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Share Your Natural Hair Compliments!

By January 27th, 2021488 Comments

Share Your Natural Hair Compliments!
We all get them…and usually when we least expect it! While walking out of the grocery store, primping in the ladies room, or ordering a drink at the bar, you’ve most certainly been stopped and told how amazingly awesome your natural curls are.  Besides putting some pep in your step, it confirms that all of your time, energy, and moola spent, has been well worth it!

So dish! Share your favorite compliments…


  • Anonymous says:

    I have 3 year old locs that I love to wear in braid-outs. I was standing in line at CVS sporting a pink eye from my latest bout of conjunctivitis. The cashier, a man in his 40s or 50s looked at me and said, "I hope your husband tells you how beautiful your hair is. I love natural beauty." Made my day and even made me forget all about my pink eye for a moment.

  • Anonymous says:

    im still accepting it but i love it nether the less. i hv braids in my hair but i'm afraid of it due to the pulling of the hair and so forth. how do i get my corners florishing again? p's ghercs

  • Tonia says:

    I wrote a post in November 2010 when I was transitioning. This is my post as a natural 7 mos. post BC. I have worn wigs from December 2010 until June 2011 and have taken the summer to really practice styling techniques.This meant that most people have not seen my natural hair.I had my hair in twists since July 2 and took them out yesterday. I attended a family reunion cookout and 2 parties and I was TRULY overwhelmed with the postive response my hair got. My husband's best friend and I got into a heated debate about natural hair last year(he did not like it) and even he complimented my hair. Please know that I am not gassing myself….the positive feedback I recieved yesterday helps to let me know that I am heading in the right direction. I felt so empowered and sexy….wish I had done it sooner!!!

  • Chelz says:

    This actually just happened to me the other day so I'm glad I have this opportunity to share.

    I was stopping by my mom's house (a former natural of about 2 1/2 years who relaxed again but is inspired by me to try and avoid the creamy crack)…I was pulling up just as a little girl of about 4 and her mom were. We got out of the car at the same time and the little girl kept looking back at me. I was looking at her too, loving her natural (type 3) curls that were a gorgeous sandy blonde/brown mix.

    As we neared the stairs, the mom and daughter both turned to me and the mom said 'My daughter says there's a lady behind me that has curly hair just like us! She's excited!' and smiles. My heart nearly burst. I told her thank you and said that both her and her daughter have beautiful hair. The little girl smiles at me and says 'Your hair is beautiful too!'

    My face almost cracked, I was smiling so hard! Never took a compliment to heart like that before. And to have a CHILD say it with such honesty and admiration…I was amazed. (Note…my hair was in a braid-out puff held with a goody band after being in about 8 big plaits hidden under a scarf for at least 6 straight days and finally being released that morning. And I have pretty 'typical' type 4b hair that takes to braid outs VERY well so to be so openly embraced for what is commonly known as 'bad' or 'nappy' hair by a child was truly a gift for me, if that makes sense) Happy Hair Days ladies!! πŸ˜‰

  • MoonB says:

    ooh hair commentsβ™₯

    Lately I have had people coming up to me on the job asking me how I did my hair, or asking me for tips on how I got it like that from other naturals =). Than I have lil kids telling me they love my hair too!!I really feel honored when I get compliments or asked about my hair since I still feel like a noob to my hair(even though its going to be 2years since I been natural in September)
    Not trying to kiss ass here, but I do owe it all to you Nikki, as well as other naturals who inpsire me show other girls that being natural is beautiful!!

    And yesterday my boyfriend said he loved my hairβ™₯β™₯

  • Anonymous says:

    I have two…I was sitting having lunch with a white female colleague outside of a cafe, when I looked up, i saw a white guy leaning out the window on the drivers side of his van (he was at the lights) anyway he shouted out the window that he had just driven back around the block as he wanted to tell me how nice he thought my hair was… second compliment was from a little girl that I pass every morning on the street on he way to school. She usually has her natural hair braided. Anyway as she was passing me and I smile at her like I usually do, she tells me you're beautiful.. how cute is that!! it really made my day.

  • Anonymous says:

    One of my biggest/best compliments happened while on vacation with my 3 nieces, two of which have perms. The youngest one without a perm had her hair pressed straight. They went swimming on day 2 and I had the forethought to braid it beforehand (curly girls with long and thick hair know why). After swimming she rinsed her hair out and let it dry. The next day when I took the braids down she said "I'm glad my hair got wet because now it's pretty like Auntie's". Nothing makes you feel as good as the honesty and adoration of a child.

  • Jay says:

    My VERY CUTE Indian guy friend on saw my natural hair for the first time and said, "My, you cut it short… it looks very sharp! I like it!" He always makes it a point to touch it when he sees me.
    I want to marry him, lol!

  • Anonymous says:

    In Tunisia when i went shopping i got a compliment. I guy who sold me some shoes complimented on how soft my hair was and it was nice. Also another guy there i made freinds with complimented it and said it was soft. πŸ™‚ Also in the Canarias a woman complimented on it, but actually now i think about it many people have complimented on it. Even the days i aint feeling it.

  • Anonymous says:

    (Long time reader, first time commenter, lol)
    Well, last weekend, some friends I were hanging out, just chillin. When we were getting ready to part ways, one of my guy friends (he's white) put his hand in my hair, and played with some of my curls. It was so random and quick, but made me feel good. That day, I had been running around, doing errands, and it was humid. I thought my hair looked crazy, too crazy to touch. Also, my other guy friends were coming up with nicknames for our friends, one of mine was "chocolate curls". Those guys surprise me a lot with how attentive they are to my hair, by commenting on a new style or playing with my curls. I think some have the hand-in-hair syndrome lol.

  • Ashley says:

    Oh my gosh, I get compliments from everyone! Younger girls are like I love your big curly hair. It's so wild and free! I also get compliments from people with naturally straight hair and I love the compliments that I get from my guy friends. They love, love natural hair and I appreciate that I have friends like them.

  • Anonymous says:

    This past May, I'd spontaneously decided to wear a fro to the last few weeks of (college) class; I picked it out into the biggest, fiercest thing I possibly could, and when I'd stopped to eat at the cafeteria, another college natural approached me to say, "I've never seen you wear your hair out like that before–it looks so thick and healthy and beautiful, and I just wanted to tell you that."

    I was BEAMING–natural hair compliments from fellow naturals are the best!

  • Joanna says:

    I went to my alma mater's graduation last month and it was the first time seeing most of my old teachers since my big chop. My former student government advisor loved it! She said it was the cutest style and it made me look so grown up. A week later, during dinner at leadership camp, she saw my hair covered in a bonnet (I'd straightened it for camp just so I wouldn't have the hassle of daily styling and to make it easy to wear my junior counselor hat) and asked why I was covering my hair. I told her I'd straightened it and she was so furious with me for straightening my "beautiful kinky curls." Haha. With the South Florida heat, I was more than happy to let it curl again.

  • Anonymous says:

    I ran into this girl on campus recently, we had a class together about 2 yrs ago. She was natural and had recently big chopped. She remembered me from class and told me I was one of the reasons she went natural because she liked the way I wore my hair when we were in that class. I remember her asking me questions about my hair back then but I didn't think much of it. I was flattered to say the least.

  • Anonymous says:

    A woman at the nail salon kept looking at me then finally said: Do I know you? I am sure I know this unique hair.


  • Anonymous says:

    Well I have gotten quite a few. First one was this little old lady at the commisary (military grocery store) she just couldn't stop saying how cute my fresh twist out was and was so glad to see women embrace there natural hair(she was white)"its so lovely" were her words. The next one was some random man at walmat, now only man that really appreciates my natural hair ever since i started is my husband. I really dont expect men to compliment my hair. Any way I passsed him like 3 times in the store older black man first time we did the head nod LOL, the third time he just came out and said I'm digging your style the dress the shoes and man the hair loving it. The last ones are co workers at the school I work at. The counseler she awesome with the kids just have to say it, asked to touch my hair that all year she wanted to but thought she would offend me if she asked. of course I have no problem with that she was surprised that it was springy and then added she loves my hair an all that I do to it and how it seems to be free. She was also surprised which many people are how long it actually is , it shrinks alot. Every day I see her its "oh I just Love your hair" Most of my other coworkes are the same, there mostly white and here in SD Ca. it is rare to see a natural we're few and far between. In the land of weaves, wigs and perms(not knocking them cause some are feirce) We(naturals) stand out, so the few compliments I do get I savor and soak them up and pass them on to any natural I run into.

  • Anonymous says:

    I did my BC 9 years ago while away in college. Then I didn't know what a BC was, or even what it meant to be natural. I just stood in the dorm bathroom and chopped my hair off. I didn't even tell my family. It was short and thick. I didn't have any particular feelings about it.

    At semester end my brother and father came to help me move back home for the break. They took one look at my hair and loved it. My brother said, "don't ever perm your hair again." My dad looked me square in the eyes and said very seriously, "not even for a job. Don't straighten or perm it. This is how it's supposed to be." I just metled. LOL! If these men that I HIGHLY respect can love my hair surely I could. My confidence skyrocketed and their words that cold evening continue to sing in my head.

  • Alethequeen says:

    I think my favorite compliment would be the one that came from my 4 year old nephew. I'm still transitioning but during the beginning months I started experiementing with the different methods of styling my hair, one day while I was on leave from the military I decided to do a straw set (which came out fierce)so I asked my nephew how I looked. My nephew is always complimenting me anyways telling me how prwetty I look when I get dressed so I said do you like aunty's hair today or yesterday when it was straight he said "No I like the curls WWWWAAAYYYY better aunty, they make you look beautiful." (Tear). =)

  • Nicole says:

    469 comments!! I think that should be evidence that God really knows what He's doing, ladies. Anyway, I get compliments all the time, without fail. But I would say the compliment I will never forget is when I did this french roll all over my head. Didn't take long. I ran into a friend, Luciano. He's from Argentina so he's really affectionate. He asked to kiss my hair. I usually go with the flow (except now I don't let people touch it as much to prevent hair trouble such as breakage, frizz, etc.) so I said, "Sure."
    He kissed it and said, "Wow. It's like getting a hug from Jesus."
    Haha! =)

  • Anonymous says:

    I did my first braid out yesterday and my husband said he thought I looked really pretty. He said he thinks it's because I look relaxed and confident…Hubby compliments are the best compliments!

  • Anonymous says:

    I went to DC recently and we went to a lounge that had a lot of Asian inhabitants. At first I thought that the hair was too much but towards the end of the night, once the guys had ingested more alcohol, I started getting compliments. They loved natural hair and just needed to loosen up haha.

  • Jewell Marie says:

    Everyone thinks my hair is a wig, when it is strait or curly! Is that a compliment????

  • Anonymous says:

    i started growing my hairout and its cute and everyone says how its so pretty but when i lay on it it just smushes in and i have to wash it every morning until it gets back long!!! which sucks i can finnally puut it in a little pony tail now hahah im so baldheaded!!

  • Unknown says:

    i'm a high school student and image is really important to me ( i'm student council president and at my school, that's a huge huge deal.)
    anyways the day after my big chop (i'm so impatient i did it on a THURSDAY night!) on friday, in class my dude friend was just staring at me. (and let me tell you, when he got something to say, he just says it and not in a nice way.) he said: natural hair (i had been talking about it and he was like don't come here with a fro blah blah)fits you. and all the other dudes added and were like yea better than your permed hair. To add sugar on top, this dude that i was crushing on said : don't ever put a perm.
    i was soooo happy! that was like the happiest day. b/c i was like omgee how are people going to react from about 9 inches of hair to about 3inches!?? lol but yep i got compliments that whole day and still do. i love been natural <3
    plus i got other students to go natural and my mom is going natural too! πŸ™‚

  • Anonymous says:

    One of my compliments came from my baby brother, who just happens to be one of the biggest a**holes and most sarcastic people I know, told me one evening as I was doing my hair to go out with friends: "Sis you look beautiful. I really like your hair…you just…yea. You look good."

    Another one of my favorite compliments came from a guy I actually met the other night. We danced and as I was walking away he said "I really love your hair…while we were dancing I couldnt stop smelling it." It was great b/c my hair was not cooperating that night!

  • Anonymous says:

    I get a lot of compliments. My boyfriend is always amazed when folks stop me. But my favorite compliment once when I did a wash n go with KCCC – so my curls were really defined. I went to get my eyebrows threaded and the woman who was doing my eyebrows asked me if my hair was naturally that curly and I told her it was natural. She said it was a gift from God. I thought this was really interesting coming from an Indian woman because of all the Indian hair being sold in our communities.

  • Anonymous says:

    the best comment i recieved even though this may sound mad corny, is from myself
    to wake up every morning and be able to just say I am naturally beautiful is a blessing, im not cocky but i truly love my natural hair =] it makes me feel more beautiful more free than i ever did before and being able to tell myself im beautiful AND BELIEVE IT is the cherry on top πŸ™‚

  • Anonymous says:

    I wore my hair in a twist out at work today and my boss told that he really liked my hair and that I look very professional πŸ™‚

  • Anonymous says:

    Its really crazy (Def appreciative) but it happens to me almost weekly. I like one of the previous posts, its because I wash my hair 1/week. So I have to style it, I like to experiment with different styles – I envy PrettyDimples01 on youtube, I keep copying all her styles LOL.

  • Anonymous says:

    I got a "post dated" comment just today. I was at work today, and one of the facilties workers said how he'd been meaning to tell me how nice my hair looked natural, but hadn't had the chance. Interesting because he's an older Black man, and sometimes they can have the most interesting reactions. I think he may not have said anything, because I usually see him in the break room, when "other folks" are around. =)

  • Anonymous says:

    I was in Whole Foods trying to find my conditioner as I had run out while rinsing my henna. My hair was fresh out of the shower, no product no nothing just curls. This man,white guy in fact, stopped me and told me my hair was beauuuuuuuutiful and proceeded to follow me around the store. The following was a little creepy but the compliment was cool πŸ™‚

  • Baby Byrd says:

    Weird I know but a friend said " I like it when you where it un picked – when its not so even. Has a texture to it remends me of fluffy clouds and summer." I like fluffy hair so it was a sweet compliment to me.

  • shamigreen says:

    Easter morning I didn't feel like straightening my hair, so I just let the curls fly & slicked down my edges… At church a lady walked up to me and asked me if this was all my hair. I laughed & told her yeah. She responded that it was so full & thick that it looked like a wig. LOL

    *all smiles*

  • Anonymous says:

    The other day I went to happy hour with a few coworkers and one of my managers (with long, straight blonde hair) turned to me and said how much she loves my hair in it's natural state. When I first started working in pulic accounting I wore my hair straight, but she and her husband agreed that the natural look was more fitting for me.

    I also have another co-worker who constantly compliments my changing styles and admits that she envies my ability to change my look, lol (her hair is very straight and is not easily manipulated).

    Yay for the curlies!

  • Big Sister Nonie says:

    When my son was three, he told me "Mama, your afro's strong" πŸ™‚

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  • Long lost curls says:

    I swear I had the ultimate compliment of the century. One night I decided to put my hair in twist just so it doesnt knot up. Next day I go to work and decide that they are good enough to wear to work. So my boss calls me to her office and looks at my hair and says "Wow, I used to buy weave to look like your hair and here you have it growing out of your head." Aint that crazy. Then I go to get my lunch and this Indian guy is complementing me. Went sleep that night and it didnt look to hot the next day so I take it out and go to get my lunch at the same place as the day before and the same guy asked why I took my hair out. I was flabergasted. I didnt realise people would like it so much. I love compliments, they just make my day

  • Aabidah says:

    I'm Musliim so I don't show my hair but I wore my natural hair to a bridal shower and I had a wash and was only about 6 or 7 months after my BC and my hair was in that 'awkward stage'..still is
    they loved it, People kept saying your hair is so pretty..its so curly…it looks fits your face..I was really feeling good about myself that day and I wasnt even the bride!

  • Kenya says:

    One of my caucasian (lol) friends and I were talking one day and she interrupted the convo with "I love your hair, it's just so fluffy!" and with that she ran her hand over a 1-day braidout.. We both laughed and she asked if it was weird that she touched my hair without asking.. Usually I ABHOR when people do that, but I told her it was fine, just because her compliment was so sweet(:

  • Black Orchid says:

    I seem to get compliments when I need them most. This past weekend I was wedding dress shopping with one of my maids and venting about how much I am over my hair and how I have no clue what I'm doing with it for the wedding (getting married during the rainy season in the rainforest). I was going on and on when about 5 minutes later this older woman stopped me and told me how beautiful me hair was and asked what I did to maintain it. It made me so happy that I told her how I was just saying that I was "over" it. She reassured me that it was beautiful and how much it added to my beauty. I walked on clouds for the rest of the day.

  • Keisha says:

    I was in the grocery store a few days ago after a long, stressful day at work and when I got to the front of the line, the cashier gushed about my hair! It made my day! πŸ™‚ Those unexpected hair compliments have a way of making you feel absolutely wonderful!

    Let's Parlez: Love, Life, and the Pursuit of Healthy Hair

  • Anonymous says:

    The most unique compliment I've received about my hair was from a Caucasian girl. She approached me at the club while I was rockin' my signature curly fro. She said "OH MY GOD! You are sooo beautiful, seriously…I LOVE your hair! I want to have a daughter who looks just like you!" Needless to say, I was flattered…yet slightly caught off guard by her choice of words. = )

  • jaleesa says:

    I would have to say that my best comment was from my ex boyfriend because he always teased me about going natural and calling me names. One day when I was finger combing a twist out so that i could wash my hair he walks up behind me and said thats a good look for you. It really suites you. My hair was out in this afro and it really caught me off gaurd because I wasnt going for a look. It really felt good inside knowing that he actually likes my hair after all the times he use to tease me(until I put him in his place).

  • Anonymous says:

    I have 2. 1. My best friend was SUPER skeptical of me wearing my natural curls but this past week I flat ironed my hair and just WHAT came out of his mouth? "Wear are your curls?" men. 2. The first time my granny saw my curls she said I looked like a witch. Well the last time I went home she didn't say anything (good nor bad). And if you knew my granny you would that this is a GREAT thing! This means she's halfway to the point of saying something nice;-) lol

  • Anonymous says:

    My first compliment came in at the best time ever. I had just done the BC and I was having a hard time recognizing myself in the mirror. So I wasn't really feeling myself and then one day I went out and this guy comes up to me and starts talking to me and all, he tells me that what attracted him to come talk to me was my hair. I was so happy after that, and definitely started seeing myself in the mirror πŸ™‚

  • Lisa says:

    I have 2 favs….1.) A guy walked up and shook my boyfriend's hand and told him that he really had SOMETHING. I loved it because I had just gotten a fresh cut at the barber shop so I rlly had no hair. 2.) My friend told me today…I mean you told me your hair was breaking, but… it looks healthy! πŸ™‚

  • Curly Purrly says:

    Last weekend I was at a coffee shop with some friends and i had been on like a 5 day old twist out and my friend looks at me and goes DANG! your hair is ferocious, because it was so big that day. She probably meant it as a diss, I passed on that and took it as compliment! Shoot, I love big hair!

  • SashaB. says:

    I actually just had this amazing moment with a complete stranger the other day & it all started with a compliment about my hair!

    I was roaming around Target w/ my mom, when this unassuming white guy pops out of (seemingly) nowhere and says, "Excuse me, you have beautiful hair. It's amazing!" Well, I was flattered of course and told him thank you. He told me that he's constantly stopping women w/ natural hair so that he can get tips because he & his wife had JUST adopted a little girl from Ethiopia, last December. And ladies, you know I had to tell him EVERYTHING, including how to make his way to & navigate over to the 'kids' tab!

    He showed us a picture of his daughter Ella, (whose birth name I can't remember [they kept her original, Ethiopian name which I remember he said meant 'grace') and let me just tell you–> they are doing a DAMN good job with that little girl's hair! I was so proud of him, I wanted to pat him on the back! lol He & his wife are really striving to make it so that she grows up proud and confident with her own hair. He asked me a few questions, like why did I go natural and the whole enchilada. And he went on to tell us that they would be going back to Ethiopia this summer to start the adoption process for a SISTER for Ella! Isn't that amazing.

    THAT is thee best compliment I've received thus (and by) far.

  • Anonymous says:

    I was walking up the stairs at the subway station during a very frustrating ride home yesterday and I was really pissed off when this guy who was going up the stairs with me said something along the lines of "I just wanted to tell you that you are beautiful". It was a pleasant surprise since at that point I was only 5 days post BC.

  • Jossbella says:

    I have had a bantu knot out for about four days and it's getting frizzy. Been getting compliments and I think it looks a mess.

