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Tanesha- A Natural Wedding Story

By January 27th, 202122 Comments
Tanesha- A Natural Wedding Story
 
 
 
Hey Nikki,
 
I decided to contribute to this
segment because I remember the trauma I went through trying
to find styles for my newly natural hair.

We
got married on July 23rd 2011, at a beautiful location in Montego Bay,
Jamaica- “The Wharf House”. I definitely wanted a laid back beach-y
rustic feel as this is the kind of couple we are. It was a beautiful day
and in the end, I loved everything about it.
The
hair is an unusual story.  I started my journey on November 7th 2009. This was the day of my last relaxer and I Big Chopped in March 2011.  What
led to this Big Chop only 4 months before my wedding day, was an odd revelation. 
The original plan was to flat iron my new growth, so that I would then have long flowing
hair for my wedding day (my hair, at the time, was past bra strap length). Things didn’t quite work out that way. 
One
day I mentioned jokingly to Hubby that I was going to Big Chop right
before the wedding and he looked as if he was hit by a truck, almost
devastated. “You cant do that!” he said, “What then are you going to do with your
hair?”. It was at that point that I had a revelation… how can I get my
husband to love my hair if he has never seen it?
How could I expect him
to love it if the message I was sending was the opposite?
I didn’t want
him to get married to one person and to wake up to another after the Big Chopped.  I had to do it, I had to Big Chop.
After
I BC’ed it was really difficult trying to find a hairstyle,
I didn’t have a plan, I was lost. I then thought that I would do what I
usually did. So I placed my hair in a low set chignon on a freshly done
braid out ( fake hair was added to bun to add some body to it). The veil
belongs to my mom, it’s over 30 years old (the borrowed item) and the head
band was made of genuine swarvoski crystals. The headband was an attempt
to fight any frizz which was bound to happen in this humid weather.
Most of my other sisters are natural, the pictures were beautiful, the
day was beautiful, the natural hair was beautiful!
Tanesha- A Natural Wedding Story
I
really hope that all those ladies out there who are hesitating to Big Chop or wear their natural hair because of fear or uncertainty, will
realize that they will look amazing, more so because natural hair is the
hair we were blessed with… especially the Brides to Be out there.  Think to yourself “How do I want to be
remembered on my wedding day?”.
Please visit my facebook page and “like” it as we continue to provide inspiration for all those lovely naturals out there. Muah!
Tanesha- A Natural Wedding Story
Tanesha- A Natural Wedding Story

22 Comments

  • aprilw says:

    Tanesha looks absolutely amazing as well as her whole bridal party. She looks like a model if I didn't know any better I'd think the last pic was part of a bridal ad!!! I truly thank her for contributing this article along with her amazing pics because I need different natural styles for the big day=). My future hubby prefers my natural hair but I'm scared to death of a bad hair day on my big day=/ thxs in advance

  • Derika says:

    Wow! I LOVE your hair! You can't even tell you added the ponytail!

  • Dr Mermaid says:

    Thanks for replying and Blessings on your union!

  • Megan M. says:

    Beautiful! I want to wear my hair natural when I get married someday, but I would not know how to style it because I wear twist n curls and when they get old I will do an updo on them.

  • Shashou says:

    It's good to hear stories like this. Very encouraging for those who hadn't taken that leap of faith yet. And good for those already on the journey.

  • Cotton Natural Curls says:

    Thanks guys for all the wonderful comments and compliments, they are much appreciated. Thanks also to Curly Nikki as well, muah! muah! lovelies!

  • Cotton Natural Curls says:

    It was actually Dean Clarke, awesome photographer check him out on facebook

  • Cotton Natural Curls says:

    Actually I am a twin, the young lady in the blue is my identical twin.

  • Britt says:

    I don't think anyone should do anything drastic to their hair immediately before a big event. I'm glad it worked out for her and she looked lovely.

  • Dilane Mitchell says:

    What a gorgeous wedding! Tanesha, you clearly made the right decision.

  • Rayna says:

    Your pictures are absolutely gorgeous as are you! Congratulations to you both!

  • barbaranaturallyspeaking says:

    Beautiful!

  • sherry @ curlyremix.com says:

    Oh my word! So cute! Love it all. Very classic and elegant!

  • CurvyCurly says:

    I was thinking the same thing. Serious genes

  • mothereartha says:

    STUNNING!!!
    and there must be twins/triplets in that group of sisters…
    BEAUTIFUL wedding

  • Natural83 says:

    Tanesha, you looked GORG!!!! #Werk

  • Davina916 says:

    Great story!

  • Dr Mermaid says:

    Gorgeous photos. May I ask who did them? Ryan Lue-Clarke/Kayon Doctor/Duane Whittaker?

  • CurvyCurly says:

    I'm in awe! These photos are so beautiful they should be featured in a magazine. Tanesha you are sooo beautiful, what a wonderful bride, and you and your new hubby look adorable together. Not to mention your family is just as gorgeous as you. I'm glad you weighed all of your options and then made the best decision for you and your big day.
    Again, Beautiful bride, Beautiful couple, and amazing pics!

  • Hairme says:

    You looked unbelievable! So true how can we expect someone to love something that we don't? The picture on the dock, work it girl!

  • Jillian says:

    What a gorgeous couple! Yet another natural bride for me to aspire too. Y'all have made me change my original plan of flat ironing my tresses for the big day! Hubs-to-be requested it since I rarely straighten my hair, and since this is his only request throughout this whole process I saw no problem in honoring that request. However, after seeing natural bride after natural bride I found the loop hole in his request. See he specifically asked to have/see length. Now I am in search of the ultimate twist/braid/bantu knot out or curly fro that can hang and swang! Thanks for all the inspiration ladies!!

  • Miss Anne says:

    Tanesha, you looked soooo gorgeous ! And hopefully, I won't be scared to BC when the time comes. I plan to do it before my 31st birthday, I would have had a good amount of new growth then and it will be marking the journey of my 30th year.

    Awesome post Nikki!

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