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When ‘Keeping It Real’ Goes Wrong…

By January 27th, 2021No Comments

When 'Keeping It Real' Goes Wrong...

Brittney writes:

I am an avid reader of the CurlyNikki website and I love it so much. This website has literally been my go to since December of 2010 when I Big Chopped (pictured above). I have a major dilemma. I love my mother to death.  She goes above and beyond to provide a wonderful life for my sisters and me. However, as a 21 year old natural on an all White campus, it’s really heartbreaking that I get made fun of at home about my natural hair by my own mother. I mean, I have never once in my two years, heard a compliment from her. Instead, it’s constant jokes and nagging from not only her, but my aunts and uncles. I already get strange looks and jokes from Whites and Blacks a like at this racist university. But DAYUMMMM, do I have to hear it from my own mother? It even got so bad to the point where on the happiest day of my life, after pledging a sorority (that my mother begged me to join and follow in her legacy, even though I really don’t need anymore sisters), my mother said to me, “I hope you’re gonna put a perm in that head of yours for the probate”. -__-… I literally wanted to jump on her and choke her! Okay, okay, maybe that’s too far, but how would you feel if every time you see your mother, she has something negative to say about your hair? It’s incredibly frustrating. I’ve heard it all, from Macy Gray jokes, to Harriet Tubman. I even had to curse out one aunt for her jokes (I’m grown now, anybody can get cursed out!) Help me, y’all.  What advice do you have for someone like me. There jokes are starting to impact my confidence and how I feel about my hair. I was happy to be nappy at first, but dang… a compliment from my own mother every once in awhile would be nice! Please help, before I end up letting my mother have it and end up being tossed out by the fro! Lol! I’m sharing a few pics of my hair- my big chop, a bantu knot out and a updo fro… Is it that bad?

When 'Keeping It Real' Goes Wrong...When 'Keeping It Real' Goes Wrong...

Help her out!

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