  • Anonymous says:

    I was at the outlets shopping with a girlfriend and we walked into the Coach store and one of the sales ladies said " I love your hair style". I was sporting my chunky twist-n-curl that I thought looked absolutely frizzy. And another guy at a kiask from Israel said I love your hair. I felt awesome! I floated away πŸ™‚

  • Anonymous says:

    Hmm, mine was just a few weeks ago (it was 1 month after my BC). I'm deaf and was making a videophone call, and the interpreter/operator, who was a white lady said OMG your hair is so pretty I love it! That totally made my day! πŸ˜€

  • Unknown says:

    I have received many different compliments from different people in the short two months since I did the BC. The one that I found the most interesting was a friend of mine that doesn't quite understand why I cut off all of my straight hair, she doesn't understand the process I would go through in order to get the hair straight…we'll call her C. My hair has grown from about a half an inch to two inches long (yes I am too excited about this growth
    πŸ˜€ ) I had picked my hair out a bit one day and wore it like that to work, I walked into C's office and she was like "wow, you're hair is getting big" I was like heck yeah my hair is getting big, lol.

  • Anonymous says:

    One of the best compliments I've gotten recently came from a friend of mine who hadn't been particularly fond of my hair since i'd bc'd. We were eating dinner and he paused in the middle of a sentence. When I asked him why he paused, he said, "What's in your hair?" Confused, I asked if there was lint in it or something, and he replied, "No – I just never noticed how curly it is. It looks really pretty." I had just done a wash and go that day, so I was really flattered πŸ™‚

  • april says:

    This guy who I never knew had a crush on me until he told me, told me that he liked my hair, which was a shea butter application on wet hair over the summer. He was locd up himself and his interest in my regimen was very flattering.

  • Anonymous says:

    My first wash n go and Bantu knots received many many compliments from my co workers. Both African American and Caucasian.

  • LisaSmiles11 says:

    I LOVE the stories! I have been natural for 5 years now and I have 3b/3a hair. I'm extremely critical of my hair because it's "all over the place." The only hair style I can manage is a bun but I had to stop that style because my hair has been breaking. So, I've tried dozens of hair experiments and I think they always look a fool mess. At any rate, I ran two ladies that are cousins with one of my coworkers. They both said how they loved my hair and it was always cute. I about died. Clearly, I think my hair looks like a rat's nest most of the time! Especially in my trial and error phase. But, it felt really nice to get the compliments.

  • Brittany says:

    The older a style gets, the more compliments I get on it, I never understood that. Then I though about it, the older my style, the more likely my curls are doing their natural thing, twisting and wrapping the way that they were intended therefore, looking better. I love the compliments because they are usually followed with, "How can I become natural too!" I do many updos as protective styles because they are so easy to manage and now in St Louis the cold has become harsh on my hair so I keep it braided up into an updo and recieve many compliments. They always encourage me.

  • Kitty says:

    I get a lot of compliments, thank God. I always get complimented on how soft my hair is. And how its styled-cute! Even the Dominican ladies at my Mami's salon said my hair is beautiful and I don't need a relaxer! *joy*

    My fiancee loves my 'fro to bits! He loves to touch it and loves the styles I put it in. I love being fluffy! ^_^ My girlfriend also love touching it too and always comment on the softness.

    People even loved my BC! I've been told I look very beautiful with super short hair. πŸ™‚

    I'm so glad to be surrounded by so much positivity! <3

  • Unknown says:

    the best compliment ive gotten was from a male customer at work…it was early i was tired n rockin a puff and right befor he walked away he stopped turned and said i love your hair by the way…most men i kno dont lik natural hair but he LOVED mines…this proves that they are out there…he made my day the only time men compliment my hair is when its full of silky straight weave

  • ChardaeD says:

    This wasn't verbal, but the first time this has ever happened to me, and I took it as a positive: I met this gorgeous MBA student from Copenhagen, and he kept running his hands through my twist out. That's compliment enough to me because my ex-boyfriend of 2 years NEVER put his hands in my hair. The new guy liked it so much, he had to touch it!

  • Amber says:

    The first time I got my BC, I went to the mall right after to treat myself to some earrings. This guy came up to me with a big, joyful smile and said, "Girl, you look fierce!"

    Recently, I had my righteous afro all picked out and one of my Korean friends said, "When you cut your hair, save it all and give it to me, so I can sew it in on top of mine. I've always wanted hair like that." I laughed when I thought of how many black girls had to have come up to her saying the exact same thing.

  • Kreole Kinks says:

    I've been natural for 6 months ( relaxer free for 13 months) and ever since I BC'd I've been wearing my hair out majority of the time. I wasn't too comfortable at first, but I got the hang of it. I mostly wear twists, twist n curls, or twist outs. The ladies at my church (mostly relaxed, and about 5 of us are natural) are just in awe!They really prefer my hair natural than when I was relaxed. Even one of the praise singers was like" I love your hair Mika!! It's so nice and thick, I'mma go natural too!!" I was like thanks!! With a big smile on my face!! πŸ™‚

  • Lisa says:

    I have been doing my own hair since I decided not to press it anymore and had my hair in a two strand and flat twist updo for the Christmas holidays. I was invited to dinner by a friend who wanted to know where I had gotten my hair done. She thought my hair and the style was beautiful and had assumed I had it done professionally.

  • Bren says:

    so my boyfriends mom is high maintenance and is very in to appearance. she has natural hair but always wears it flat ironed. I'm only 7moths post bc so my tight coils are still in the twa stage. she hadn't seen my hair in its natural state and even though i love it I was nervous to see what she thought. well she loved it!! I got compliment after compliment. she love how it showed off my features and showed off my make up. we were never really close but after i showed of my look she pulled out her make up kit and we started playing in her makeup and getting dolled up just because. who knew my natural hair would create a new bond for us.

  • LaTiaChantal says:

    My best compliment was when I went back home this past Christmas. I was leaving the dollar store and this lady looked at me. Before I could walk out the door she stopped me and asked, "where did I get my hair from?" I told her that it was mine and that's how it grows out of my scalp! *i was wearing a chunky twist out in a puff by the way* She said she's been looking for hair like mine and could only find the kind she had on that day.

    It just made my day and I had to rush home and tell my mom and call my friend! Just the thought of someone wanting and looking for something that I have naturally was exciting to me πŸ™‚

  • Anonymous says:

    I've been transitioning now for over a year but mostly wear straight weaves as a protective style. Recently I took my weave down and put in minitwists that I frenchbraided in the back, and wore my bangs in a twist out…a look that I didn't love, but figured would be manageable enough for the time being. I went to a hockey game where I saw a bunch of old family friends. One, (a white male that I never knew too well) gives me a hug and says, "You look great, I love your hair like this" πŸ™‚

  • Anonymous says:

    i love it when people notice the time i up in my hair. many people have told me your hair always looks cute, your always getting your hair done, ect. but what I am really doing is washing my hair every week and styling πŸ˜‰

  • Unknown says:

    I love all your stories ladies!

    So here's my latest, I was at a small company holiday party standing at the bar with 3 co-workers. One of them, a barbie-like female says toward me, "They are hot…" so I look to see who she's talking about and two Ken doll look alikes staring back at us. Eventually, they walk up to the bar to order drinks but say hello to us, then randomly out of nowhere one of them has his hand in my 2 day old twist out saying how soft it is like a pillow…the other asks to touch too. They say how beautiful it is. I instructed Ken #1 to make sure he asks to touch next time because he may get slapped. I too find that men of other races openly compliment natural hair far more than black men. I think it's interesting how natural hair can prompt so much amazement and awe.

  • Ms.Fenty says:

    I've been transitioning for 11 months and a girl at my new job walked up to me (on a not so great hair day, btw) and said she loved my hair and that I was her inspiration to try transitioning again. I was so flattered I didn't even know what to say

  • Anonymous says:

    i was at starbucks, barely rolled out of bed with my really rough lookin twist out. this (caucasian) man behind me strikes up a conversation… long story short we had lunch a few weeks later and he said he was drawn to me because of my hair. he said he just wanted to put his hands in it.

  • JuneEllieJ says:

    Well, at an event at my church, I noticed a lady on the other side of the church rocking a thick, super-fierce, untamed fro. I could NOT stop staring, both because of how great it looked and how unconcerned she was about rocking her fro at our conservative church. After the service I approached her as she was standing with her friend and said. "excuse me, but I just have to tell you that your hair is amazing!" Her face lit up and she smiled brilliantly and told me, "Thank you! That's funny because I was admiring yours too!" Since I am 9 months into my transition and have been doing…interesting…things to my hair, I was totally and pleasantly surprised. I told her I was transitioning, and she said, "Well, you're off to a good start! Keep it up!"


  • Anonymous says:

    came from an ex.. he said " I like what you've done with yourself..when can we get back know i have a thing for afro's"

    and I replied.."too bad I don't have a thing for ex's"


  • Anonymous says:

    I was in a doctor's office two weeks ago and was complimented by one of the nurses. It was 3 weeks post BC. The nurse said that I was a pretty girl and she wished that she could wear her hair like mine. That made me feel so good about my decision to go natural for the first time. πŸ™‚

  • Anonymous says:

    My greatest compliment came from my Dad. After years of relaxers, cuts, weaves and hearing from him how he "wishes I would just leave it (my hair) alone so it can be pretty like it used to be", it was welcomed. One day I was sitting at my parents' house and he looked over and said, "Your hair is getting thick again, just like it was when you were little." His hair dream for me was finally coming true!

  • Bitty Boss says:

    I was walking back to my car after a night of partying. These two thugged-out dudes gave me a once over as I was walking toward them. As I walked right in front of them, one of them uttered, "I looove your hair. I really do." Although he appeared to be of predominantly latino ancestry he had hair very similar to mine! (4a/b) We both exchanged goofy smiles, and I went on about my merry way.

  • Anonymous says:

    I was sitting on the steps of local Amtrak station and checking out the waist length dreadlocks of a young woman as she approached me. The young woman paused on the steps and said "I love your natural hair." Wow … just … wow!

  • c. janae says:

    This afternoon I had a staff meeting with all my co-workers to go over shifts. It was a chill setting so I had on sweatpants and a t-shirt, and my hair was in a puff from an old twist out with flat twists in the front. One of my co-workers out of nowhere said, "Camille, I always love your hair. It's so fun, I just love to see how different your hair is all the time!" That really made my day. Even when I think it looks simple and plain, other people find it to be very beautiful.

  • Anonymous says:

    My best friends mother on my facebook page, she said and I quote "you look exotic and beautiful, just lovely" Made my day.

  • AdriEm says:

    I got the strangest compliment on Friday when this guy was like elbow-deep in my afro and said 'Oh my god its, it's kind of like a loofah. I want to take a piece and just rub it over my body. Can I have a piece?!'
    I just thought it was hilarious

  • Anonymous says:

    My best compliments come from the little girls at the school i work at. They are adorable and most wear their hair curly and natural. I use a lot of flowers in my hair so that could be the reason but I'll take it.

    Another time was out shopping and i just started to go natural and i had a straw set, I was still on the fence if i should go through with growing my hair out. The clerks at this store i was in started to approach me and told me my whole look was way cute, again i was rockin my flower.

  • Anonymous says:

    I was at a party and this woman came up to me and said "You have great hair!" I said thank you, smiled, and started to walk away…and she stopped me and said "No really. No one has great hair. But you? YOU have great hair."


  • dajewel1982 says:

    that my twist out looks like a weave/wig lol

  • evelyn says:

    a guy friend of mine just looked at me, paused and said, "i like this natural thing on you. it's like you're saying 'i don't give a shit' but in a good way."

    and coming from a black college male hahaha that meant A LOT hahaha

  • Anz30 says:

    I was in the checkout line at Target one night. I had spent the entire day laying on my hair and did a quick finger fluff and threw a headband around it so that I could pick up some cold medicine. It certainly wasn't my most fabulous natural do, lol. But regardless as I'm standing there the white woman in front of me says "Your hair is just so pretty. I like when you all wear your hair natural, it really brings out each individual person's beauty. It really is gorgeous." I was so happy that someone of another race could appreciate why natural hair is so beautiful. She understands that it shows our individual beauty. I wish more of us would learn to appreciate our beauty. I thanked her, but wanted to say "wait til you see it on a fab day" πŸ™‚

  • Anonymous says:

    My favorite compliment came from a guy at my high school he said, and i quote, "You just brighten everyone's day with your afro" lol I couldn't stop smiling and laughing

  • Anonymous says:

    I was walking thru's Lowes today and this lady smiles and say's "that's so pretty". I look behind me to see what she's talking about and I say "what is?". She says "Your hair". πŸ™‚ I did my first set of fingers coils last week.

  • Anonymous says:

    Dee said,
    Last night I was in a store and I ran into the mother of one of my husbands friends. After speaking and hugging her she stepped back and said now where do I know you from (lol). I told her and she paused….looking at my hair and said what did you do to your hair? I explained I was natural….with her mouth open and eyes wide she said it's sooooooo pretty!!!! (She is a beautician and did my hair once). Needless to say she followed me around the store in disbelief(question after question). Oh and it was my first time wearing a puff! Gotta love it!!!!

  • Anonymous says:

    I was at the doctor's (unfortunately, a place I was visiting all too frequently at the time) and they said did you dye your hair. It looks so good and healthy.

    It was at the time that I discovered CN and other natural hair blogs and was finally using the right products for my hair. It was looking healthy and shiny and made me realize that I was moving in the right direction.

  • keesha says:

    I just came back from a week long training and one of the other participants mentioned at least 4 times how much she loves my hair. She's a strawberry-blonde white woman with bone straight hair and was fascinated by my pen spring coils and kinks. She was so incessant with talking about my hair by the time we got towards the end of the trip I was jokingly saying "yeah, I know" when she would complement my hair.

  • Camille says:

    Months ago I had my hair pressed for the first time in more than 10 years. People I worked with had never seen me with straight hair. Once I finally washed it and went back to my twist out (it only took 4 days, I had forgotten how to deal with straight hair, and remembered why I stopped pressing it), a co-worker told me she was glad to see my curls again, because they're more me!

    A couple of weeks ago, some guy followed me to the entrance of my job, and yelled "hey sista, I just had to tell you, I like your style." I was having a bad week, and that made things a bit better.

  • Anonymous says:

    I work at a retail store in NYC. Our cliets are typically older white women filled with botox and collagen. I BC'd about a month ago and love my new curlies! A fellow naturalle walked into the store and browsed some items. Her fro was so thick and pretty, I had to say something. I walked up to her and said, "I love your hair!" She grinned and said, "I love yours too." We exchanged knowing smiles and instantly shared a bond that reassured me of my journey. In that room filled with cosmetic extravagence, our natural simplicity stood out beautifully!

  • Stay says:

    just getting a text from my new hunny saying "natural beauty, how is your day" makes my day!

  • honeybrown1976 says:

    I was wearing my transitioning hair in a bun under a beret with some curly tendrils peeking out. Prior to leaving the house, my husband comes over to me, touches my hair, and says the following: "Your hair is puffy like your niece's (she's ten years old)". Also, he said that he wants to get me a new hooded dryer (my old one's broken) because he knows that I want to use it.

  • Jay-Jay says:

    My most recent on was yesterday at the grocery store. Of course there was lots of people shopping for thanksgiving and a lot of grocery workers stocking food. As I'm going through the buckets of Chitterlings and making sure I don't pick up some that were open. I hear a male and female grocery worker talking about me as they're stocking food near me. At first I thought they were saying how I was placing the buckets everywhere and they just stocked them but the woman was telling the guy that she loved my hair(braidout)and wanted her hair like that. The guy was telling her she couldn't get her hair like mine. So she said,"Excuse me, I love your hair. How do I get my hair like that?" So I told her. Then about 10 mins later I'm looking for cooking oil and a woman looked at me and took a double take. I thought she might of mistaken me for someone she knew but then saw I wasn't her. She slowly strolled down the aisle and said,"I love your hair, what did you do braid it and then unbraid it and let it go? I laughed and then told her how I achieved my hairstyle. She said,"oh o.k. I'm going to do that to my hair tonight."

  • Anonymous says:

    I was walking down the street and a girl came up to me and said,"I LOVE your hair can I touch it?" I was flattered so I let her πŸ™‚

  • Anonymous says:

    Okay…there is a lady in my building that will I generally see on the elevator or coffee shop (next to the bldg) and she will stop what she is doing to tell me she "loves my hair". She looks Italian and has beautiful hair dark flowing herself, so I take it as a real compliment. I just do a simple braid out, but it always put a peep in my step when I see her. Like a like confidence booster which is better than coffee.

  • SweetThang says:

    I wore two strand twists for the first time a couple of weeks ago and I received lots of positive comments.

  • BargainClipper says:

    It seems I get the most compliments when my hair is the dirtiest, wettest, and I'm in a "I'm-not-feeling-it" mood (LOL), but then I get, "Your hair is so shiny and dark!" Then, they want to touch it and I'm thinking, "It's WET, leave it alone 8-O!", but then they find out (LMBO), but I still get, "Your hair is so beautiful!". I just keep on "Kool-Aid" grinnin' :-D!

  • Ashanti says:

    I'm almost one year natural so I have been experimenting with new styles, sometimes daily. Since I'm a middle school teacher, of course the kids (urban kids) take note and often comment on each of my styles. I love that the black girls and the biracial girls are so fascinated with how I get my hair "to do that"!! I have been encouraging all of them to leave the creamy crack alone and one of them last year did!! And my hair is all of the 4a/b/c "type", so it rarely is tamed!!

  • Anonymous says:

    So today I wore my hair for the 1st time since I BC'd three weeks ago. I hated my BC which is why I put in braids for the three weeks. This guy i knew from high school was in town for my university's homecoming. We were playing catch up, and then he was like "you have gotten soo cute!" then he said it again "like you really look good!" I walked back in my apartment feeling sooooo good. Mind you my hair is only two inches long! I had doubts about even rocking today,but now im glad I did!

  • kitka82 says:

    The best compliment I've gotten came from my precious 3 year old babygirl, right after my BC. I was a little tense because I wasn't sure how my husband would react (which really doesn't matter because it's MY hair). When she saw me she gushed "MOMMYYYY!!! You look so PRETTY!!" I almost cried and gave her the biggest hug ever!

    Although babygirl has 3b/c hair and I have 4a/b hair, she is most of the reason I decided to go natural. I tell her all the time how beautiful she is, but really felt deep down that I (personally, just me) had to stop relaxing my hair in order to know how beautiful I am too and be a good example for her.

  • Anonymous says:

    "your hair so soft and shine it feels like a mink coat I wanna wear it" My friend was having trouble with dry hair so I told her what I use

  • dayday says:

    i get compliments everyday from customers at my workplace.. One of my favorite compliments was from this lil old white man who said to me, "i dont care what anybody says, i love ur hair!" awww, how sweet is that?!
    this other customer came in and she was like "look at my hair, i went natural because of you!" i barely remembered her hair b4, but to have someone go natural because they were inspired by lil' ol' me felt soo amazing!
    two lovely girls pretty much chased me down the sidewalk to tell me that they loved my hair and ask me what i did to it.. so adorable

    and the guys who play in my hair, wind the curls around their fingers and say how nice my hair smells and looks always make my day πŸ™‚

  • adure says:

    @ MeelaJE
    i am Nigerian and i want you to know that there are Natural sisters here.Yes we have had and still have issues bout our hair but i want you to know that its not just Nigerians but Africans in general. My friends in south Africa have the same problem.pple mock their decision to go natural but we encourage eachother. Importantly shows on T.V and Magazines are trying to change the perception of women.Most Muslim women wear their natural hair and take pride in when talking bout Nigerians dont generalize.A Nigerian sister was on the couch recently and i was so hurt by the comments made here about Nigerians.i thought this was supposed to be for encouragement and not pointing fingers.i know that a number of Africans that you will come across are Nigerians but dont think that the issues you go through are any different from what they go through back at home. History affected us too. Thanks CN for this blog.And sisters pls,Africa is not what you see on CNN or hearsay.if you have not seen you dont the support on this blog.peace and love to all.

  • Sherri says:

    My best compliment to date came from a male friend who used to always crack on my weaves. I haven't seen him since my bc so I texted him the other day and told him I chopped my hair off and was natural. I sent him a pick. He instantly called and told me "now that's gorgeous". He said all the years he teased me for being "unbeweavable", he knew what beauty lied beneath. That was the boost I needed. I will never again doubt my decision to go natural.

  • A.hunter says:

    I think the best compliment I've received so far was not so much of a compliment but a request. Guy walked up to me and asked me if he could run his fingers through my hair. BEST FEELING EVER! πŸ™‚

  • Anonymous says:

    i am 6 months into my transition and i came back to school with a twist out and all of my white friends on my floor were omg i love your hair like that. how do you get it to stay. and this one particular girl who is very country said "I wish my hair would stay where I tell it to like yours does" lol

  • Anonymous says:

    I did a 7 month transition and BC'd 2 days ago!!! I must say that although I loved the results of my BC…I was still nervous about what evreyone would think..My husband loves my hair…and I have not heard one negative comment from anyone else…Just compliments galore!!!! The question I get asked the most is "Is that your natural curly texture?" And I proudly reply "YES INDEED!" … I've never felt more beautiful then I do right this minuite…Hey I can't hide behinde my hair anymore!!LOL…Thanx Curly Nikki!..There's no way I could have done this without you! & Thanx to all you guys for your wonderfully encouraging post!!! MUUAAAHH!

