What drives you more — needs or wants? Are you more likely to make
decisions based on what you think is best for you in the long run or
what will satisfy you most in the moment? The uncertainty of life
requires that we find some kind of balance between these two concepts.
the one hand, tomorrow is not promised and we don’t want to constantly
deny ourselves of things that bring us pleasure. On the other hand,
living in a reality of complete indulgence and immediate gratification
is chaotic at best, isn’t it?
I went through a period in my life where I was constantly in crisis.
My decisions were all based on what I felt would make me feel best in
the moment. During that time, I was insecure, impressionable, and
disconnected from myself. I didn’t admit it to myself at the time, but I
now know that I didn’t believe I had a future worth protecting. I
didn’t believe in myself and my faith was weak, so the decisions I made
for my life reflected that.
I’m certainly not in that place
anymore, but I can still see it clearly in my rearview. In many ways,
I’m still paying for the choices I made back then. I haven’t gotten rid
of the regret yet (perhaps I never will), but I dwell on it less and
less. What about you? Are you a recovering chaos junkie like me? Or
maybe you’ve always played it safe and now you don’t know how to indulge
yourself. Most of us can relate in some way to both of these
Have you ever thought about this concept of needs and wants and how
your approach to it has shaped your life? It’s worth some
self-reflection. Whether we realize it or not, our tendency to lean
towards one or the other often causes regret and dissatisfaction in our
lives. We wonder, what if I’d done things differently? What if I’d
been more responsible? What if I’d married the wild one instead of the
stable one? What if I’d taken that job overseas? What if I’d done the
unthinkable instead of the expected? What if I’d saved and planned for
the future instead of living outside of my means?
can drive ourselves crazy with the what if’s. Or, we can sit back and
observe our decisions without judging them as right or wrong. What
we’ve done, what we haven’t done — it’s just our path. We don’t always
do or even know what’s best for us. Our hearts and minds disagree more
often than not and yet they must coexist. We always have the option to
change the way we do things if it’s not working so just keep doing the
best you can to seek balance and leave the regrets behind.
is co-authored by Kim Jackson and GG Renee with the intention of
connecting with women through messages of self-love and personal
freedom. We believe that true beauty starts on the inside and radiates
outward, so maintaining emotional health and balance should be an
essential part of every woman’s beauty regimen. We use this platform
as an opportunity to share our personal experiences, and to help other
women who are seeking guidance to find their own truths and live