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6 Reminders for Bad Days

By January 27th, 202123 Comments
6 Reminders for Bad Days

It doesn’t have to be hard.  It’s okay if it’s easy.
Where did so many of us get the idea that if we are too happy, something
terrible is going to happen? We can’t enjoy ourselves, can’t let our
guard down because we think that being hyper-vigilant will protect us. We
can’t ward off disaster by not being too happy. As the great
philosopher Epictetus reminds us, “When considering the future, remember
that all situations unfold as they do regardless of how we feel about
them.” We can exercise caution and care, we can plan and scheme, but to a
great extent, life unfolds on a grander scale than all of our scheming.
Worry will do nothing to change the outcome.

Problems are really opportunities in disguise.
When it comes to problems, you must use what you learn to inform your
future decisions.  Expect and focus on the best that life has to offer
while understanding that it’s often the setbacks in life that make the
very best things possible.   Eliminate confining thoughts about who you
are, what you can do, and how fast you must learn to do it.

You are not a punching bag.
Don’t allow factors outside of your control to drain your energy and
distract you from all the blessings in your life. Let go and focus more
energy on love and abundance. It’s your choice. Instead of blaming
whatever that irritant is for being what it is and waiting for it to
change, you choose to be the change. Take back control of your attitude
and your peace of mind.

Don’t take your life for granted.
Most human beings have an almost infinite capacity for taking things for
granted. Stop looking for what’s wrong and look for what’s right. You
might think that things could be better. But they could also be worse.
There are many people in the world who would gladly trade places with
you. “He is a wise man who does not grieve for the things which he has
not, but rejoices for those which he has.” (Another simple, profound
quote from Epictetus)

Be your own best friend.
Say positive things to yourself. Don’t beat yourself up. It’s important
to tell yourself you are beautiful and see yourself with loving eyes. No
matter how hectic things get, make time for the things you love.  Don’t
neglect yourself.  Know when it’s time to let go and make room for
what’s next. The hard times are necessary to get to the good, so don’t
flee from yourself when the going gets rough.

Just Breathe.
Action is not always the answer. Be still, pray and reconnect with your inner guide.  Have faith.

How do you get through bad days?

CN Says:


  • naytural says:

    This advice was what I needed. I was curious so I clicked on this and it hit the nail right on the head. I needed a pick me up and this def. did it. Something that stuck out in my mind was "stop looking for what's wrong and look for what's right." I couldn't have said it any better.

  • Karemel says:

    I had a horrible day today. This was just what I needed. Thank you. God bless you.

  • Jamila Williams says:

    I really enjoyed reading this. When i am having bad days I talk to the lord and ask him for strength and, i think of all i have and how fortunate i am; i woke this morning i have a job and home to come back to after work, i may not have a lot to some, but to me its a fortune and i am truly blessed!!

  • beautiful39 says:

    On my bad hair days i simply take a deep breath and close my eyes.Selftht meditate for a couple of minutes. I then open my eyes and i feel better.i have alot more patience with finding an updo for the day.

  • Stephanie says:

    This is such an awesome word! Thank you for the encouragement!

  • Jessica H says:

    Good read. My bad hair days lead to exploration with scarfs & hat, also protective styling. I know some days "nothing seems to work", I just try to remember it is only temporary.

  • Shayla Smith says:

    Prayer and Christian music both gospel and Christian alternative. Love it keeps me going. That and to just look at all my blessing and my happy healthy smiling babies. I like the statement that problems are just opportunities in disguise! Well written! This was right on time!

  • Megan Montgomery says:

    I take a deep breath and pray, listen to music or clean I have OCD anyways with cleaning…I also excersise as well.

    Megan Montgomery

  • Home Daycare says:

    Indeed. I was thinking the same thing!

  • Gaye Glasspie says:

    This was right on time a

  • Pecancurls says:

    If my boys are around I listen to their laughter as they play. If they are not around, I pull up a picture of the three of them (hubby is included because he can be a big kid at times too :) )

  • Anonymous says:

    I go back to the bible. Read Romans 12.
    I also paraphrase what a comedian said about haters, "it's their job to hate". Haters hate your blessings, haters hate your accomplishments. Haters scornfully look at you while you're sitting in the middle of all your blessings like you've done something wrong. If you aren't doing something right and wonderful, then there's nothing for haters to "hate" on. One should make it one's goal to have 5 more haters by the end of the year.

  • Nikell says:

    Great post.I love what BnNappy said! I battle bad days with my Bible as well. It seems when I give the first part of my day to God, the rest of the day is smooth sailin' (^_^)

  • Brooke B. says:

    I deal with bad days with prayer & exercising

  • keisha billups says:

    Very good message. We all need a pick me up sometimes. I get through rough days by praying,listening to music, talking to a friend. Talking to GOD or listening to gospel music clears my mind and makes me realize things could be much worse. Going to church on Sundays and hearing the word gives me the strength to make it through.

  • hunnybun says:

    I think the trick is to make a concerted effort to be happy and just smile. Too often we focus on the negative and find ourselves worrying about things we cant change. Life can be a PMSing bleep but I've learnt to make sure that nothing and no one is able to steal my joy.

  • Hilary B. says:

    "problems are really opportunities" love this. I deal with bad days by online shopping, lol

  • Erika A. says:

    I really needed this today :) Thanks for the reminders. When I'm having a bad day I remember some things are out of my control & I breathe. I remember to be grateful for the good things in my life. Exercise and meditation help as well.

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  • CurvyCurly says:

    Accept that some things are out of your control…period. Try to look at the situation from a different perspective and then strive to make it work out for the better if possible.
    Battle bad days with 10 minutes of breathing and thanking GOD for at least 10 things that ARE good. This always uplifts my spirits.
    A glass of wine and a good book to distract my thoughts works well also ;-)

  • Dr Mermaid says:

    I needed this, especially the part of being afraid that something is going to happen if I'm feeling happy. Why shouldn't I enjoy happiness, why should I let it be overshadowed with paranoid thinking about some unknowable, impending disaster? It is so hard to change your thinking but just trying to live in the present does so much to ease my overactive thoughts. It is work though

  • BnNappy says:

    This was good stuff. I battle my bad days with my bible. Usually on my worse days I realize I've not spoken with God or heard from Him thru the word. Breatheeeeee – such good advice. Before I speak in an angry situation – I breathe. It helps. Thanks.

  • Abstract says:

    So on time. Great reminders :) Thanks for posting!

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