  • Anonymous says:

    I always get compliments on my hair, even days when I just roll out of bed feeling horrible. It really is a good feeling but I don't think I can take the compliments well, lol. I always end up deflecting the attention off of me lol. Hmm, I'll pick one that happened this summer during a conference I attended in the Dominican Republic. My hair was straight when I got to DR but the tropical climate took a toll on me the minute I stepped out of the airport. So the next morning I just co-washed my hair. As I boarded the bus we took to our service site, one of the Caucasian girls in my group, shouted my name "I just want to let you know that I love your hair. Your curls are amazing."

  • Anonymous says:

    Got my very first compliment yesterday πŸ˜‰ I big chopped back in June of this year. The compliment came from a parent from across the room at my daughter's "Muffins and Math" classroom visit. She told me that my hair was beautiful and that she loved the way my curls popped. I felt good…I think that I finally am seeing the results of a good hair care regimen. She asked what I used and I told her that my favorite product to date is coconut oil. My daughter chimed in (also a curly girl) and reminded me not to forget to tell her about the HENNA πŸ™‚ I mentioned your site to her Nikki, and she said that she loves it. Thanks to you, woman are changing their views on natural beauty everywhere. Keep doing what you are doing, God bless you, and PLEASE have another STL meet-up soon!

  • Anonymous says:

    I am transitioning. I had a failed twist out that I ended up putting into a puff. That same night I had 2 back to back events that I was not feeling due to my hair. At the second event my husband told me that a natural complimented my puff thinking I was natural too. I took that as a compliment because the natural sista was where I am striving to be. Also my first twist out puff to work I got so many compliments that it got rediculous. It really helped me to feel comfortable wearing my hair less than straight.

  • Savannah says:

    My best compliments so far have come from my Mother and her Mother. They both have fine hair. My Mom said that she knew that my hair came from my Dad because it's so coarse and thick and she has always loved it. My Grandma saw me a with a spritz n go (2nd day fro revived with my moisture mix) and said that she wished her hair could do that. Gotta love Moms.

  • Anonymous says:

    I was out at the club last night in Hollywood (for the first time since going natural two years ago), and several guys told me they thought my hair was amazing! I was even stopped in the street by one guy that told me to never cut my hair. πŸ™‚

  • Anonymous says:

    "your hair is my end goal"– i was excited for the rest of the day!

  • Sonrisa says:

    I live in the Carribean and I've never straightened my hair. I'm in high school and ever 2 weeks on fridays I undo my plats(braids or whatever u call them,, my own hair braided) in school beacause after scool I go do my hair one time and all my friend want to help me and everyone in the area just watches me and everyone does be like dont ever straighten ur hair. There was this one time when I was walking on my way to do my hair with my friend who does my hair and it was all loose and big and this man stopped me and was like I lovee ur hair and then he was like ur not from here are you( usually most ppl from my island dont wear their natural hair out) and in truth I wasn born on that island I was born on a next island and then he proceeded to tell me he wants to take on a trip to island from where I was really born …. all this attention from me having my hair out

  • Anonymous says:

    Today I wore my hair in a wash and go style with two small french braids with a small blue flower on the end. At work, one of my customers said my hair was really pretty and she liked it a lot. Members at my job get discounts on their purchases, she wasn't a member, but I made her one for that compliment πŸ™‚

  • Tykea says:

    People always ask me "What do you do to get your hair like that?" And to my that's one of the best compliments I can get, because I don't do anything; it's 100% natural.

    But the best compliments I've ever recieved, was a day when I was seriously considering shaving my head with my dads clippers because, to me, I was having a bad hair month. My church has a step team and all the girls have silky permed hair that swings with ever shake of their head. And then there's me, with the unruly curly afro. After our performance, so many people complimented me on my hair and told me how much I stood out from the rest of my team. I've never felt so proud of being natural πŸ™‚

  • Sol says:

    Tuesday, I was at work sitting had made attempts to do cornrows on monday and it looked okay. i was sitting at the counter and this customer came up to me and said, i love your hair, why don't more women just wear their own hair.

  • Mariposa says:

    Ok, so I got these two a few weeks ago.

    It was the first time I had worn my hair out of my extensions since school started, and I was rocking a twist and curl. I got compliments form many people, the two I remember most were from my Spanish teacher and a boy in my drama class. :3

    Spanish Teacher: I love your hair like that, it's so cute! It reminds me of the 70's…it just suits your personality."

    Cute Boy in Drama: I like your hair, it's really nice. It makes you stand out from everybody else.

    That is the only compliment I have ever heard him give ANYONE, and he gave it to ME. *on cloud nine*

    On, and on another day that week, I was wearing another big textured fro, feeling kinda ticked on my way home from drama pion my way, I saw by two ladies who were joking and laughing each other. As I passed them by, I just barely heard one of the women say in a soft whisper to her friend, "I want my hair to look just like that."

    Later, when I got home, I was jumping up and down with joy. ^^ I love my haaaair! It's not even full shoulder length yet, but it's pretty thick, so the fro's are medium sized. I'm glad that I've come so far in my journey.

  • Unknown says:

    I got my hair straigthen for the first time in May when I did one of the interns at the label I work for said WHERE ARE YOUR CURLS? I told him I had to press it to get my ends trimmed he said okay but can you hurry up and wear it curly again? Men, even white men give the best compliemnts on my hair, some even thank me for breaking the norm.

  • Anonymous says:

    yesterday i was at the bank sporting my normal wash n go accented with a flower and the teller told me that she loved my flower and that my hair looked really cute. It made me feel good inside.

  • Anonymous says:

    I did my first set of smaller size cornrows, on Columbus weekend.The first compliment came as I took a walk in a park, a lady was walking past me with her dog and she exclaimed "Ooh! I love your hair". The second came when I went to the bank and the male teller said "I like your hair, it looks great!" There's nothing like a little praise to put the bounce in your step.


  • Anonymous says:

    ok. So i was a the club last saturday (don't judge me…lol) and i felt someone tapping on my shoulder so i turned…and a good looking brother smiled and said " i love your hair!"….I said thanks…i appreciate it…
    and as i was leaving the club, another brother tapped me and said " I don't want you to think i'm ignorant or anything but can i please touch your hair?"…i said sure….lol….
    Now mind you, i've only be natural for a year adn 2 weeks…So i can wait to see what will happen in the future…hahahahaha
    anywho…i love the attention..
    (fyi…i was rocking a frohawk made from a braid out…i have 4c hair…)

  • honeybrown1976 says:

    I'm transitioning; but, I wear my hair in braid outs a lot. While shopping in the sushi section of my local supermarket, the Asian chef told me that she liked my hairstyle and that it looks so free (we chat every time). I felt good.

  • Anonymous says:

    even though this post is kinda old…Oh well?!? Today me and my mom was walking out of the store when I see this lady staring at my hair. I mean like STARING LOL. My hair was in a twist out. And she stops me and says "How did you get your hair like that? I told her I washed my hair than twist, she than asked me if I was permed or natural. Natural I said, come to find out she was too. So yeah we talked for a couple of minutes told her some tips. I felt so good after that compliment I felt like I was on top of the world. LOL

  • Long lost curls says:

    I finally got my drivers license and I was psyched that I will be able to take my first pic with my natural hair. So I get there and notice I forgot my gel at home so all I can do is just wet it slightly and fluff it. So thats what I do and I come out with a pretty good small curly fro. So i go to take my picture and then I look somewhere else so my eyes are in one direction and my face another. But at least my hair looks nice. Then once I walk outside I'm ready to just put on my satin cap and go to the store to buy more gel then a stranger that I see alot says to me, "You always doing something different with your hair, I like it". And it was very suprising to me because I really thought my hair looked a mess but other people still like it.

  • Anonymous says:

    My first appt post BC my natural hairstylist said "I'm in love with your hair, I can't wait to try all these styles on it..its beautiful" I was still getting used to seeing the natural texture of my hair and realizing that I didnt have the wavy pattern that I desired but a headful of thick dense type 4 tight coils and curls:–) Considering this stylist sees so many different hair types in the run of a day, I learned to embrace the mane God blessed me with:-)

  • Anonymous says:

    I just recently BC-ed and before I did it I was sure everyone would think it looked weird or tell me I looked like a boy, but since I've done it I get told almost daily how awesome and feminine it looks on me. I have NEVER been complimented so often or been told I look beautiful so much in my life. When I did cut off my hair I wasn't sure if I liked it but after being told so much how good I looked I figured if everyone else can see me as beautiful I should see it in myself! I LOVE being natural!!!

  • sandra says:

    My greatest compliment comes in the form of a "smile" when I see other naturals with their significant other. They smile at "us" as a couple and we smile back & everyone is on the same page. Yesterday I saw a natural family and we all smiled at each other at the same time. Our vibes were in harmony. Love it!

  • Anonymous says:

    I received my first hair compliment 10 months after my B/C. My dental hygienist said "Your curly hair is great, it must be really easy". She's white with straight hair and explained she was tired of blow drying daily. The funny thing was I had ridden by bicycle (with helmet) 4.5 miles in 85 degree weather, from work, for the appointment and had just run my fingers through my sweaty helmet hair before I sat in the chair.

  • Anonymous says:

    I've been natural for 2 years now, but I have had a LONG learning curve trying to figure out my hair lol. Anyway, an few weeks ago, I was braiding my hair nightly and wearing my hair out in a fro daily. I was practically getting a compliment a day, from all different kinds of people. "I like your hair". "That's your natural hair? You should keep it like that. Yeah, don't Straighten it." "I love your afro, it's beautiful." I'd even walk into my new classes, and I could some people, even my professor, looking at my hair and smiling. It was great πŸ™‚ I say was, because I'm still on that learning curve, and my hair has broken like it made a unanimous decision πŸ™ Anyway, I know what I have to look forward to once things get back on track!

  • Anonymous says:

    I LOVE these stories.
    I was at The Galleria here in Houston back in June already happy because there was a sale at Macy's…plus I had an Express coupon (LOL) Anyway…a young man with headphones walked past me singing along with his music and he took his set off and tells me, "loving the hair miss lady" and then he went on about his business. I know this sounds crazy, but at times I am so moved when our men give compliments on my hair because for many years of my life I thought I needed weave down my back.(Brainwashed Much?) My hubby loves my big twist out, but he loves me…so to hear it from others…pretty darn cool!!!!

  • Butterfly73 says:

    Some of the best compliments I've received was from my much younger cousin who is a weave/wig/relaxed diva…she said how me and her auntie makes her want to go natural so bad. We seemed so care free with our hair and she envied the curls so much.

  • Anonymous says:

    The best compliments are from my boyfriend. He always tells him how beautiful my hair looks one me but the most interesting compliment came last week and he was so angry on the phone.He told me to listen to him very carefully and i should not say a word until he has finished talking. So i was really not sure what it was all about. He said that he has always told me how i should always wear my hair out because it makes me look very beautiful and extraordinary and that he spent time going through all my fb pictures and that the ones with my natural hair are the best. I was smiling and laughing at the same time at his raw compliments. So he made me promise to please never wear weaves and to always wear my hair. I love him!!!

  • Melissa says:

    On my tumblr where I post pictures of my hair, a guy wrote "I really appreciate the fact that you wear your hair naturally."No one has ever expressed appreciation toward me being natural, and I rarely get compliments on my hair from men.

  • Chaka_Millz says:

    This is a little personal but I will share it with you ladies anyway…
    My boyfriend and I were about to take a shower when I noticed I was in desperate need of a cowash. As I began slathering each section of my hair with conditioner, I caught of glimpse of his awe struck expression. I turned to him and said "What?" and he replied "Your hair, is so BEAUTIFUL." I couldn't do anything but smile and shake my head. This happens frequently with him but it never ceases to amaze how much the little things loved ones say can impact the way we feel about our hair. Needless to say that moment made my day πŸ™‚

  • Anonymous says:

    I've been natural for about five years. I've received mostly postive comments, some perplexing. I work at a criminal court and a black male judge said "Oh, you've changed your hair." I said "No, I've stopped changing it." I was on the elevator at work this summer and a white gentleman said my hair makes him think of spring. I was wearing my favorite two-strand twists. I thought that was a different but nice comment. Last week I blow dried my hair and put some curls to it, but the humidity started to have its way with me. But a female co-worker said "Hey Angela Bofill!" So now I've named my hair "Angela Bofill" when I wear it "out".

  • Anonymous says:

    Returning a rental car very early one morning, hiding behind big glasses and a spritz of water on my hair to refresh yesterdays squished, slept on wash and go. The woman behind the counter looks at me in awe and says how did you get your hair to *do* that, "do what?" I say, she replied "those coils, how do you do that?! It's all natural? But it actually looks GOOD" I laughed and told her that her hair would *do that* too if she gave it a chance, she said no and that I must have some special "Island hair".

    She has been wearing her hair in braids so hasn't relaxed in months and didnt really want to again but dint know how she could not. I gave her this web address and a list of my favourite conditioners and told her to enjoy her journey!

  • Kimmy says:

    I was going through the drive thru at McDonalds when one of the workers (black female) ran to the window and said "I love your hair! I want to go natural sooooo bad." I told her that she can do it. She then proceeds to pull her weave ponytail to her lips, kiss it and said "i'm not there yet." I laughed and told her she'll be there when it's her time to be.

  • Anonymous says:

    I,too, so love this site. I'm enjoying reading & hearing all the inspirational stories. Well I recall my best hair compliment(s) happening this past May. I had just left Curltopia where Giselle "did dat" on my hair. As soon as I walked out, I was stopped cold by a sista on her way in. She said whatever she said (don't remember) and that compliment lead to a 30+ minute product –"get yo grove back love you self" convo in the parking lot. Then I depart and head to my local whole foods. This transitioning sister and her friend came over to compliment. I spent I don't know how many minutes explaining products and ingredients. Then as I'm proceed to accomplish my purpose at WF, then I am bum rushed by a sister who told me she spotted me across the store and was doing all she could to catch me. That too lead to another long convo. I'm still in touch with the first lady from the parking lot :). Needless to say, these encounters greatly encouraged me that day! I was like wow-it's like dat?

  • Anonymous says:

    It was late at night, and it had been a long, hot, humid, icky day. I was in Duane Reade. One of the clerks complimented me twice; once in an aisle and the second time at the cash register. I was so surprised because I truly felt that my 2nd-day hair looked horrible. I tried to pull off the faux-locs 2-strand twist-out style that I saw on this website and failed miserably…well, I guess not, lol.

  • Anonymous says:

    I was in my apartment's leasing center and one of the leasing agents who was new to the company and a black woman as well came up to me and said I love your hair! I could tell it was genuine she didn't need or want anything from me (it was not rent time, lol) and she said what she had to say and walked away.

  • Anonymous says:

    I love hair! And since I was young I have always frequently changed my hairstyles. I have been wanting to go natural since the birth of my second child, but didn't have enough courage to do so. Anyway about a year and a half ago I decided to go ahead and grow my natural hair out when I got upset one day and just cut all the perm off. From that day on I wore weaves and wigs keeping my natural hair braided until it reached a desirable length. Fast forward to two months ago. I was supposed to be getting my hair rebraided and the girl that did my hair backed out at the last minute. I didn't feel like wearing my hair and my natural hair was long enough to now rock with a headband. So I decided to (nervously) wear it to work on Monday. I was surprised when EVERYONE told me how good I looked with natural hair and how it took ten years off my age. Ever since then I have been proudly rockin' the natural and trying to find new and different ways to style it.

  • Jilli Ann says:

    This morning at McDonalds this little old white told me I have such pretty hair. : )

  • Anonymous says:

    I was in a wig store, just looking as I'd never worn a wig before (still haven't).. Feels like a helmet on my head. Anyway, this older African American woman about age 60 was following me through the store and when she knew that I realized that she was following me, she said, "I was just following all those waves. How beautiful." Then yesterday, my husband, as I was driving and glanced over at me and siad, "wow your natural hair looks no nice and healthy. I'm glad you don't relax your hair." Both those incidents jut made my day as sometimes natural hair isn't the easiest to deal with.

  • Anonymous says:

    Well today i got a message from a girl stating that she really loves my hair and that i inspire her to go natural aswell. Also many people have said that my hair suits me and its makes me loook really pretty and that i look like a <3

  • Anonymous says:

    This year in North Africa, i got some compliemtns on my hair, and it was both from mens.
    I have also been complimented on my hair, from some girls from my class, after i had did a wah'n'go.

  • Milly says:

    These compliments are GREAT! I've been natural for 5 years now, and I have BSL (bra-strap length) hair. The best one I've had recently was while I was trimming a friend's hair. I asked "what made you want to go natural again?" b/c I remember upon meeting her thinking that she didn't look like the type at all lol
    she goes, "well really, you…"

    aw! that made me happy πŸ™‚

  • Anonymous says:

    i'm 17 yr old 4a/b living in london and i haven't yet worn my natural out but i get compliments from my mum all the time @ home i just wanted to say this is the – BEST – Piece of information i have ever seen on the internet if that makes sense lol v.good topic nikki xXx

  • Anonymous says:

    I'm a college student in North Carolina. Right now its super hot and humid out and I had to move my stuff into a new dorm room. I a fresh flat twist out but it had gone frizzy. I went to get a new ID picture and the woman saw my old picture and said that my hair looks so different now but she thinks it looks better curly.

  • Anonymous says:

    Wearing my hair in bantu knots today and I have received about three compliments…..all from white people….funny huh

  • Anonymous says:

    A friend told me that when she first saw my hair in its natural state she secretly didn't like it but now I look like a Model from Paris πŸ™‚

  • E. Lewis says:

    "Mommy…I want my hair to look like yours!!"

  • Sunshinewilson1 says:

    Best compliments ever:

    From my hubby: "I love the way you change up your hair. It really looks good. You don't have not reason to go back to a perm. You just look on youtube for a style and the next day you've done it. And the best part is that you can do your hair yourself. Man, that saves us a bunch of money!" lol

    From little sister (who still has a relaxer): I just love your curls. I wish my hair would do that. (My response was "grow your perm out". She went on to roll her eyes at me. I'll keep working on getting her to change her mind.)

  • Dominique says:

    These are some great stories! My first supporter was my husband and my 4 year old son..I transitioned in February and BC'd on Aug 6, 2010. I have received many compliments on my facebook page and I have inspired a few family members and friends to BC. I recently went to Target to stock up on some more Shea Moisture products and the cashier, who was also natural, asked who does my hair and how do I get it so moisturized…that really gave me positive energy. A fellow parent at my son's school told me that I looked great pregnant (currently 6 months) and natural…this is definitely a great rediscovery

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  • Anonymous says:

    The most recent comment I got was on the day I thought my hair looked a fool!! My 2nd attempt to do a twist n' curl. Didn't look right at all (at least to me). My husband and I were pressed for time so I couldn't fix it like I wanted to so I gathered as much of it as I could up and pinned it to the back. My hair is layered so it looked like I had cut my hair to a short bob. I hated it. But I saw this lady who immediately said that she loved my hair (actually she said it a few times!)and wanted to get a picture of it for her daughter who is natural. I couldn't believe it. I went from feeling so drab because of my "bad hair day" to feeling like a model.

  • Anonymous says:

    Once I had done a bantu knot out and it was my best by far..and my teacher stopped the class 3x to say she was in love w/ my hair (She's Italian). Not to mention all the students complimented me all day and my bff told me months later she would never forget that day cause my hair looked on point! <3 best day everrrrr

  • CurlsBay says:

    I've been transitioning for 1yr so i'm about half a head natural. But I always get compliments when I wear a fresh bantu knot-out or in an up do. or when I wash n go( n scrunch lmaoo). Ppl (nd myself most importantly) like my curls better. Its so fun and freeing. GO NATURALS!

  • Anonymous says:

    My campers at camp were so astonished at my new curly fro…they all wanted to touch it and told their parents that they wanted my hair! Even my brothers liked it…

  • LovelyTransitioningLibra says:

    I'm 16 and as a sophomore I really didn't feel like straightening my hair. I go to a predominantly white school. One day I decided to do a BnC (not knowing the real name of it)and while sitting in Spanish class, my teacher and. Classmates told me they loved my hair and it was muy bonita! (very pretty) I had a big head for the rest of the day πŸ™‚

  • Anonymous says:

    It's nice to read all these compliments, kind of makes me sad a little because I only received compliments when my natural hair was long, now that i have cut it down to a twa due to heat damage I get looks of disgust, and no compliments.

