. I am so blessed to have a friend that I can confide in and be vulnerable with. Its so sad that in a world full of people you only have one true friend. Thanks for posting this we need to hear it 🙂
For me it has become less of an emotional armour and more of a spiritual discernment. On another note I am feeling so liberated when I say no.
I like this article I am still shy I do not have alot of confidence in my because of what my father done to my family and he verbally puts me down. I am 22 years old and he still puts me down because I have succeeded past what he has and I am in college. I got up and did a presentation about my life in my college course stress management, I talked about him. I hate public speaking because I was made fun of in 6th grade and called names. After I was finished with my presentation about my life, anyone can ask question or make comments, one of my class mate said, that I should pray to God about building a relationship with my father or to change him. I wanted to say you do not know my father I have gave up praying for a relationship or to change him years ago because I do not see progress. He even tried to jump on me yelling at me that I had to pull a knife on him. I had hopes, wishes, and desires, but they are gone with that relationship left when I was 6 years old.
I described myself as a child in my presentation because to me I am still a child who has to find myself and learn about myself. I might be grown in age, but at heart I am still young. I would like to be vulnerable, but I am so touch on myself that I put up walls and wear metal armor.
Megan Montgomery
I remember at points in my life allowing myself to be vulnerable & people taking advantage so many times. So when I do want to be vulnerable I feel like I can't cause I've built up this hard exterior. I want to be vulnerable cause it allows me to feel what others are going through or just being able to express myself to someone knowing that they have good intentions. I'm still working on me, but I know I have grown a lot.
Brooke B.
Wow! I am going through this as well, I am 27 years old and at times I feel like I am still this insecure, shy girl who wants people to like her. I am working on living myself more but I keep asking myself 'but will do and so like me this way?' Ive slowly been realizing that the confidence and answers in regards to me all come from me sounds quite simple when u think about it but now a days there is a lot of group think and everyone seems to feel the need to let u know how you should act and live your life. I plan on freeing myself from myself and stop letting people have reign over my emotions and my life!!
Wow! I am going through this as well, I am 27 years old and at times I feel like I am still this insecure, shy girl who wants people to like her. I am working on living myself more but I keep asking myself 'but will do and so like me this way?' Ive slowly been realizing that the confidence and answers in regards to me all come from me sounds quite simple when u think about it but now a days there is a lot of group think and everyone seems to feel the need to let u know how you should act and live your life. I plan on freeing myself from myself and stop letting people have reign over my emotions and my life!!
This is right on time! I am going through it right now…. Thank YOU!!!