  • Ms Sassy says:

    I always get "OMG, I love your hair….can I touch it?" lol thats funny coming from straight hair people

  • Anonymous says:

    First I have to say that I absolutely love this site, and I have told my friends who are transitioning about this site. My best compliment was from a friend after she saw my hair on my wedding day and she asked me who had done my hair. I told her that it was just my natural hair and that I just washed it that morning, put product in and let it air dry. *note* I am 1/2 Puerto Rican and 1/2 white, with 3b curls.

  • The stager says:

    yesterday my 2 year old niece said…I like ur hair auntie!…thats all of the compliments I'll ever need:)

  • Passion says:

    On this particular day I was rocking a really big wash-n-go with my bangs pulled back…
    I was checking out at the grocery store and there was a young Caucasian woman with board straight hair in front of me. As I put my items on the belt I felt her looking at me so, I looked at her and she didn't look away or turn her head, like people normally do when they find themselves staring. At this point I had no clue why she was staring at me so intently; I turned away and pretended like that awkward moment didn't happen. Then finally with a big smile on her face she said, "I'm sorry, I love your hair!"

  • Anonymous says:

    I love this post

  • twnz&1mo says:

    Some guy standing behind me in the grocery store kept leaning towards me. I'm thinking he's trying to get a free feel or something, then he said "Your hair looks good but it smells so yummy". I said thank you and I blushed.

  • Anonymous says:

    I went natural for the second time on the night of May 3 of this year. My mom started my BC @12am and I finished it around 4am. I had no clue what it look like in day time hours so I was nervous when I went to work a couple of hours later. Everyone one loved my hair even my boss who never speaks to stop in her track and said that she like my hair.
    But the biggest complements was that I inspired one of my co-worker who has become one of my friend to do her big chop after a long transition ( she always tells me my hair looks nice even though i think hers is way flyer than mine) and I inspired another one to go natural she started her transitional process about a month ago. It so cute cause she runs up to me and shows me her new growth and she's so proud LOL. It great to know that my one act inspired others

  • Anonymous says:

    Oh boy. There have been so many that I've lost count! lol. I have a few favourites. One was running into two white girls one night who walked past and ran back to ask if they could touch my hair. They told me 'it felt like what they imagined clouds to feel like' and they loved it! I was smiling for days. My favourite and most memorable one though is greeting my boyfriend at the airport after a very long separation (long distance relationships take a lot of work). After our very emotional reunion, he sunk his hands into my fro and the first thing he said was 'I missed playing in your hair baby. I've been dreaming of this'.

  • Anonymous says:

    I love these comments, so inspiring

  • Joy says:

    Lol everybody elses compliments are great!

    1. One time I was oiling my scalp w/ coconut oil and a girl was like, "you must take the best care of your hair in the world" lol she also said she could never do that (put oil in her hair).

    2. One time also my hair was a curly bun and my mom asked me how what I did to my hair, and I just said I washed it and put in a bun! She said it looked more curly than usual =)

  • Anonymous says:

    I love these stories! Reading them gives me goose bumps.

  • Whitney B. says:

    I think the most recent best compliment I have ever received was when my boyfriend and I were eating out. After he had been telling me for the entire ride that he loved my hair, the waitress comes over to me and says, "All of them [the other waiters and waitresses] were raving about how beautiful you are and how gorgeous your hair is. Since I only saw part of you while taking your drink order, I had to come get a look at you, and they were right." It was one of those really sweet, but kind of awkward moments.

  • Anonymous says:

    So, this morning, I put my hair in a BIG puff, after wearing a twist-out all week. Before I left home, I wasn't feeling my hair because it had a white filmy build-up on it. When I got to work, I had three ladies stop me in the hallway and say how pretty my hair looks and how much they love it. Two of these ladies are permies, the other is a natural (that I helped convince to go natural). It made me feel really good, and I'm walking a little straighter now!

  • Kearea' says:

    as of yet, i have only received like 1 or 2 compliments verbally and they were both from fellow naturals. none of my friends or family like it right now but probably will once my hair is much longer

  • KJ says:

    The best compliment I got was from a older caucasian man that said "Girl, You are the T R U T H!" It was such a pleasant surprise because I was a little nervous about rocking my 2 strand twist updo. His compliment gave me a great confidence boost! It seems to me that I am getting more and more compiments from older men and I'm 26! LOL

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  • Anonymous says:

    I've been natural now for 10 months, but I literally JUST started wearing my real hair out this past month. Everyone that I've come across loves it..I was recently at a friends bday dinner & all of the girls there admitted that they thought my hair was a weave or wig when i walked in LOL To me, thats a great compliment !

  • Anonymous says:

    who is this girl in the pic? I keep seeing this picture EVERYWHERE and I llloooovveee her hair!

  • Anonymous says:

    My hair was in a curly fro one morning when I was on my way to work, and a little black girl who was on her way to school said to me "you're beautiful" as she walked past me. Made my day!

  • Kanisha says:

    When I first cut my hair (inch long TWA) my friends and acquaintances told me they liked it. But I just knew some of them were lying. Not because I was insecure. But just because you could see it in their eyes…

    But I started getting compliments from ABSOLUTE strangers: "That style REALLY fits your face" "You have one of those faces that can rock anything!" "I love your hair!" LOL. And it made me feel good because finally, someone was being genuine. πŸ™‚

  • Anonymous says:

    it was my first time wearing my hair natural to school and the guy that i have a crush on walks up to me and huggs me by my head for about 2 min lol (literally thrusting my head onto his chest) smiles, touches my hair from root to tip and walks away . it made my day =)

  • Anonymous says:

    Well , About Six – Seven Months Ago I Moved To Malden , Massachusetts From South Lawrence, Massachusetts Which Was Already Rough On Me Because I Have Problems In This City . Anyway, I Am Bi Racial , Puerto Rican And White And I Do Have Very Tight Natural Curls That Make My Hair An Afro . When I First Moved Here (malden) People Would Give Me Stares As If I Were A New Species From Another Planet Which Really Irritated Me. Many People Were Veryyy Ignorant One White Male Had Screamed From A Car Saying " Hey Why Dont You Get A Hair Cut." And My Self Being 16 And Walking ON The Side Walk And HEaring That Made Me Think That My Hair Wasnt Cute And MAde Me Feel Upset . So One Day I Over Heard To Girls At My School (Malden High) Talking About My Hair Asking If It Was Fake , A Wig , Or Extentions. So I Asked Them Why They Wouldnt Just Ask Me Instead Of Doing The Little High School Thing , Talking When People Walk Away . And They Told ME It Was Because I Was Light Skinned. Which Really Bothered Me It Seemed As IF IT Were I Dont Wanna Say Racist , But Discriminationi of Some Sort . But Ive LEarned to love My Hair Because It IS Veryyy Rare =). IF You'd Like TO See It My Name Is Amanda Iraola . Look Me Up On Facebook

  • HoneyB says:

    While at work, I wore my hair out fully natural for the first time. I usually wear a blow-out. So when i walked all the staff were like wow, I love the hair! lol it's funny cause these are like older Caucasian people. lol

  • ShakLand says:

    I was in a hair supply store a few months ago, and I was getting frustrated with my hair so I was looking for products to help press my very very thick (I'm guessing 3C hair since I have the coil formation the width of my pinky finger). Anyway, I have a lot of hair- whether it's short or long, it's a lot. So I was asking the guy who owned the store for advise on products and we chatted for a while and finally he said "I really don't think you should do anything to your hair. I wish more women wore their hair like you." I was so taken aback because I'd never gotten a compliment from a man on my hair if it weren't pressed or even blown out. I told him that was one of the nicest compliments I'd ever received.

    My 9 yr old son also gets a lot of compliments on his giant fro! People go wild for it.

  • HungryGirl says:

    I tried the cinnabon hairstyle for the first time…. I thought it came out a lil rough…my boyfriend saw me and the first thing he said was how cute it is πŸ™‚ I explained it was called a cinnabun and he smiled and said "well thats one yummy bun" it made my day πŸ™‚

  • Anonymous says:

    The compliment I loved the most was from a male friend whom we had been discussing a long term relationship. So…he had not seen me since my BC 2 months prior. When he finally made it in town that evening he put his hands in my head and said "OMgosh…I absolutely love your hair. And its so soft" And he played in my hair until he fell asleep. And again the next night. Throughout the days he just looks at my hairstle (I have a TWA) and says "Its so becoming on you". I melted everytime.

  • Anonymous says:

    These stories have made me miss my own natural (well transitioning) hair so much! I have a sewn in for graduation and am now proceeding to take it out immediately! My favorite compliment was from my boyfriend. He was coming to my apartment to help me move in and as I stood outside, he pulled up; and as I waited for him to get out of his car, he stared at me before looking away nervously (he had never seen my natural hair before). After approaching the car he let out a huge sigh of relief at the fact that the girl he stared at and thought looked so good was actually me! πŸ™‚

  • Mahogany Soul says:

    A few a weeks ago a man who was trying to convince me to give him my number said that my natural hair said something special about me. Wearing my hair natural, he said, meant that I was old school. I'm in my 20s and have always felt that I have an old soul. I took it as a compliment…but I still didn't give him my digits. LOL!

  • Anonymous says:

    My Husband and I went out this past Friday night. I was feeling wonderfully (we're in our second half..over 50) with my handsome man next to me. A white woman walked up to and told me how fierce my hair looked. It was the icing on a already wonderful evening.

  • Novemberlady13 says:

    I was in the NC mountain, in a small mostly Caucasian town. I haven't seen a black person all day and when we went to the grocery store the cashier seemed to have a attitude so I didn't pay her or the others any mind. So out of no where when we were gathering our bag she say 'I love your hair, I wish mine would curl like that". I was in shock for a second but I just smiled and said thank you. I had the totally wrong idea about her.

  • Anonymous says:

    Mary in Md
    My family historically is very anti-naps. We live in different states. Just the past weekend we were able to get together. I was wearing my hair in two-strand twists that I had pinned into an updo. They were gushing about my hair. One of my aunts is even transitioning. She said my hair gives her inspiration. Who knew!!! It really made my day.

  • Unknown says:

    When a couple of years ago the son of a very close friend (he was 4 then) burys his head on my shoulder and told me " Auntie, your hair smells nice and it is soft. I will marry you."

  • Anonymous says:

    Can we add to these comments? I spent a wonderful lunch hour just reading through all these, I smiled, teared up…it's amazing to read how much people love natural curls.

    My best compliments come from my boyfriend. He just can't keep his hand out of my hair! He is addicted to taking one tight little spiral and stretching it out sloooooooowly, marvelling over how long it is, and then letting it go and exclaiming about how it 'boings' back into place.

    It feels really great to know that even on my worst hair days, I can count on him to twist his hands up in my hair and call me his little Diva. Makes me smile just to think about it.

  • Alesia says:

    I love when people tell me that my natural hair & twists much more than my relaxed hair. Surprisingly, I get this a lot.

  • Au naturelle says:

    I love, love, love these stories!

    It's been 4 months since my BC… Here's my two cents – I was at the cinema last week sporting a fresh TnC, when a lady asked me who did my hair since it looked so nice. When I told her I did it myself, she was astonished! So then she asked whether I sewed the weave in myself!?!?! Lol! I told her it was my own hair, and she couldn't believe it…

    That made my day and even now it still makes me smile :o)

    Keep the stories coming ladies. I've had a few negative comments about going natural so it's really inspiring to hear the positive ones.

  • c. janae says:

    A couple of months ago, while stocking milk at work (college cafeteria), I was wearing a wash-n-go with Eco Styler gel and was on about the third or fourth day. Out of nowhere a guy walks past me and says "Your hair is awesome!". I was so touched. I was exhausted b/c it was late and toward the end of my shift, but that compliment really lifted me up! : )

  • QuietButterfly says:

    This past week I was in WalMart with my boyfriend and while he was picking out some meat I was standing back waiting for him, when I felt this girl looking at me, so I smiled at her and she says "I love your hair". My hair was in a chunky twist-out pulled into a puff, nothing special, but I really appreciated the compliment. The next day I was in Family Dollar and the girl ringing me up told me I had her "dream puff" and began to tell me her hair story. That was the best compliment, made me feel good.

  • Fear-Less says:

    Some people get offended by this, but it actually makes me feel good. Today, at church, a fellow curly asked me if I had a texturizer (I know I spelled that wrong. lol) in my hair because my curls were so soft and defined. I just smiled politely and said no, but on the inside I was beaming. I am still a new natural, rocking a TWA, but it made me feel good that what I am doing and the products I am using are being noticed. I love this site, and although I don't comment often, it REALLY keeps me encouraged. Keep up the great work!!!

  • Anonymous says:

    Well, I've been transitioning for only 1.5 months. I was talking to one of the employees there who is a natural and she told me that I would make a pretty natural. I thought that was so sweet! I wasn't sure about whether natural hair would look good on me, but her compliment encouraged me to keep going.

  • Anonymous says:

    I'm still in high school, so you don't see many natural heads around. The other day I was rocking a huge fluffy blown out fro and my guy friend laid his head on top of mine, just joking around, then jerked up and said, "Whoa! Your hair is like a luscious cloud!" That's what I was going for! πŸ˜€

  • Brittany says:

    When i was 14 years old made the most random decision to go natural. I transitioned for a year and on my 15th birthday i cut it off. now I am 16 and it is long enough to do twists that reach my shoulders. The best compliment i got was from this friend of my who used to drool over my relaxed hair ( past BSL ) and he randomly started twirling one of my twists and asked "what took you so long to reveal this beautiful hair of yours." I felt extremely special that a young guy in his teen years could appreciate natural hair although most young guys i know are into the bone straight hair on young black teenage girls as well. Im lovin it!

  • Dannielle says:

    I was wearing a twist out from a failed micro twists set. On Friday night I went to church with this big beautiful mass of curly fluffiness. So many people came up to me and said that they loved my hair. I was so shocked, but i felt great.

  • caracara says:

    I was complimented by a waitress in Olive Garden on my pin-up. She also like both my daughters' twists. πŸ™‚

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  • Anonymous says:

    In the past, I would always wear weaves, extensions, or straighted my hair (I was still in the process of learning to love my natural hair).. my boyfriend admitted to me a year ago that he hates when i wear fake or straight hair and that he absolutely loves when I rock it natural hair.. I've been rocking my natural hair since then and don't plan on stopping! πŸ™‚

  • Anonymous says:

    I had just decided to tell my mom about my decision to be natural when i came home from college for summer vacation. my little brother knew i was going natural but my other brother had no idea. I did a twist out on my hair on friday, and both of my brothers kept going on and on about how great my hair looked. I NEVER get compliments from my brothers…like never. so that really made me feel confident to try a Flat Twist n Curl on my hair and test it at work…HOPE ALL GOES WELL!! *FINGERS CROSSED

  • hopefulcurls says:

    I kid you not, just last night while the bf and I shopped at Wal-Mart, in passing this little caucasian lady turned to say how she loved my hair! Then she just kept saying "oh, I really do love your hair, it is just so beautiful! I wish I could wear my hair short like that (rocking the TWA in a twist-out)!" Then she went on showering me with so many other flattering compliments on my skin and so on! LOL! And after this my bf would not let it go, he kept teasing me by mocking the complimenting lady! =D I could get use to that! LMAO!

  • Ashleigh says:

    I just bc'd couple of weeks ago and while I don't get the "it's so pretty" comments, I get a lot of nicknames.

    So far, I've been Erykah Badu, Angela Davis, Maya Angelou and Thelma from Good Times. My boyfriend has nicknamed me Coffey Brown. lol. My mom kept telling me how soft my hair is as she twisted. I have also had a lot of people come out of the woodwork telling me they're considering going natural and asking me questions. I consider that to be a big compliment because I didn't know letting my mom chop my hair would make other people inspired. It's humbling.

  • Anonymous says:

    So many wonderful comments

  • Anonymous says:

    I can't wait until i'm no longer transitioning this site and everything makes me even more certain of my decision! thanx beautifuls!!!!!!

  • Anonymous says:

    As I was walking downtown in my hippie/hipster college town, a random adorable guy of about 20 told me he loved my hair and said to me, "Thank you for keeping it natural." What struck me was that he was White. I'm originally from a little country town in mid MO, so I was SO SURPRISED he said this (where I'm from, NO ONE is natural except me), but it absolutely made my day.

  • Blank says:

    I was on the escalator in Victoria Secret and as I was going down this other natural was coming up. Her hair looked amazing not to mention to she beautiful too. As we passed I said "I love your hair!" and in return she said "I love YOUR hair!". She really emphasized the "your"! πŸ˜‰ My heart just filled up and I was soo happy for some reason. This was back in my TWA stage when it was still growing out ( I did a dramatic big chop). You would have thought I seen my fav male celebrity the way I was cheesing. lol!

  • Anonymous says:

    so wonderful to hear these stories

  • Anonymous says:

    when i had relaxed hair, people used to always ask me if i was mixed and they i had nice hair. so i was afraid at first to go natural b/c i didn't know what to expect. I am still in transitioning mode, but have a lot of new growth. I started my transition in the winter of 2008 and only started doing more braid-outs late last year. I was so scared that I would look terrible but I really liked the look AND so did others to my surprise. some ladies at my church gave me mad love and one natural sistah who knew I was going natural even asked me why I even put a relaxer in my hair to begin with. (love it!) and to my utter shock even men have been saying that I have nice hair. I had an Indian guy from the West Indies come up to me in the grocery store and asked me if I was mixed. Well, i do got Indian in my family. (kidding, lol) and a brotha told me while I had one tendril hanging out of a hat that I had nice hair. Lastly, this past Mother's Day, my grandma who is so critical and thinks everyone need a perm actually told me she liked my hair. I wrote the date and time down for that one. πŸ™‚ I am now still hoping the rest of my family, particularly my mother comes around.

  • Anonymous says:

    I went to see a natural stylist for a trim and she asked "girl, is that all you", I replied "yes", she said "good job, its so healthy"….Thanks for the tips, Nik *muah*

  • Anonymous says:

    I'd have to say that my nicest complements come when I think my hair looks it's worst – you know, the moment before we start contemplating straightening it again?!?! And especially other aspiring natural sisters. They all say "I love your hairrrrrr". It's a great conversation piece.

  • Anonymous says:

    My Saturday plan was to wash my hair and deep condition. However, my aunt asked me to go to a plant nursery with her. I was in the shower about to wash my hair, when my mother told me that she was outside. I decided to put off the washing and then I had to find a style for my hair. My hair was dirty and it was in an old frowsy twist out that needed a wash out. I said that there was no way I was doing anything fancy, so I put on a cute headband and left the house. When we got to the first nursery, the first thing the owner said was "I love your hair!!!" I felt so good and even better when she went on about how nice my hair was. That was a shocker. We went to another location and these two guys were calling me an African princess and saying how lovely my hair was. And to think that I thought i looked like a mess. lololol

  • Anonymous says:

    "oh my god, is your hair real????"

    (mind you, I have a super thick, super coily 4a fro…)

  • Anonymous says:

    I cant see any of the latest comments, do i have to be logged in to them?

  • Anonymous says:

    I have to say that others have been more receptive to my hair than me; now that I'm natural it's hard to remember what it was like to have a relaxer. I did my BC while I was away on vacation, so I was a bit nervous about coming back to work. To my surprise, for that next week the same people over and over again could not stop complimenting my hair. It was so odd to be fussed over. I guess my fav though was my husband's response; he's been away for a month or so (he's military) and didn't like my hair short the last time I cut it so I was nervous about his response. Anyhow, I sent him a pic and waited anxiously for his response. He finally sent me a text saying "Who's that sexy lady"? Silly, I know, but it made me feel so much better about my decision. He can't wait to come home and see it in person…

  • CurlyChronicles says:

    I was getting gas the other day and I tend to check my fluffiness factor in the car window lol! This dude on a bike yelled out, "It's perfect, and don't let nobody tell you otherwise!" I was like thank you, I sure wont. πŸ˜€

  • Anonymous says:

    My favorite compliments come from Mothers who see me and say "Your Hair is Amazing (and I do too) and they want their daughters to have healthy hair like mine…and then to see these Mommys actually coming to me with pictures of their girls after they have done their hairs. It's like a sense of accomplishment for them, and I am proud to have been a part of that.

  • Anonymous says:

    260 comments! Wow! I must say that every single week I get a hair compliment and it brings be joy and surprise every time. At a volunteer function, my former boss (she is white) exclaimed how much she loved my hair, saying she didn't know what to call it but just that she really loved it. That tickled me. At Whole Foods a couple weeks ago, a young lady who was also natural came and asked me how I did my hair, what I used on it, etc. I'm sure I'm old enough to be her much older sister and she was asking ME for advice. That felt AWESOME! ~poeticlypskng

  • faye says:

    I have been transitioning for a year and a half and have very few relaxed ends to cut…anyway…last week I was rocking a twist out. I used Shea-Moisture Coconut Souffle to set my hair. I fluffed it out a bit and went to work. A co-worker came to me during a break in training and said that my hair was beautiful and healthy…I was shocked yet proud about the compliment. This will be my first summer since I was 15/16 that my hair will be natural. I treated myself to a Dominican blowout this weekend and fortunately the weather is cooperating and I will be able to rock the blowout for at least a week and a half. I love the option of straight or curly…Go Naturals!

  • Anonymous says:

    Yesterday, what I thought was a bad hair day, wasn't to a lady I met in the metro. She was an oldish lady. She got up from her chair and came to where I was standing (I was on the phone), pointed to my hair, and gave me a thumbs up! She was talking in French so I could only catch bits and pieces of what she said, but she said something to the effect of me looking beautiful with my hair like that, how it's unnecessary for me to get my hair chemically processed, or to put fake hair on. She said I was "tres jolie comme ca"!

    Made me feel good!

  • Jae Manolo says:

    someone said, "You're very creative, if I could get my hair to look like yours, then I would go natural."

  • Mahogany Soul says:

    Today I was wearing a braidout done with large braids that i wore swept to one side. two of the undergrads in my building (i'm a graduate advisor)complimented me. both of them were 20 something white guys, might i add. one even said "girl with that your sure to get your man!" lol.

  • princess pensan says:

    i spent a lot of time explaining to my husband why am going natural n all…he kept saying oh right so far as u don't look like a man cos "i don't do men". i cut my hair n kept it a surprise since i live in Kansas n he's in Michigan for school, so on my bi-weekly visit(which was four days after my BC he met me at the airport n his huge gorgeous brown eyes were popping out,he was so fascinated n happy that he posted my afro after my BC pic as his profile pic on facebook n it been there since.

    Used to get compliment on my relax hair but now i get compliments on how beautiful i look n how cute my hair it n it still 2-3inches. AM NAPPY AND HAPPY!!!!!!

  • Anonymous says:

    For the past 2 months I've been feeling the funk when it comes to my hair…until I got a compliment on my hair 2 days ago from a customer at work…the reason it felt so good?? It was a brotha who said it. Sad to say, but usually they have something slick to say about it, or nothing at all. This one guy actually had something nice to say. It literally made my day, and all he said was, "I like your hair it looks beautiful." After he said that I made sure to let him know I appreciated the compliment. πŸ™‚

  • Anonymous says:

    Four years ago on the day of my BC; my hairstylist said "men will love it and women won't." Walking out of the grocery store, a guy walks past and says "looking good, get it!" That was a wonderful confirmation of my decision. I loved that I could see my features, and felt the cut made me look good. So, it was nice that someone else did too.

  • BeautifulKinksandcoils says:

    I have the HIH always too!

  • BeautifulKinksandcoils says:

    Lol…at my house I was oiling my scalp in sections w/ coconut oil and a girl said, "you must have the healthiest hair in the world" I smiled "Aw thank you"

  • JAS says:

    Last week I was in Target doing my Mother's Day shopping, I felt like I was having a bad hair day but I tried not to think about it. When I was checking out the cashier looked at me with this wonder in her eyes and said " I want your hair!" I thanked her, and realized that sometimes less is more concerning my hair.

  • Mariposa says:

    The most touching thing anyone has ever told me about my hair was what this one Caucasian girl in my class said to me. That day, I was messing around with my hair in the middle of class, doing a two-strand twist (my hand is ALWAYS in my hair-bad habit :P) and she asked me how I did that. I told her that my hair just naturally stayed like that. She said "I've always wanted black-people hair." Those words almost make me tear up now, because for so long I had wanted hair like Caucasians and all my other relaxed friends, and I know so many other girls who would disagree with her and want her hair. Even today, it makes me feel good about my hair.

  • Anonymous says:

    This guy im kind of crushing on right now is absolutely in love with my hair. Whenever we're together he's playing in my hair. Last night we were texting and he misunderstood and thought I cut my hair and he almost had a heart attack. LOL He has gorgeous curly hair too, so I like playing in his too!

  • Bun Ana says:

    "I wish I had the courage to wear my hair like yours."

  • Anonymous says:

    I get a lot of compliments from strangers, associates, and friends alike, But my grandma who is very natural( never had a relaxer , rarely straightens her thick head of hair, just pulls it into a braided bun) is just not a fan of afros, curly fro or not.My mom used to get on me about looking "disheveled" as well, but recently, she's been defending my hair to my grandma, saying "you wouldn't believe how healthy it is ma, and very chic!"

    Also, One day I was standing in the stairwell of my school's library, chatting with a friend when a tall brother (rare at my university) passed by us to go down the stairs. He broke his neck looking at me and stopped to say " I REALLY like your hair" and went on his way down the stairs. Me and my friend burst out laughing at the unexpectedness of the compliment. He heard us laughing and he yelled back up the stairs "I'm serious, it's awesome".

    So eventually I had to go down the stairs to get a book, and was primping and glowing from the compliment when I saw him again. I was mortified that he saw me fluffing my hair, but he just walked over, and said " Look, I was serious about your hair, it's beautiful and so are you (or something to that effect), I'm an artist and I would really love to draw you."

    When does that ever happen?!?!
    Also I'm going to have to post as anonymous because I don't really know how posting works on this site but I'm Lysheba89!

  • CessCurls says:

    well mine is a combo compliment, that I get from my 6yr old daughters teachers. Just about everyday they say how they LOVE my daughter and I's hair and how creative and talented I am in stylin it.

  • dajewel1982 says:

    i had the best hair day about a month ago. i had a wicked twist out. i was in the mall, and a random lady came to me n gushed about my hair n asked if it was a weave.

  • Freda says:

    Yesterday I went to the BSS with a sorority sister who is newly natural. We went to check out products and accessories. As soon as we walked in a lady came up to us and told us that she was growing out her relaxer and had recently thought of relaxing again. She said, "after I've seen both of your hair I'm inspired to keep going." I was so happy she decided to come up to us to share her story. I told her that there is more than one way to grow out the relaxer and if she is fine with the wig she was sporting that's quite alright. What's funny is her husband or man was standing off to the corner and he didn't seem too pleased with her resolve to continue going natural. Oh well for him πŸ™‚

  • Anonymous says:

    some of my favorites…
    art teacher- you look so cute and chic
    homeroom teacher- says "whats up my soul sister" everytime he sees me
    random black guy in the hallway- girl you're so beautiful with that hair you should model
    another random girl- hey girl. that is hot. not many sistas have the courage to do that
    cute guy i used to like at church- thats unique. you don't look like everyone else.

    ha! i feel so vain for remembering so many compliments, but it just makes me estatic to get so much appreciation for my twa. total boost of confidence.
    stay beautiful and natural. God bless

  • jadaelata says:

    I live in Germany and I get compliments on my hair all the time. One of my favorites is when I was feelins sick and was going to the store to get some medicine. I was rocking a couple of days old curly fro and dragging my feet:) I passed two white women on my way into the store and one says to the other "Oh My. She is gorgeous with that hair"

  • Anonymous says:

    I was in the food court at my local mall. I was wearing an afro puff. I have been natural for about 18 months, and I felt like my hair wasn't growing fast enough. I have also had to trim off my dry damaged ends. A natural lady with a TWA walked up to me and said "I can't wait until my hair gets as long as yours". I smiled all day off of that compliment.

  • Anonymous says:

    Tonight, I was sitting at work(the information desk of our university athletic complex) and one student(black male) walked past the desk and said, "by the way, I really like your hair like that. It fits you well." We're both business students; I'm an undergrad and he is in our mba program. I've seen him around a few times, but I don't actually know him. I would have never thought that he would notice the change in my hair style. I've been natural all my life, but I'm just learning how to style my natural hair. My default has always been a tight bun which caused me more headaches than hair damage. I am enjoying the freedom of the twist and curl, braid and curl and bantu knots that result in free, cottony curls πŸ™‚

  • Anonymous says:

    I love hair compliments!!!! I've gotten a few when rocking my funky twists out. My faves are when you know you were struggling that morning to come up with a 'do and someone not only tells you how much they love your hair but how they wished they had kept their natural hair or express the desire to go natural because of it. It is inspiration/motivation for me on those tough hair days. Also, it is a testament to how helpful site like yours and the many youtube ladies have been in this hair journey. In the past have gone back and forth between natural and relaxed for lack of info on how to deal with my hair. Having so many resources at my disposal is truly a blessing.

  • melanie says:

    I got a few today at work. This was 2nd day hair of a wash and go. I just fluffed it out using a pick to lift at the roots. A cool white co-worker said "I just love your hair, the bigger the better, I wish my hair would get big like that".

  • CurlyOmaley says:

    Last week I had my senior prom and I straightened my hair to create big waves. When my boyfriend saw me he was in awe because he has never seen me with straight hair( I think he was more in awe of the length). Well, I kept my hair straight for a week, and one day he looked at me out of curiosity and said " Cheyenne, dnt get me wrong I like your hair straight but I loovvve your curly fro. It's unique and so interesting. You look beautiful both ways." The red on my cheeks lasted the whole day.

  • la tabou says:

    one afternoon i was feeling a bit down so i decided to lift my spirits and visit bcbg, one of my fave stores. as i was looking at the dresses on sale the girl who was working there said, "i just love your curly hair. it's really pretty." i was shocked (i hadn't done ANYTHING to it, just threw it up in a clip). she made me so happy i no longer needed retail therapy πŸ™‚

  • Anonymous says:

    As I'm reading this at work,a random guy comes up and tells me "I really like your hair, its really you" :DD

  • Anonymous says:

    i really just appreciate every compliment i get. Most of the compliments are from men (of all races). My uncle(60 yrs old) told me a couple weeks ago….baby i really love your hair this way.

  • YLONDA says:

    I received a nice compliment this past weekend. I was at my church retreat and walking into our luncheon. One of our church members stopped me. She has a short natural hair cut. She introduced herself and told me that she spotted me in the crowd earlier and just loved my hair, and she loved the flower I added. Then she takes me over to her friend to tell her that she had found me. lol Its so weird because my hairstyle was something that came from a previous failed style! But I guess it worked. That really made me smile.

  • Noma says:


    I love all of your hair compliments, and you all put a smile on my face coz it's as if I was watching you when that great comment was being said.

    I hope someday when I decide to reveal my natural hair I'll get those great compliments too. I've been natural for 11 months now. I usually twist or banto knots my hair and go to work wearing a lace wig. My hair is growing well, and just can't wait to do my first blow out soon. When I get home I just don't seem to put the mirror down coz I admire how much of a hair forest I have.

    love you all for being an inspiration to us all.

  • Unknown says:

    I have two actually! The first one was the same day I got my BC. I had to go to work that day, and I made sure that I looked cute. I wore a pencil skirt and even put on a "face" (lol)! At the time, I worked in a store in a mall, and I was up on a ladder (thankfully my skirt was past knee-length!) and a random man came in and said, "Damn, you are sexy!" I was flabbergasted and flattered! I am married, but it's always nice to know my beauty can be appreciated by others! Lol
    The second one and the most dear to me was from my 3 year old son. He is mixed-race (my husband is white) and he has these HUGE curls. But, he never knew that mommy had curls too because I had a relaxer for a long time. So, when I did my BC, I was so shocked when he said, "You have curly hair like mine!" in his cute little boy voice. He proceeded to touch it and he said, "You're pretty momma!" Six months later, and he will still randomly play in my hair and tell me how pretty it is. And he is so proud of his OWN curls because he "has hair like momma." LOL. Our textures are VERY different, but it doesn't matter because we're both curly! My hubby is the odd man out with his straight tresses. Haha!

  • Anonymous says:

    I was in the mall and my mother was telling me I need to straighten my hair lol.. This white women ran up to me and was like miss I love her hair it look so good on you and I also love your Chanel glasses… my mother just walked away rolling her eyes lol… me and that lady talk for the longest..

  • Anonymous says:

    I never got compliments on my hair until after I did the BC. I had a TWA and I remember standing on a street corner and a woman crossed the street just to tell me how much she liked my hair.

    I love this post. This is a good read for anyone considering going natural and is worried about what people will say.

  • Anonymous says:

    Nhappy Jackie,
    There are about 5 other natural ladies at my church and they all pay to get their hair done every 2 wks. I have not paid anyone since my BC in November. So, I've been experimenting with twist and wore them to church this past Sunday. After church, they all came up to me wanting to know who did my hair. When they found out I did it, they wanted details about products, twisting, anything dealing with styles they wanted to know it becuse they had never done their own hair at home. I guess I should mention they kept telling me how good it look.

  • Anonymous says:

    I was at a church function last Saturday. One of the ladies came up to me and said "you hair is just beautiful. How did you get it like that. I was rocking a wash n go!!!

  • Pamela says:

    Well, this post is a little late, but I got a compliment a couple of weeks at the hospital, of all places, when I took my husband in to get some tests done. I am transitioning and was wearing a 2 or 3 day old twist out that had become a little dry. I decided to spritz some water on it and make it BIG and then put a cute little clip in the front. I really liked it. And my husband kept telling me how pretty I looked (my husband is white, by the way, and is my biggest natural hair fan. Very supportive, which I find quite interesting).

    Anyway, I had gone out to my car to get my laptop to have something to do during his 5 hours of testing and when I returned to the hospital, I was walking down the hall and one of the hospital workers, a black woman with relaxed hair, smiled at me and said, "I REALLY like your hair! That is so pretty". That comment from a total stranger made my day πŸ˜‰

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  • BornAgainCurls says:

    I got my first compliment today!!!!
    I mean my stepfather has complimented me before but he would say I looked beautiful even if I had no hair at all! This one came from a complete stranger. I was late for school so I didn't do much to my hair just put a pin in one side and walked out the door to catch my train. As I took a seat the woman next to me turns and says "your hair looks really great". I don't think she will ever understand what that meant to me. She probably caught a glimpse since my mouth dropped open. I gasped in shock. I have been trying to find a style that suits me but have been unsuccessful. My twists out always looked hideous but I guess I finally got it right.

  • Liz says:

    I recently stopped wearing a wash and go fro for the sake of becoming more low-maintenance (ha!). Now I twist my hair in about 16-18 sections and pin them into sort of an up-do. I get many compliments and stares! It's good to be a natural chick in the midst of a sea of perms and weaves =)

  • Anonymous says:

    OMGEEEEE! First of all I love natural hair and without all of this online support I probably would have permed it AGAIN! a long time ago. Anyways, over winter break I was back in my hometown from college, and this was the first time all of my close friends and family got to see my hair with not PERM! I was sort of apprehensive, needless to say just about the whole time I was in town there was this one old friend who made fun of my hair everyday! And said it would look so much better on a guy. I just went with it and laughed but after a while I was kind of like……Dang! That hurt a bit. So a couple of weeks after going back to school my friend was texting me and telling me how the SAME! friend who made fun of my hair all of winter break, was telling her how much he LOVED! My hair and secretly he makes fun of me only because he is so JEALOUS! πŸ˜€

  • Anonymous says:

    I cut most of the straight, permed ends off to about 4" of texturized hair which when worn curly is about 1 1/2" tall. It's been 2 months since my last Tex-Lax and counting….The first week out with my new curly fro I was feeling a little uncertain until a woman told me that she loved my hair because it says that I love myself…She said that she wished she could do it and that I was inspiring her to do what she knows she should in her heart. After that, I walked so tall and kept thinking about how much I love myself….after all, that's why I'm doing this πŸ™‚ Best compliment ever!

  • kwm537 says:

    I got the BEST compliment ever…. on Sunday, my 14 year old step daughter came home from spending the weekend with her mother and said she had talked to her mom who had agreed to let her start transitioning. This is a huge shock as her mother has been perming her hair every 4-6 weeks since she was 8 and her hair has suffered from being very over processed.

  • Yan says:

    my best compliment came when i first did my BC. it was a spur of the moment decision, and i had only transitioned for 6 weeks. i went to the barber store to get my hair cut off and right after the super sexy barber cut it off, he asked me out. we never did go out but it sure was a confidence boost.

  • southern curl says:

    My mom and two sisters came to visit and hadn't seen me or my hair in over 3 months. They LOVED it!!! They posted pics of it on facebook and I've received compliments on it. My family is really considering going natural after seeing my hair!!

  • Anonymous says:

    I recently BC'd in December. I live in Houston and downtown we have a tunnel where we go for lunch. As i'm walking a woman asked if i was natural and complimented my hair. She was also natural and told me that she loves meeting other naturals to pick their brains. We ended up talking over lunch! She asked tons of questions and gave me lots of suggestions and advice from her 3 years natural experience.

  • Anonymous says:

    Ok this is kind of stupid, but I just BC'd 3 weeks ago. So I have a TWA right now. Amidst all the feedback I've been getting (the church I attend has about 300-400 people every sunday, who see me singing on the praise team), including quite a few why did you cut off all your hair???? comments. 1 out of every 10 or so people ask me if I got my hair texturized. It makes me smile everytime, cause I've mainly been wearing wash n go's; sometimes with gel, sometimes with just conditioner in it.

    I know it's silly…. lol

  • Anonymous says:

    I got my first compliment from a stranger. I was at a conference and a lady walked up to me to ask how long I had been natural (3 months). She then told me that my hair was beautiful!

  • Anonymous says:

    Best to date was from a coworker. He took one look at me last week and 'ordered' me NEVER to wear my hair like that again (in a braid out with curly ends and a headband on. I gave him this puzzled look…"uhhhh…why??" Him: "You're gonna make the girls around here mad, doing with your hair what they can only do with a weave!" lol

  • Anonymous says:

    i recently went with some friends to dublin, ireland. i wore my hair in a twist out. everywhere we went- clubs, bars, fast food joints- random irish guys kep coming up to me to tell me how much they loved my hair. it was awesome, and definately a way to stand out and get noticed in a city where the ladies all dress to the nines when they go out πŸ™‚

  • Anonymous says:

    I got most of my comments when I had a TWA. People loved how my curls just popped LOL!!!! Now I dont get as much compliments, but people always love to touch and feel my hair. My nephew just like the last lady's son LOVES to keep his hands in my hair. He's five months old so new textures grab his attention and my hair is one of his favs. πŸ™‚ Having natural hair defintely makes me feel good that my swag is not that of everyones elses, it grabs attention, and is my own. I couldn't be more blessed with the beauty God gave me.

  • Anonymous says:

    I live in the Caribbean and it seems that so many of the men are programmed to think that straight hair is better. I get compliments all the time since I have been natural but the one that stays with me always is when this guy standing in the bank as I passed, leaned over and said," Oh Gosh Black woman… nubian yuh real fuh true!". Translated that means, "Oh my Black woman… Nubian you are real in truth!". *Smile* It was wonderful!!

  • Anonymous says:

    In the early months of my transitioning (still at it…almost one year!), I was still a little insecure about my natural hair and appearing to 'not care' about my looks since I wasn't relaxing anymore. An older lady stopped me in a store and told me how much she loved my curly hair and how it was a blessing to see a young black woman wearing the gift God gave me naturally. It was really sweet and it gave me a new outlook on WHY I am transitioning and why I fall more in love with my hair everyday.

  • Anonymous says:

    So, one day i was shopping at DOTS and the white sales clerk was like ' oh i love your hair, it's so curly and cool'. lol.

  • Anonymous says:

    My shallow boyfriend doesn't really know wot to say. He always just affirms compliments from others, but I know he doesn't like it.

    But I do, very much and I'm leaving him, got to apply to grad school and get a lot done πŸ™‚

  • Anonymous says:

    I enjoy reading all the compliments by the way

    I'm currently transitioning so I like to be very simple with my hair. One day I pulled my hair into two ponytails and went to get something to eat. I decided eat Subway so I waited in line and noticed the caucasian Manager just looking hard. When my turn arrived I walked to the I think mexican woman worker who asked me for my order, when the manager interupted me and said "your hair looks really nice, turn around let me see the back"! All I could do was smile (and turn around) LoL!!!!!!!! Then the woman worker said "yeah I like it too, very pretty". That made my day.

  • Anonymous says:

    I BC'd a month ago and put a pic on facebook…an old school friend of mine simply said "FIYAAAAAHHHHHHHH"….she is a curly herself!

  • Victoria says:

    I am loving reading all of these compliments! I'm almost 2 months post BC and I haven't had too many compliments. I didn't transition at all, I just cut it all off. And I've been very self-conscious about it because my sides are so thin, but I've been wearing it in an effort to boost my confidence by showing off the real me. Just reading all these comments is giving me the courage to stay with this. I'm proud of myself and all the ladies on here. We ARE beautiful. Naturally.

  • Anonymous says:

    Well, the best compliments I get are from my 10 yr. old natural daughter. With her uber thick curls she can rock bantu knots, braids, TNCs like nobody's business. But my hair is much finer, wavy and not as long as hers so I hadn't found my signature style yet. One day I got the courage to just sport a WnG with a simple headband and she said, "Ooh Mommy, I love your hair! It makes your face look so pretty." Enough said. Now I sport a WNG whenever the weather permits and she compliments me each and every time!

  • Cherry says:

    I got a big chop about 2 weeks ago and was a bit upset that I cut my hair off again. But it's grown a bit and the curls are looking nice.

    This woman in front of my building told me my hair was pretty! As I was walking into the building she said 'I wish my hair would do that'!

  • Savannah says:

    I get compliments all the time from the other girls in my esthetician class. I also try to giver compliments to other Naturals when I see them. Last night I complimented a girl on the train who was rocking a fierce braided frohawk/hump combo.

  • KeetaRay says:

    I was at the airport recently, in New Orleans, LA, in line waiting for my smoothie. The woman behind me said to me, "You have the most gorgeous hair!" It came from a white woman, I was surprised but appreciated the comment. I was wearing a twist-out from the mini-twists I had in 2 weeks prior.

  • FaithPeach says:

    I rocked my first successful twist-out a couple weeks ago on the first day of my Marketing internship. The first compliment came from a girl in my class that morning who has the most amazing locs I've ever seen. She stopped by my desk after class and said "I just want to tell you that your hair is gorgeous and you make me want my strands back so bad!" Then, while at the internship, the Marketing Director (who has naturally straight hair *hint, lol) said to me "I just love your hair! Now, how do you get it to do like that?" After giving her the most basic explanation, she replied "I wish I had just ONE curl.." Now that's a good hair day, lol.

  • Anonymous says:

    Most of my comments come from men of other races (mostly White, Asian, Hispanic). The last one I remember was from my audiologist (older white guy). He just gushed over my 2-strand twists and said that he always felt that natural hair looked better on African-Americans.

    I didn't know what to say to that, so I just said "thank you."

    I get the occasional compliment from my mom (she still says I need to straighten it for interviews =/ ). The highest compliments were from my 2 sisters- 1 is natural, 1 is transitioning πŸ˜€

  • Anonymous says:

    All of these stories are a true inspiration, I have not received a verbal compliment yet but my son is 3 months old he grabs my hair all the time! I love that! I'm waiting my husband to notice lol

  • Anonymous says:

    I love all the compliment stories!! This makes me even more excited to go natural. I have gotten quite a few compliment on my permed hair, but i cant wait to hear them when i go natural. I've been the type of girl who always blends in with the crowd. I'm ready to change that and have all eyes on me! lol.

  • Anonymous says:

    I'm a high school student and I recently put my hair into yarn twists for the first time. I go to a predominantly white school, and all of my friends were complementing me on my hair. They asked lots of questions about it and the twisting process. Their curiosity about my hair kind of made me laugh because half of them were baffled at how I got it to grow a foot in three days =)

  • Girl Friday says:

    Well, from someone not my husband lol. I was out at a night club/bar this weekend sporting a knot out. Now, I had spent ALL DAY fussing with it and looking in the mirror while out shopping and wondering how it is that I could look so crazy. I was REALLY not feeling my hair that day! Anyway, so this dude walks up to me and says "I really love your hair, it is so you!". My jaw dropped. Not only was this my first compliment since I started transioning in June last year, but the fact that he said "It's so you", that really touched me. It IS me, and it's like him saying it was the first time I realized that other people could see it. I felt so out of place all day, so I definatley feel like God was right on time with that one! He was like, yeah, I made that hair on your head and you look beautiful with it!

  • Anonymous says:

    My sister said " Wow. You look like you really know who you are."

  • Anonymous says:

    I got mine at church one morning. One of the younger gentlemen there loves to see what I do with my hair each time he sees me. One morning I was behind him and he didn't see me come in, he turned around and was suprised I was there, then said, "Whoa, the hair is ON POINT!" I've been on cloud 9 since then.

  • Anonymous says:

    Got mine at a friend's wedding from college. She got married 1 month after my BC (well, a fade really =)At that point, my new growth was just coming in and was very curly/ coily. One guy who I haven't seen in 10 yrs came runnin up to me to tell me how much he LOVED, LOVED my hair and thought women w/ natural hair are the most beautiful. Kicker was… he didn't recognized me! When I "re- introduced" myself he said "WOW! You were beautiful then, you're BEAUTIFUL now!" I was gushing for a few days after that =)

  • Jae says:

    Hi Nikki & Fellow Naturalista's!

    Im excited to share my first compliment. Last monday, a day after my BC I was at a restaurant waiting for a table & this girl walked by with a natural poof and it was kinda messy but a cute messy and as I was admiring her hair and thinking that looks cute she says out loud to me "I like your hair", much to my surprise but I said "thanks & omg I was about to tell you the same" she says, thanks & yes girl yours is just beautiful"! πŸ™‚ Now mind you I was somewhat fresh off a 13 hour road trip and had thought ok I cant wait to get home to really do something with this all "new" natural hair. So needless to say that was a good feeling especially fresh off the BC! πŸ˜‰

  • Anonymous says:

    today at church my pastors wife (caucasian) was making an anouncement, and half way through it she stopped, and said 'i like yor hair', the entire church laughed. after service everyone in church was complementing my hair, and my pastors wife came looking for me to tell me my hair looked chic and wanted to know what i did to my hair. i even convinced my friend who could never make to her mind to go natural. yay

  • Healingprose says:

    Hey, I def used the last compliment post as my inspiration before my BC last month. I'm glad I can be part of that inspiration now!

    So far the majority of my friends and coworkers love it! When I got home the day of the BC, my mom held up the Black Power fist when she saw me. That's all I have for crazy "compliments". I feel like I do get a lot more stares than usual, but I take it as a good thing. It makes me more edgier and confident.

  • says:

    I get compliments on my hair all of the time. I LOVE it!! My sister gets tired of hearing people talk about my hair!LOL!!! My hubby loves my natural hair so much that he begged me not to ever get a perm!!! Yeah, he so sweet:)

    I even get compliments from white people. I mean A LOT of white people. White people with naturally straight hair express to me that they wish they had big naturally curly hair with the option to wear it straight.

    I must admit that receiving these compliments is AWESOME!!WONDERFUL! and FABULOOUS!!! It's so nice to hear that people love my hair since we live in a world where perms are the dominant choice. I truly LOVE it!!!

  • Anonymous says:

    I have three different instances that stand out in my mind. The first is when I had dreads. They were dyed a honey blond and they were in curls. I was at work and this mexican guy came through the checkout line. He said my hair was beautiful and asked if it was real. I said yes and then he asked if he could touch it (which I allowed). He seemed to be in awe of my hair.

    The second was when I first cut my dreads. I probably only had about a half inch of hair. I was afraid of looking like a boy but I got the most compliments. One was from this black guy I was helping pick out some jewelry for his girlfriend. He said my hair was sharp and that not all women could wear their hair that short and look good.

    The third was a couple of weeks ago at Target. I was paying for my purchase and the cashier (a young white guy) said "wow your hair is awesome". I said thanks, then he asked if my curls were Natural or if I had a perm or some other chemical in it. I stated that it was Natural and then he said "it's beautiful".

    In my time being Natural, I have heard a few ignorant comments but mostly positive ones. I think it depends on presentation. I know there is a lot of conversation about how men in general especially black men feel about Natural hair, but since I've been Natural I've dated and been complimented by black, white, hispanic, and Arab men. I think men and people in general are drawn to the positive energy that comes with showing your true self. It's funny to think that hair would have anything to do with that, but I believe it does. I think wearing Natural hair says this is the real me, unaltered. There are people who think all black women wear weaves because it's all they see. A lot of people don't think or know that blacks (who are multiracial) can have curls. A lot of black women don't even know their own hair texture because we've been brainwashed to think it's bad. I never felt like my hair was anything special until I went Natural but I realize that it is. I stand out and I am able to create my own style based on who I am and what I have not what society tells me I should be or look like. I still rock a weave from time to time or wigs/hair pieces for versatility but I love being Natural. By accepting my hair it is part of accepting myself and I am also teaching other people that Natural hair is pretty and versatile. That it's not what they thought it was. One by one we can dispell the myths and help people understand that good hair is healthy hair. I have watched my mother suffer with hair loss and it has been painful. She would love to have a full head of healthy hair regardless of texture so we are all blesssed.

  • Anonymous says:

    I was at a commencement ceremony late last month and some random lady asked if she could touch my hair (I didn't know how to feel about that, but i obliged…boy was I glad that it was well moisturized :)! It was probably the best twistout I've ever done. She simply said "your hair is soooooo soft and nice." After that compliment, I was on cloud nine for the rest of the day!

  • Anonymous says:

    At my coworker's New Years Eve party, she and another coworker hands were in my TNC for some time. They normally see me with a slicked back puff and this was the first time they saw the TNC.

    Also, saw the family New Years day for dinner and they were remarking on how pretty my hair was. I'm very self conscious and it was pretty weird looking up and catching people staring at me and my big hair.

  • Notthecoolmom says:

    I can't say waht my best compliment is, but 2 of my best were from mature naturals who asked me how I did my hair. One even said, " I'm going to have to have you do mine." At first I was thinking, I don't even know you like that, but looking back it was a compliment.

  • Anonymous says:

    On Christmas, my brother told me that everyone wanted to touch my hair and started patting my curls. I was wearing the Kinky Curly line of products and it was a wash and go. It was my first time using that line and my hair that day was defined and moisturized. Also, it was nice to hear because people always compliment his hair for its extremely loose texture. And here he was enjoying my curly "boingy" hair! :]

  • brittbritt14 says:

    During the greeting of the guests at my church this lady I'd never met before complimented me on my twist out. She asked how I'd done it and said that she could never get her hair to turn out like mine. She asked for my phone number and then asked how much I would charge to do her hair like mine. Side hustle on in 2010!! πŸ™‚

  • Nappy3000 says:

    For the holidays I did a bantu knot out and my hair came out really curly, soft and shiny! Everyone loved it and many were surprised when I told them, I do not have a perm. The best compliment over the holidays was after my aunt touched my hair she said "it's so soft like a baby's'."

  • Unknown says:

    Just yesterday while doing some after holiday shopping, I was complimented by the sales lady in the Chanel boutique at Niemen Marcus. The impressive or shocking thing is, I thought my hair looked rather frazzled. I was wearing two week old twists that I plan on redoing tonight! But this Caucasian saleslady told me my hair was "adorable" and "fabulous"! Imagine that!

  • Anonymous says:

    I received my compliment the Tuesday before Christmas at a retail clothing store. One of the employees there told me my hair was very "festive" and if I was wearing the hairstyle (a several days old twist 'n curl) especially for the holidays. A very unexpected compliment since I was thinking at the time of how badly I needed to wash and restyle my hair! It made my day.

  • Kikilious says:

    well… all these compliments are so awesome . im actually doing two strand twists ( or as we call it on island in the caribbean – twist curls ) now. anyway, the best compliment that i have gotten can from a canadian guy ( with straight hair lol). He stared at me really hard then he said " ur hair….its just soo so b.b.. beautiful. i means it just soo..ur just so beautiful". oh lord!i was so supprised and he's compliment was sincer. that made me feel soo good because i thought he was going to say something bad when i saw the way he was looking at it.
    to all the natural sisters, our hair is totally awesome! so rock it with con- fi- dence lol

  • Lit26 says:

    My best compliment came from Human Resources at my jod. Two days in row the person in payroll in HR walekd past me and said "your so cute". She has never said that when I wear a weave or a wig so I knew she meant my natural hair and I wasn't dressed up either.

  • Anonymous says:

    I was in the hospital of all places and I was told my hair was fierce! The lady also had naturally curly hair and she seemed to be growing hers out whereas mine is at a full length. I was extremely shocked because the wind had pulled my hair 80 different directions by the time I had got inside, so I was fairly pleased to know that most weather, rain, wind even snow doesn't do much hair to our lovely curls. After seeing my friend that was doing well and that compliment I walked out of there with a hop in my step.

  • Anonymous says:

    So I've been transitioning for a month now. Last weekend I was staying at my aunt's house and I was wearing a braid-out and my cousin just looked at me. He asked How I got my hair "that way". I told him I had washed my hair, braided it and then unbraided it when it was dry. He just smiled and said: Black people hair is the most interesting hair there is. I thought that was a huge compliment lol

  • SHADOW says:

    My first ever in public!:
    I was in Ricky's NYC and a lady sporting a small afro abruptly stopped me as I was passing her and said 'Excuse, can I ask you, what do you put in your hair to make it so shiny?". I was flabbergasted and all I could do was make a cheesy grin for a second and pat my hair like, OMG really? Haha. I was sporting my 1st ever successful braid out and I was at a loss for words of what to tell her exactly because I didn't want to overwhelm her gushing about my fav products. πŸ™‚

  • Anonymous says:

    I've been visiting CT for the past week and I've been rocking a twist out. These are the compliments I received:

    1. I love your hair
    2. Your hair is so cute. How did you get it to look like that?
    3. I like your twists
    4. Your hair is nice

  • Chicago Metropolis 2020 says:

    I think my favorite comments come from my other natural ladies. Over the summer, when I was on the way to work, I would see other women who were natural. Often, we would make eye contact and fall all over ourselves to compliment and encourage each other. Those moments are always special.

  • Monique R. says:

    I finally decided to debut my TWA at work and at school earlier this month. I did my BC Oct. 17th and had been wearing a wig to work and a scarf to my classes. I went to work and had nothing but compliments from customers and my employees. "Oh my goodness, I love your hair cut, it's so pretty and curly! I wish I could do my hair like that!" Those compliments were from straight haired co-workers. I had a women come in that was transitioning tell me "I love your natural. Keep on doing you! I'm going back to being natural." All this on my first day wearing it this way to work. I went to class the next day and on my way out to my car, a black man probably in his late 40's early 50's complimented me. He said "Your hair is beautiful. That's what I call true beauty. We need to see more of that instead of that straight hair." Now his comment really made my day because that was the first compliment I received from a man. I love being natural and will never go back!

  • Anonymous says:

    I live in a place where the natural scene is non existing. When i do get compliments it's always from caucasian race, never my own people. One day at work a brother came up to me and said how much he loved my hair, i was in total shock, i ask him was he from here, he told me New York……so that explain why he loved my hair…that made my day hearing it from some one of my color

  • kwm537 says:

    Last Friday I spent the entire day putting small twists in my hair. It was the first time I had done them so small, so I had no idea how they would turn out. As usual, my husband made no comment, and my kids barely noticed. The first time I went outside with them in a lady at Target told me my hair was beautiful. Literally every time I have gone out I have had a positive comment. Just yesterday (twists are now a week old) a lady at the grocery store stopped ad said… "Girl, your hair is GORGEOUS… I wish I could do that!" I wish my family could appreciate the beauty in my hair, but at least it feels good to know others do.

  • Nutmeg says:

    Yesterday just happened to be a great day — I had done a braidout, but I wanted to keep the pattern tight until I styled,so I just unbraided and put it in a ponytail. I saw a lot of folks I knew who talked about how much it'd grown and how shiny it was (and how good it felt, 'cuz folks just put their hands all in it without asking, ha!).

    Then I went to do some shopping, and the clerk had just done the BC, and we had a 15 minute conversation about natural hair. At the end of that she said, "You inspired me, I'm gonna stick with this." That was the best compliment EVER! πŸ™‚

  • fergee says:

    Beautiful!!!! Too many complimets to read! :o)This is my second time going natural in three years. With more information on how to care for my natural hair, I am loving God's blessings! I'm getting compliments from both blacks and whites. The black people are saying, "You have 'good' hair! I tell them, "You have "good hair, too' –just let me show you!

  • Maria says:

    One of my co-workers admitted to me that there is a person who works at my firm that made the decision to go natural because of ME. She saw how I went from relaxed to natural and is now transitioning. Now this news made me so happy because I didn't realize I was indirectly helping people. That made my entire day and also made me realize that we may influence more people than we really know.

  • MissCurly says:

    This compliment came by surprise while I was at work and wearing a three day old BraidNCurl no less! My co-worker was like… "Can I cut your hair and keep it? Your hair looks so full and healthy." OMG I was like wow because I had just henna that weekend. I felt like all the work I put into maintaining healthy hair has paid off. I have beautiful full healthy hair that people actually notice.

  • Misses B. says:

    Today, I wore my hair in a wash n go, which is very rare for me. I usually have my hair in a twist or braid out. I walked by a women in the mall that seemed to be staring at me. As i walked past, I heard her tell her friend, "See, that's what I want my hair to look like." I walked a little taller for the rest of the day, *lol*

  • Anonymous says:

    A few weeks ago another natural (if I had to guess, she was in her 60s) walked up to me and was like OMG!!! I was looking around like, "What happened?" She went on the tell me she loved my hair and asked me how I achieved the look. I was wearing a twist out. She told me I looked like a doll.

  • yaddayadda says:

    At Thanksgiving, my cousins drooled over my 2-day braidout. They loved the health an length…I even inspired my older cousin to grow his 'fro out!

  • satin doll says:

    My best compliments always come from my husband who is always running his fingers through my hair and hates for me to even twist it up at night. I love it!

    Another great compliment came when I was volunteering at a respect my vote campaign. My hair was in a braided roots wash n go. Nelly (yes the rapper) was there and he was shaking everyone's hand and then he came to me and said I like your hair, and then ran his fingers through it! It was surprising to see that even rappers who love the video chick type of woman liked natural hair

  • Brown Babe says:

    I'm 7 months into my transition and experimenting. A few weeks ago I was switching from my my style and feeling a little self conscious about my new do. I was in the elevator going up to work, and this woman behind me was staring at me – I could feel her eyes on the back of my head for 7 floors. Well, when I was about to get out she said, excuse me, but I just absolutely love your hair – its beautiful. I was shocked! and of course my confidence was sufficiently boosted for the day :o)

  • Unknown says:

    My white friend at work almost everyday compliments me on my hair…but especially loves it when I do the twist-n-curl she calls it "rosettes".

  • UrbanDesire says:

    My girlfriend (white) and I were attending a Halloween Party, I didn't dress up as anything specific I went as me- "random black girl" I was wearing my curly afro….lol. So at this particular party, it was mainly caucasians, this white guy came up to me and started staring at me and started complimenting how great my hair looked au natural and other white guys came in and joined in with the compliments. I was so in awe…and blushing from ear to ear.

  • KrazyK says:

    Best compliment was actually from the lead singer of a heavy rock band called Sevendust. I'm in the front row, basically, of the crowd and the singer Lajon Witherspoon (with the most awesome dreads) walks and observes the crowd giving shout outs. He sees me and smiles and reaches out and touches my hair! (which was in a curly fro from a few day old twist out) and then he gives me a guitar pic! I was sooooo excited! And that was truly the best compliment I've gotten thus far. Even rock stars dig it!

  • Anonymous says:

    I love when i get compliments like who do your hair, and i say oh i do. I never got that when i use to flat iron my own hair. My first compliment was this older lady on the bus who was also natural.The compliments keep coming.

  • Anonymous says:

    I get lots of compliments from my coworkers (all white females) who like when I wear my hair "big" after I uncoil it from bantu knots. Usually I wear wash & gos, which gets compliments too, but I'm always asked "when are you gonna wear it big again?" Makes me feel good when I hear all you ladies great experiences!

  • Chaka_Millz says:

    my favorite compliment came from this guy while I was in the student center goofing off with a friend I hadn't seen in a while. I introduced myself to him and I noticed that he kept staring at me for some reason until he finally said "Your hair is so beautiful I just wanna touch it, may I?" Since he asked nicely I let him play in it for a sec.
    Another funny one was from this older guy he asked "is that all your hair?" I smiled and told him yeah and he said "You look beautiful." I love my naps!!!

  • Anonymous says:

    During a break from lecture, a friend came up to me and we were talking. Out of the corner of my eye, I noticed another classmate who I really didn't know just standing there. Finally she says " Don't mind me. I just had to come back here and look at your hair. It is awesome. I dunno if you saw me but I kept looking back at your during lecture". That made me feel preeetty good:)

  • Anonymous says:

    I love this post for its positivity and I usually don't comment but I will because I am loving my hair. One memory is from last year when I was wearing my TWA, which I usually didn't do then. My roommate just paused when she saw me and said "you are literally glowing. You look so happy when you are not in braids". That made me tear up. Compliments from my husband make my day. He loves feeling my hair and he beams everytime I wear my braidout. I even have him buying me flowers to stick in my hair! I love him, but most importantly, I love how my confidence grows with every day that passes by.

  • Anonymous says:

    I was at Cook-out one day after school and this lady tell me I should be a hair model. I'm mad now because I don't even remember what I had done to my hair or what products I used.

    Also at the end of my senior year in high school and I was talking to this guy and he just loved my hair. Every time we were together, her couldn't stop playing in or complimenting my hair. Sometime even when I was driving down the street and he was in the passenger side.

    When I came to college, my room mate just loves my hair. She even told me she was going to cut it off and glue it to her head! I keep telling her to just grow out her hair. But apparently the transition process is hard. [I've been natural all my life]

    And my last one didn't involve any word just action. I went to this party Saturday night and I was dancing with this guy, and the whole time he was playing in my hair. I had it in two-strand twist, and I guess he thought it was soft. He was "foine" too!!!! lol

  • Kalamari says:

    I was sitting in math class a couple weeks ago and I'm sitting with this biracial girl I've really gotten to know well through being in class with her. The past couple years I would see her in school with her hair in a fro, puff etc. and I remember I used to envy her because of her curly hair (I didn't think mine could do that because she had "good hair"). Anyway, I went to math class with a wash and go with twist-out bangs, and she said "You know, since you cut your hair last year [when I BCed], I've really been loving it. It makes me a bit jealous actually because my hair is too loose and thin to hold twists or braids…" and she frowned. I said thank you and told her how her hair helped inspire me to continue to grow my hair out. πŸ™ Sadly we're the only two natural girls at my high school….

  • b. says:

    I was playing with my friend's 1-yr-old son, who has Korean and Russian heritage. As usual, my 'fro was out and big. As I sat on the floor, he kept coming up to me and playing with my hair with this look of utter fascination and glee on his face. I love cute babies and he *so* made my day.

  • Unknown says:

    I've had natural hair for several years but I always wore it straight never let anyone see it curly. During my freshman year in college the guy I was talking to came into my room after I had showered and washed my hair and it was still wet && curly. He just kept looking at me and was like "I love your hair like that, It's really cute"

    It was so funny to me because he was a white guy and all the black guys that had ever seen my hair didnt really seem to care for it. So that kinda made my day and made me like him even more.

    Now I love my curly hair and hate to have it straight!!

  • Anonymous says:

    I absolutely love when my daughter receives compliments on her hair. Usually it's the people who are born with straight hair that give the compliments but one day, while leaving the library, there was a group of our people outside of the door and when my daughter (sporting a twist out) and I walked by they all ooohhhh and ahhhed over her hair. My daughter ate it up! This was one of the rare occasions that some our people complimented her hair so I especially loved that.

  • Anonymous says:

    I had taken my niece to Marshall's a few weeks ago. I was standing outside the dressing room while she was trying on different outfits (Auntie's treat). All of a sudden out of no where this overly enthusiastic white woman kept telling me how pretty my hair was. That was great but then she almost broke the cardinal rule! She began walking towards me with her hand extended….yes! she was reaching for my hair. She wanted to touch it. Stating that it LOOKED so soft. I love being natural it makes me stand out.

  • Butterfly73 says:

    So I've been wearing my curly fro/wash n go for awhile now and when my job had a Halloween contest for each team, I just worked my fro with the outfit. Well, I've gotten so many compliments about how good my hair looked.I was so surprised and thankful

  • Pretty Awesome Penguin says:

    I am 14 weeks into transitioning and am wearing a 2nd day BnC today. I was walking past a bus stop and a woman with a wig on stopped me and asked me how I got my hair that way and if I had done a flex-rod set. I told her it was a BnC and I curled the ends and she said it looked really pretty. I couldn't stop smiling and I still am :D. That is the first compliment I've gotten about my hair.

  • Unknown says:

    I got a compliment while cuddling with my boo…He said it felt like "cotton"…I simply smiled, and kissed him on the cheek…

  • Anonymous says:

    I was sitting down minding my own business, when this guy comes up to me and starts touching my hair. He tells me: 'I really like your hair.' It was sweet.

  • mrssmif says:

    I have two very favorite compliments:

    This past summer, I braided my own hair in to very small braids, and was amazed myself at how long my hair had grown. I was in the walmart checkout line w/my son, and when we got to the register, the cashier (who had micros w/extensions) looked at me and said, "ooh, what kinda hair is that? I'm bout to get mine redone, and I really like that." At first I was baffled, and looked at my son, and he started giggling, as I explained to her that it was all mine. She was taken back for a minute, and then she was like "wow, that's some nice hair." I was geeked all the way home, lol…

    The other time was when I went to a grad party from one of my bff's since high school. (We are both adults now, and she was really against my original decision to stop perming, she was like "what are you gonna do if you don't perm", lol"). Being a gala event, I was extremely worried about my hair, as I knew I'd be the only nappy in the place. Imagine my surprise, when people were coming up to me left and right ALL night telling me how pretty my hair looked, and asking how I got it like that…

  • Anonymous says:

    I had good hair days this week and some random man on the street SHOUTED at me, you have BEAUTIFUL, BEAUTIFUL hair!

  • ddenise says:

    my very first time going out in public with my natural hair that i washed and styled myself (with curlformers!) was this week. i havent had a perm in almost 2 years, but I have still been 'trapped' doing presses and always going to the beauty shop. So I was a little self-conscious about going out with my wild frizzy curly hair for the first time.

    Well, I am getting my eyebrows waxed yesterday and as she is doing my eyebrows and then says "you have beautiful thick hair." (i say thank you. but then keep talking because I dont know how to take a compliment). "no really, you are lucky to have such beautiful hair." i was on a high all the way home. my big curly hair has a personality all on its own πŸ™‚ thanks eyebrow lady! you have my business forever lol.

  • Anonymous says:

    It was my first time in NY last month and I was underground in the subway trying to find the right exit. A natural girl with twists or dreads whooshed right by me (it was so fast I couldn't tell, i wasn't even looking up)and I heard her say something but she was moving so fast, I guess trying to catch her train, that the sound trailed behind her. I heard "I like your hair." It took a second to register, especially since it was just my shrunken fro, and it was loud and noisy in there. I yelled out in my easily drowned out voice "thank you!," but I doubt she heard me. I really like this compliment because I felt like she went out of her way to say it. It was so fast, so encouraging, and so simple that I will never forget it.

  • curlygem says:

    I was looking around for random items in a Houston area Wal-Mart when a lady stopped me in the juniors' section. "Excuse me, but how long have you been natural, and what did you do to style it that way?" I told her 1 yr., 8 mos., and a twist-out that I had put up in a stretchy cotton headband. I noticed her curly, silver roots and asked if she was transitioning (with a big smile). She told me she wasn't sure if she was ready to BC. All I could do was advise her not to be afraid of her natural texture. She said something like, "Looking at your hair inspires me to keep growing mine out."

  • JoyCurl says:

    A young woman who I hadn't seen for a while was wearing her hair natural. I complimented her on how great her hair looked. Her response, "Thanks, I was inspired by you."

  • babygirl84 says:

    Last weekend, my friends and I went to PA to visit Field of Screams for some scary fun and while we were waiting in line for the haunted house, my girlfriend who is natural but only wears it straight laid her head on mine (hair was out in a wash and go) and squealed, "OOOo, your hair is like a pillow, I wish I had pillow hair". I laughed.

  • Alicia says:

    Today while I was washing my car I got a compliment from another sista. She said "your hair is beautiful" and she's actually transitioning right now. She was wearing a weave but vowed that she's never relaxing again. She said she actually saw me before and thought my hair was a 1/2 wig (I was wearing a braid-out)! I told her the next time I see her I better see a fro!

  • Liza says:

    This morning a friend of mine was like "this is what I need, its so thick and healthy" and proceeded to put her hands all up in my hair. I told her "first, get your hand out of my head, and second stop getting relaxers and you'll have thick healthy hair too". She wasn't trying to hear me though.

  • Lost_One says:

    I wasn't feeling well recently and I KNOW I looked horrible. I went into Walgreens to buy some medicine and the cashier told me my hair was really cute. I told her thank you because I hadn't combed/styled my hair all day. It's amazing- when you feel like you look bad that's when you seem to get the most compliments πŸ˜‰

  • Ellagirl says:

    This summer, I wore my hair out in a curly fro, and went to a jazz open mic night during the local university's jazz camp. About ten strangers came up to me during the course of the evening to tell me that they loved my hair, including one of the headliner from the evening, a fairly big, well known jazz artist. It was pretty cool…

  • EricaThurman says:

    I was in a crowded club, rocking my TWA and saw another sista making her way through the crowd towards me. She finally got close, leaned over and said, "I just had to tell you how much I love your hair." She went through so much to get to me that I didn't even mind that she touched it without asking πŸ™‚

  • Anonymous says:

    Well the past couple of weeks I feel like my hair has been a frizzball mess that is driving me CRAZY! I don't give up though and still take care of it. Well a lady came to me today (on a bad hair day lol) to tell me she was new to the natural hair journey and thought my hair was beautiful and healthy. I was so shocked! I told her my routine and she said she would try it. Sometimes we really are our own worst critics. It was just the encouragement I needed today! I wish everybody the best in their hair journies.

  • happynappydelta35 says:

    Beautiful hair!! I am loving all about it.

  • Anonymous says:

    what I find amazing is how many people think my natural hair is a wig. i suppose that's a compliment, huh?

  • Anonymous says:

    My personal compliment to all naturally-haired Black women:

    "…a Black woman’s hair rises by nature. It blossoms against the current of life. At its best, it swirls and spins like the earth, or the sun – a supernova of sublimity and strength. And like any other heavenly body, a Black woman’s natural hair demands nothing less than orbit: total praise from every physical thing within her influence, all revolving around her omnipotence – instinctively, humbly, and altogether…"

    Check out the whole compliment, here:

  • my 2 cents says:

    Thank you SO much for promoting natural hair! We seem to want whatever we don't have… meaning if it's straight we want it curly… if it's curly we want it straight. We are all beautiful! And we should remind each other of that everyday!

  • Angela says:

    i just found you blog and love it. keep up the good work

  • Unknown says:

    Ha I love these stories.
    One day I was getting ready to go out with a guy friend of mine and I was fixing my hair which was in a twist out in the mirror. My little brother who is 5 looks at me and goes I like your hair Meme its looks really spikey.

    Later as I am walking up on my friend he gives me the once over and goes I am really feeling that hair style. You are owning that look.This friend and I actually use to date and he is known for being very honest so his compliment really meant a lot to me. As we are trying to decide where to eat we bump into my best friend who could not stop gushing over my hair. My friend is transitiong back to natural and can not wait till she can wear her hair like mine again. It was a good day. lol

  • Unknown says:

    I was waiting for a package at Fed ex and U know that feelin when someone staring, it was this man in front of me then he comes out of nowhere and asked me how i got my hair like that , I know I had the dumb Face cause I Was Like " Like what " , Its was Blown Out sometimes i forget people R not used to seeing That especially In Brooklyn, I simply Told him It was in its natural state, he asked me can he get his like that and smiled…

  • Anonymous says:

    I just bc'd in august and i get more "why you cut your hair?" than anything as a natural in mississippi, but when i come home from school i work at my dad's store and everytime i go to work this man tells me "i love your hair! imma get my wife to get her hair like yours!"

  • nicholefreeman says:

    since BCing 5 weeks ago from chin legnth hair to the teeniest of afros, I have had lots of compliments from just about everyone I run into..its my husbands compliments that warm my heart. He is a man of VERY few words. When he isnt suffering from a SERIOUS case of hand in 'fro disease, he is always smelling my hair (thanks to Herbal Essence HH and TT) or telling me how confident I am to rock a low cut, how beautiful I look when Im having a "wth did I cut all my hair off" day, and how proud he is that I am natural. :)`

  • freecurl says:

    As I was leaving out of the "Good Hair" movie by Chris Rock, this young girl pointed to me and said to her friends, "I want my hair to look like that".

  • Ranelle Tulloch says:

    I'm in the 8th grade, and my Caucasian Science teacher absolutely loves natural hair like me! I wore my twists and everyone was like look at the little curls at the bottom! It was funny and really cute

  • Anonymous says:

    these shared compliments are very inspiring. Whenever i see another naturalista my heart leaps. i am loving it. beautiful beautiful beautiful. i am just learning the right products to rock my tnc!!yeah!! one day i was playing with the tnc and i liked it but it rained and it got all frizzy. well i went into a store and another natural sista said "i like your hair" she had a huge smile on her face probably like the ones i wear when i see and sista rocking the natural too. made my day. Love this site!!!! thanks curlynikki

  • Anonymous says:

    These stories are great! But ladies… You let your men put their hands in your hair?!?! My husband tries, and I always tell him not to pull out my curls LOL

  • DeNee says:

    I was going to the grocery store and some very dark African Man was yelling "HEY, HEY, HEY!" I looked around and there were other people so I kept walking because I didn't know he was talking to me. I went in the store and he came behind me, and said "I was saying hey to you!". I was like.."OH!" And laughed. I was scanning the grocery "paper" and he was walking around me staring at my hair trying to act as if he wasn't looking at me. It was pretty hysterical. From the "hey" and the staring at me….I have a feeling he was diggin my hair. Lol!

  • DoWhatchaLike says:

    I've had several of my friends tell me that friends of theirs (who I don't know) tell them they met or saw this girl who's hair and curls are were so pretty it made them sick. After a brief exhange of description and name swap…it's Me, they are talking about. It make me feel good that the curly fro I love so much is admired and topic of conversation of others.

  • Shanaz says:

    My 3 year-old cousin has the same fine, fluffy 3c/4a hair that I have. Her mum is Scottish and has a hard time managing it. She's OBSESSED with the Disney Princesses, and talks about wanting a white horse like Sleeping Beauty or a Yellow dress like Belle….but whenever I go to the bathroom she says "Are you gonna do your hair!!!?? Let me watch!" She stands watching me wet or twist or put product in my hair and says "I'm gonna have that hair when I'm a LADY"….it melts my heart…I'm only 21 and have never described as a lady before, especially not for having curls!

  • DivaDr175 says:

    The evening of the BC I went out to grab some dinner. I was so worried about how uneven my hair was and loving the texture that I kept playing with it as I walked home. Some stranger yelled to me as I took my hand down from my head for the umpteenth time that he "loved my hair". I felt like a runway model and flashed him a smile.

  • Anonymous says:

    Seeing all these compliments really is keeping me motivated. I've been transitioning for almost 7 months now and I must admitt that I have been tempted many times to get a relaxer, including this past week, BUT after seeing all these comments i'm not going to.

  • Unknown says:

    I was on my way home – and was standing on the train platform and a little old grey haired man walked up to me and said "OMG I love your style – the outfit, glasses, colors and your hair is so nice, it really fits you". I was so surprised all I could say was "oh my goodness – thank you". His compliment had totally made up for the horrible commute I was having.

  • CallaLily says:

    One evening this week I was experimenting with styles. I let it set overnight and took it down in the morning. I did a frohawk style and loved it (I was slightly concerned it might not be the best choice to wear to work). I got so many compliments from co-workers on my hair that morning. It made me feel so good!

  • Jae Manolo says:

    Yesterday, my co-worker (who was born with straight hair) sweetly asked, "do you mind if I touch your hair?"..I said "sure". She was amazed…told me that my hair was soft and looked amazing πŸ™‚

    Ironically, I went to church in the evening and a middle aged couple who were born with napptural hair (if you catch my drift..) asked me if I'd been electricuted…and if I was loc'ing my hair..and how it looked like I was playing with electricity "or are you just having a bad hair day?"….it was mean..and sad.

    It just goes to show that sometimes the ones who appreciate our difference, are the ones who are not the same as us….and those who are the same, feel uncomfortable with our difference.

  • PoliBohoGlam says:

    After going natural, rocking it for four years, relaxing, and coming back "into the light" I still struggle with my family's views of my hair. My mother is the toughest on me, but she seems to really like it when I started rocking the slicked back buns.
    So, I found it funny that on the very day that Mom's raving about how nice and neat I look with my bun, a lady at work stops me and says "You know, I don't like your hair pulled back like this. I like your hair BIG".
    Me too.

  • B. Reed says:

    I did a bantu knot out recently and my collegue said I look like a rock star. Then she start singing "American Boy" by Estelle (she's so silly, LOL). I was exicited because it was first time trying it and it came out very well.

  • Lena Jolie says:

    This re-post is right on time! haha
    I've been rocking a twist-out this week and the weirdest (yet coolest! lol) thing happened the other day. I was sitting outside of our campus Starbucks with my hubby and our friends when a girl that was sitting inside came out there just to ask me how I got my hair the way it was b/c she really liked it!! πŸ™‚ One of the highlights of my day. It was funny tho b/c I was running around like a nut avoiding a bee that was harrassing us when she came out lol
    As the days pass and my twist-outs get older, my hair gets bigger and fluffier–and sometimes I feel like a fuzzball, but now I embrace it. I'm starting to love it, my hubby loves it, and apparently others do too πŸ™‚ YAY!

  • Anonymous says:

    My boss lived in weaves from the time that she was a teenager. She told me a few weeks ago that my hair reminds her of the natural hair weaves that women are buying now a days. At first I wanted to punch her in the face for her slick little comment. A few days later she asked me how I got my hair that way and she wanted to go natural and that I was her hair role model. She'e very snotty, so I knew it took a great deal of swallowing her Yale unversity pride to ask me for hair advice. I told her patience,love, and care got me this rock star hair. She went natural a few days ago and I adviced her on the products she needed to use!

  • nickye says:

    I get stopped all the time and asked and complimented about my hair. Although nobody thinks it's natural (rod set, curly perm, weave) I'm what I've had done to it so they can get it too. The funniest was it looks so good, it can't be real!

  • nellboogie says:

    Curlies…I love the stories! So motivating and positive! My best compliment came from the wife of a friend. My husband and I were at their wedding reception and the bride stopped me and said that she had been looking at me all night and wished that she could look like me. I was shocked! She said that my hair was amazing. I humbly thanked her for her compliment as it provided more affirmation for my choice to be a Curly Girly! Stay strong and positive Natural Sistahs!

  • sweetdrk1 says:

    I am laying here smilin hard as ever reading these post. I too have gotten tons of compliments but the one that stands out comes from my mom. I hadn't seen her and I wasn't looking forward to the comments. (she is lethal with her tongue) A family friend showed her a picture from FB and she called me crying. "Baby you look just like you did when you were born, you had a head full of curls then..and look at you 40 some years later..OMG you look beautiful!!"

  • Kacy says:

    Hello everyone!! My best compliment came from the guy who is now my boyfriend as of this week (yay)! We've been hanging out for a while now and seeing as how I've been natural since Nov 2008, that's how he first met me. He never made any comment on my hair so I never really thought too much about it. 2 weeks ago I went to get my hair trimmed and colored so I decided to get it straightened. When I saw him the next day I said to him "what do u think of my hair?!" and he said, "it's nice but I like it better when u have it twisted or u have ur afro" and i was like whoaaaa!! =D That made me feel so good because everyone else was complimenting my straight hair everywhere I went but the fact that he said that made me appreciate him that much more and it also made my day! Who knew there were Jamaican men that like natural hair?!!! lol

  • Anonymous says:

    These really ARE cute stories! Well, one of my most memorable compliments was when my 14-yr old twin daughters and I were in a department store. We separated but they eventually found me again. One of the girls said, "Mom, you were easy to find, we just looked for your 'fro!" *I thought it was cute.

    The last time I visited home, EVERYONE loved and complimented me on my hair. My sister, the one who "wouldn't ever go natural!!!" said to another woman all proudly, "Look at how nice her hair is; she's all natural!!"

    I'm lovin' it!

  • Anonymous says:

    at the club – you're beautiful (clearly because i looked 'different'

    at work – how did you do your hair? it's pretty.

    at the nutrition store – you have to make sure you take care of your beautiful hair.

    it makes me so happy and gives me strength to stay positive in my natural journey.

  • Anonymous says:

    Earlier this summer I was up north in Evelth, Minnesota which is not very diverse at all (I have only seen 2 other black people up there). I was shopping with my fiance's mom and I was looking at some jewelry when this older white lady comes up poking me she had a shocked look on her face (I thought we were gonna have an "issue" in this store), and she says "Oh my goodness you look like a doll your hair is so beautiful!" she had the biggest doe-eyed smile on her face and it just made my day.

  • Alisa says:

    yesterday i went to sally's and the sales associate there (who was relaxed) could not believe that my hair was mine. she asked "is that your hair??" in disbelief. after i responded yes she said it looks so soft and pretty and asked if she could touch it.

  • Curly Film Chick says:

    This past weekend I visited my dad and his wife complimented me on my twists. It was cool because first off her and I never really speak and she's never complimented me on my hair before. It was cool,might have sparked us having actual conversations.

  • Ms. Cee C says:

    These stories are very inspiring. I look forward to the day I'm done transitioning:)

  • NaturalBeauty9 says:

    my 11 year old cousin who used to love my extremely long hair came up to me, touched my 2 day old BC and said that this was the best I ever looked. It made me cry because it was so sweet and I was feeling down about my natural hair. I rock it with fierceness now.

  • Anonymous says:

    I'm a high school teacher. I was signing in for work one morning when the building engineer called my name. He asked, "Ms. ________, can I run my fingers through your hair? You're all natural, aren't you?" This was a day after a colleague of mine stated that she loved my hair and asked if she could touch it.

  • genie says:

    I worked at a summer camp. There's this little boy in the kindergarten class, who I like to call "The Lil Homie" (cause he walks with a pimp walk and gives people dap/pound like he's a rapper or something). I had my hair slicked up in a side ponytail and the 'tail' was all curly. He sits by me, looks up and says, "I like yo hair!" He was just too cute.

    This guy I'm dating has seen the straight, dominican blowout and my afro. Although the blowout can be "messed up or sweated out" (which I find guys generally like to do!), he definitely made it clear that he likes the "big hair" i.e. my afro.

  • karibbee says:

    i did the BC recently after an 8 month transition and have been timid and wearing my hair pulled back each day. but today I decided to just take the plunge and wear my curly fro out in public. I'd barely left my apartment when traffic slowed right down due to this one flirty driver trying to get an eye-full. later on a toddler, sitting in a parked car, opened its eyes really wide on seeing me and reached out the window to me which drew the parents' attention over. all very friendly and complimentary.

  • suniismom says:

    Not to sound over confident but I get compliments almost everyday. I live in a very diverse area in Las Vegas. My 7 year old loves my curls. Men (black and others) give me double takes. The main people to tell me they love my hair (curls and beautiful henna color) are middle aged white women. I recently lost 20lbs. This along with my hair makes me feel like i'm getting my sexy back!!! Peace and God bless!

  • Urban Homeschoolers Of Columbus says:

    I have been dating this guy for about 8 months now, and he has NEVER seen me with my natural hair. I have always kept a weave or braids. Well I wore it in my fro puff last week, and we were driving together. I had two little curls on the side of my puff, and he reach over and said "What's this"? I thought he was about to say something mean about my hair. And I explained that they were little curlies that I like to do. Then he looked at me and said "I like the natural look". That meant alot to me.

  • Esther Griffith says:

    i was in a coffee house a couple weeks ago and a fellow naturalista said she loved my hair πŸ™‚ i felt great because her hair looked nice and that must mean she had great hair standards πŸ˜€

    Also, a very fashion conscious coworker told me that my curls look very cute. I'm 4b, 4c and my curls are miniscule. I've always had this thing where i thought that my curls aren't considered curls so it was nice of him to say this.

  • Anonymous says:

    The very first week I unleashed my curls on the world, I went to grab lunch with some classmates. It was a large group of about 12 or so, and the (white)cashier was really busy working to move things along. He looked up at me to hand me my change and stopped. "I don't mean to offend, but I just love your hair. It makes your eyes look… pretty." He was so nervous I laughed for the both of us, and said thank you.

  • Anonymous says:

    i recieve many compliments from my white friends who are curious about my new curls but the best compliment is seeing the trend in weaves and wigs heading toward the curly fro that i rock naturally =]

  • MsLizziA says:

    I think some of my best compliments were people that said they loved my hair and they wished they had the courage to go natural. The crazy thing is i never actually thought of it as having the "courage" its just something i wanted to do because my hair grows better that way.

    I guess we must be some very brave people according to others.

  • Anonymous says:

    I went on a first date with a guy that I've known for a while. Towards the end of the night he said he wanted to touch my hair from the moment he saw me! He then asked permission and commenced to twirling and massaging my TWA. That was definitely a first…that never happened when I was relaxed. The joys of being natural are endless…

  • Anonymous says:

    This summer I have finally learned how to take good care of my natural hair and I have started to wear it down for the very first time in my life. Before it was always in a bun, or chemically treated. The funny thing is: when I walk around many men actually take a long look at me. This new feature actually attracts their attention. Like make up, like make up, like a red dress or like anything flattering. I'm not used to it and I surprise myself laughing.

  • Anonymous says:

    I just did my BC last week after a 10 month transition. Today while I was in the hallway one of my coworkers approached me and told me how much she really liked my hair. She told me she has worked with Black women (she isn't Black) for over 30 years and she has heard so many horror stories about relaxers. It was nice to get a compliment from someone other than my hubby…he likes it too!!!

  • Claudia says:

    My favorite compliment came from this guy I had a crush on. He said I looked so much better with the 'new hair' as he called it. He said it looked great and it suited me.

    I beamed for days after that one πŸ™‚

  • Queenofthe4s says:

    Last night, my 4 year old son decided that he wanted to play in my hair all of a sudden and proceeded to pull it straight up, smoothing and shaping with the palms of his hands. By the time he was done, I looked like Kidd from Kidd n Play!! But he was so excited and kept making me go look in the mirror to see how "nice" it looked.

    When I first went natural, he would tell me that he liked "down hair" (straight relaxed, how I used to wear it) so this is definitely a huge compliment for me…kids can be so honest sometimes πŸ™‚

  • Bermuda Beauty says:

    I wore my hair as a fro hawk. A white co-worker (who by the way hates my hair) said that she loved my hair like that. I thought people were going to point and laugh. But I was told by several people that day and on fotki that they really liked it. So now when I feel I want to be super dupa fly I will do the fro hawk.

  • Anonymous says:

    don't know if you are for locs or not but ima chime in anyway…so i was at the lake doing my usual power walk and there are lots of people out there but this guy and his girlfriend stopped me on my third time around and asked me if my hair was loced i said yes, they both asked if they could touch my hair i was hesitant because it was sweaty but they liked it. my other and best compliment came from my husband he says i look like a queen especially when i wear my locs up. i love my nappy naps locs natural hair makes me feel wonderful.

  • Konstantly_V says:

    I drove my best friend home to Charolette last weekend and when we got to the toll both the lady asked me what I put in my hair today and I said Tresemme and she said "Me too". She said it looked really nice (it was in flat twist in the front and curlie in the back) and I thanked her told her I was still trying to figure things out since I'm newly natural. I told her that her haired looked nice and healthy as well. Then on the plane coming back one of the baggage handlers came on the plane to ask me about my hair. I told her that it wasn't hard to handle or take care of and that I do my hair myself. I told her if she wanted to go natural she should do it and that the internet had lots of information/advice to help with it.

  • Franki says:

    I think my favorite was this spring when I was entering the final stages of my senior independent work. I put my hair in Bantu knots so I wouldn't have to mess with it for a couple of weeks, and I got more compliments in those two weeks than I have on most any other hairstyle I've worn – almost all by my white friends.

  • Libra08 says:

    I love this post! Please keep bumping it! I walked into Trade Secret and this guy came up and asked me did I need any help. I told him no, and he said good! I just wanted an excuse to ask you for permission to touch your hair. I told him sure, and he started touching it and making moaning sounds saying how soft it was. Best believe I almost ran out of there! That was a little too creepy…

  • Unknown says:

    I was at a street festival in Brooklyn, and this woman stopped me and asked me who did my hair. I told her I did it myself. She said "Oh great, do you have any cards? Do you take appointments or walk-ins?" LOL!

  • Anonymous says:

    when i first visited london, i stood in front of this cool club waiting to get in and feeling so not cool compared to the london crowd around me, i was stopped by the doorwoman…. I thought she would not let me in, but she was "you look beautiful…your hair is f… awesome and you really work it" -needless it was a very nice night out :-).

  • wingedleona says:

    So the other day, I was in the Chiptole with my hispanic cousin. I'm half black and half hispanic and my family makes me feel horrible because I'm natural now. When I was driving over there with her, she was cracking on my hair saying how awful it looked, because it was in a fro. So we're getting drinks and this random latino guy behind us says, "I love your hair! I wish I had hair just like yours!!" and the look on his face was priceless. So I thanked him and my cousin looks at me and says, "You know what would be really cute? If you put a clip right there…" lol!!

  • Hali says:

    Another one….more recent!
    I was watching Aladdin with my niece the other night and got a random text from this guy that said "Hali…your hair is absolutely beautiful…just thought I should let you know"
    Talk about making a girl BLUSH!!!! I couldnt stop smiling!

  • Rhapsody in PURPLE! says:

    This man walked up to me and my coil-out puff and said, "i just looove a woman with a natural. its beautiful. I would ask to touch but its soo beautiful and i couldnt do that."

    and he went on to try and impress me. I went home a STOOD in the mirror just to see what he saw!

  • puff says:

    i rocked a fro hawk to work yesterday (getting my janelle monae on) and got compliments from my fellow interns πŸ™‚ it's my new favourite look… the extra styling time is totally worth it.

  • Samantha says:

    This actually was a comment made to my friend, but since she hasn't posted on this thread (yet), I will! Just this past weekend she came to visit me in DC and was rocking her fairly new TWA. We were on the metro waiting for the doors to close to continue our journey when I saw these two (black) teenagers (heading up the escalator to leave the platform no less) beckoning to me and trying to get my attention. I saw that they wanted me to get my friend's attention so I nudged her and as the door to the train was closing and the girls were reaching the top of the escalator, one yelled out, "I love your bush!" LOL I just thought it was wonderful that these two straightened strangers loved my friend's hair so much that they yelled it out for everyone to hear. It made me feel good and the comment wasn't even directed toward me!

  • curlychronicles says:

    most people just say they like/love my hair or that it's soft when they tough it. My sister tells me I look like a little lion lol..that's cute to me πŸ™‚
    This one older guy said my hair looked interesting..I was like thanks.. lol?

  • Anonymous says:

    Actually, today one of my co-workers said I look like I belong on beach somewhere with a pina colada. I usually don't wear my hair out, so today I'm catching people by surprise lol.

  • Mae says:

    I'm glad you reposted this too Nikki because I received some really unexpected comments these past two weeks. I'm a graduate student and I work with my fellow grad students in the lab. The others I work with in the lab are nice and are brothers of another color : ) Recently I've been experimenting with more transition styles and I received compliments from them on several of the new hairstyles I wore. That surely caught me off guard! Put an extra pep in my step those days though,lol.

  • Unknown says:

    My hair is in the funky in between stage right now, not exactly a TWA but not a lot of length either. So it is kind of difficult to find styles that work. So I felt a little adventurous and I tried a bantu knot out and pinned up, it really cute, put on my make-up and proceeded on my merry way to work. I recieved so many compliments that day. One co-worker told me it really suited my face and a friend told me I looked glamourous. It is amazing how these small compliments cand push you over the hump.

  • LetYourSoulGlow says:

    The most re-assuring and impactful compliment came from my boyfriend. When I first met him, I had a weave down to my butt and a face full of make-up. Because this look was what initially attracted him, I thought he would not be attracted to me anymore. πŸ™ Now, all I do is twist out my hair and throw some shea butter on my face and call it a day (very quick and painless)

    Recently I had a Newly-natural-self-doubting-I-can't really-kick-the-worlds-ass-with-my-big-hair days, and I told him that I planned to scrap the natural look and just go to the Dominicans.

    He then looked at me and said "Are you crazy? You're in the beginning stages of the process, of course you're going to struggle! Your hair is pretty, and most women can't even wear their hair like that. I like it and I think you're sexy! That's why I can't stay off of you…"

    A thousand compliments from random strangers will never eclipse that. πŸ™‚

  • Anonymous says:

    I can't say it was the best but it meant alot. A close friend of mines, who is like a bro to me, gets a kick out of snapping on me about everything. Im guilty I do the same to him, but since I've been natural thats been the topic of discussion. It doesn't bother me because I love my hair. BUt yesterday he actually said your hair looks good b*tch ( lol thats what he calls me). He just kept saying how my waves were spinning and my curls looked good.

  • Anonymous says:

    My compliment occurred Monday in the office. I speak over the phone to this atty a lot b/c he handles my cases for me, but we've never met. When he walked in and saw me, he asked if I was ~insert govt name~ and I said yes. He said, "Well Hello Foxy Brown." LMAO. That made me smile. He is an older white man and he told me that i reminded him of Pam Grier.

  • LovintheBlessin says:

    Nikki, it's funny that you reposted this because just yesterday something happened, and I said to myself that I wished I could share it with you guys. I was at the NAACP national convention, and this brother spoke, did a POWERFUL spoken word performance, and delivered a strong message. I don't know about y'all, but when I see an educated, dedicated black man, I SWOON. So, I'm totally crushing on this dude, and then he does a meet and greet, and unlike everybody else, he doesn't just snap pictures and go, but he engages people in conversation. We were talking about disparities in income, and he stops, mid sentence, and says,"i like your hair, it says a lot about you and is so beautiful to me"

    Y'all, I just about DIED. I guess this is all to say that sometime, the person giving the compliment is just as important as the words themselves, because the rest of the day, you couldn't tell me NOTHIN. I was walking around working the heck out of my fro!

  • Anonymous says:

    I get a lot of compliments on my hair but usually when I think my hair looks a mess (lol). But the best compliment is that my 8 year old daughter who is also a curly girl loves her hair too. When she was younger she wanted straight hair.I would say "Well baby god gave us this curly stuff so we gotta deal with it". I kept tellin her I love my curly hair and you'll love yours too someday. Ive kept it in cornrows and braids but over the last year or two I've been letting her wear a wash n go or a curly ponytail with braids in front (usually on special occasions or when we don't have time for a protective style). And to my surprise she loves it. Actually I'm kind of jealous because her hair is fuller than mine. Her Wash n Go is fierce (lol).

    But anyway yesterday we ran into one of my cousins that I haven't seen in years. She hadn't met my daughter before. I had a wash n go and my daughter had her curly pony with the braids in front. She says "is that your daughter?"…then to my daughter "aww you have curly hair just like your mommy" My daughter just smiled this big smile and said "yep!". I was so proud!!!

  • brwngirl901 says:

    I have gotten so many different types of compliments in different stages. When I was wearing a TWA, I mostly got compliments from AA teenage boys who were trying to grow their hair out. If I wash and go, my caucasian co-workers are all over my hair. This one co-worker always says "it looks funky! I like it!". And forget about me going to department stores, I get so many compliments on how pretty it is.

    Just today, I was at Wal-Mart and this lady was on the ailse talking to another natural and when I walked up she pulled me in the convo. She was transitioning w/micros. We talked about products, big chop, you name it! For almost 45 minutes. It was so amazing for three strangers to connect that way. Of course I referred them both to This has been a wonderful journey!

  • naijaprincess says:

    I get tons of compliments on my hair, especially when I wear it in all it's coiled glory;o) Most of these compliments come from folks of other ethnic backgrounds and some black men and women.

    One of my most memorable moments occurred a few months ago. I had started a new rotation at one of the hospitals that I train at and had worn my hair in braids for the first two weeks. I started to miss my hair, so I took the braids out and wore my usual shake and go afro, which is super coily and big when stretched out. I knew my hair was on point by the number of accidents I caused in the hallway that day.

    Folks were turning around and doing double takes, slamming stretchers and wheelchairs into walls and other people walking by, getting hands caught in the elevator as they whipped around to catch a glimpse of me and Bunmi (my hair) walk by ;o) I got lots of compliments that day, most of them surprisingly, from other brothers who rarely compliment my hair!

  • ~EssenseVibez~ says:

    my best compliment came from a gentleman while i was paying my cell phone bill-he walked up to me and said "your hair is beautiful, may i touch it?"–at first i was like "uhmmm, where is my husband and why is he sending a stranger to me to feel my hair?"–i said "sure"–he slipped his fingers all the way to my scalp and tickled my scalp-i said "are you satisfied?"–he took his fingers out and said "what do you mean?"–i turned and smiled "thought it was fake huh?"–LOL–we both laughed and his final words were, "you wearing it sistah!"–i hoped my husband was nearby looking at the smile on my face–cuz that brotha made my day!!—true story **wink**

  • NaturallyMe says:

    The best and most meaningful compliment about my hair came from my Mom. She lives in a different state and I went to visit her. At the airport, she gave me the once over and genuinely told me that my blondish TWA really complimented my features and that she looks forward to seeing it at different color, length and style stages. Since the first comments out of her mouth when she sees me are usually negative, I was surprised. That is one compliment that I play over and over when I'm styling my 'fro.

  • LovintheBlessin says:

    I also went to a predominantly white high school, but i mostly wore my hair in braids with extensions, and i always got compliments on those styles, but I remember once I wore by hair out in between braid styles and it was slightly pulled back in the state in between a puff and a fro and this girl said "i just love your hair, it frames your face like a halo or a sunburst!" and I though that was the nicest thing a blond haired, blue eyed girl ever said to me πŸ˜€

  • Anonymous says:

    Every time I see my little brother he always says "I like your hair". No matter how many times I tell him "Thank You", he will keep saying it! Sometimes he will sit really close to me or sit on my lap just to play with it. If he likes it I know it must be nice since children are very honest about these things!

  • Courtie says:

    I just had to add mine – happened two weeks ago on my birthday.
    I had gone over to my parents house for dinner and had my hair in a big curly twist out (I'm now a year and a half natural).
    My dad said, "You know, when you first cut your hair off, I was skeptical. But it looks great on you. You look like a model."
    My dad is not the one for compliments, so I knew it was genuine, and it made me feel great.

  • Anonymous says:

    2005 – I was only a year into my natural transition and vacationing in Salvador de Bahia, Brazil. My friend, who is also natural, and I were amazed at all of the women who relaxed their hair but did the "wash n go" to have that faux natural curly look. The two of us, however, walked around with big curly hair and felt we stood out like "out of towners". Men would yell compliments and women would walk past us and call us pretty. Amazing!!! That vacation actually helped me start to love my hair.

  • Anonymous says:

    my neice said "Auntie, i like your afro its nice and pretty and soft.

    i melted!

  • Lost_One says:

    I love this post! I haven't had many compliments, but the few I have received really put a smile on my face.

    I enjoyed reading all of the stories

  • Ms. Mae says:

    So I have been transitioning for about 3 months now, but prior to that I had gone through so many changes with my hair that my boyfriend thought he was doing something to stress me out,lol…which he wasn't : ). Anyways, when I told him I was going to try and go natural (for the 2nd time), he said to do whatever made me happy ( he really was just tired of seeing me change my hair like every month!). Well, thanks to blogs like these and other, I finally learned how to do some transition styles that gave my hair a break and my true,thick hair started to show through. My boyfriend and I are long distance so I decided to surprise him the next time I saw him by wearing a more "natural" style. Right after we embraced for not having seen each other for a while, he said " Wow..I LOVE that you are going natural. You look HOT". There's no question that boosted me and gave me some motivation to continue on in this journey. Can't wait to share my transitioning story on this site one day : )

  • Cygnet says:

    You could probably grow a quarter inch of hair in the time it would take me to tell about the confluence of events that resulted in me transitioning, but I will say that rather than one BC, I lost my hair between it breaking and falling out and me doing a series of little snips in response so it wouldn't look so raggedy. The transition started June 2007.

    I recently went home for a family reunion. My mom, who has been hard to please where my hair is concerned, saw my tight red coils and said I needed to pick it out so I wouldn't have "all them little balls" everywhere. It has happened that when I've done an obvious change to my hair that my mother dislikes, someone will later see it and compliment it in her hearing. Sure enough, later that same night after a Bible study, a long-time family friend, sort of an honorary aunt, began gushing about my hair, echoed by a couple of other people. She thought I'd "put something" in my hair to make it curl up like that, and I explained that no, this is how my hair grows and what it does when I style it. I gave a brief rundown of my regimen and got more compliments. My dad then said I look like Little Orphan Annie. Since I love red hair and think Little Orphan Annie is cute, I took it as a compliment.

  • Anonymous says:

    lovely stories…these made my day!

  • Anonymous says:

    Two of my favorite compliments occurred the same day at Wal-Mart. I had worn 2 strand twists for about a week and took them out for a twist out. So while browsing in the bread section, a middle age Caucasian woman approached me and said she loved my hair! She said that the hairdo really complimented me. Then a sister approached me in the meat section and asked how I "did" that to my hair. When I told her I just "twisted it, and then unraveled it", she looked at me and said, "Oh man, my hair won't do that"… (She had a relaxer).

  • momo7 says:

    When I wear my hair out and HUGE, I usually get long stares and whispers. People are rarely bold enough to tell me to my face. The whispers are either indirect compliments or things along the lines of…."she is werkin' that WIG" or "is that her real hair…no really is it?". It's hilarious to me! I love wearing my hair out. It's a liberating feeling!

  • Afrocentric Mocha says:

    So I live in Japan, so I tend to get my fair share of attention. Especially when I wear my hair in twist or t/o fro. So the other day I was at Cold Stone waiting to get some ice cream and the guy behind the counter was just staring and smiling at me. He was a young cute guy and I was with my kids, so I just thought he was being polite. So when I finally got close to him, he whispered, I just wanted to tell you that your are GORGEOUS, and I LOVE you hair. I wish my hair could do that. You wear it well. All I could do was smile and say Arigato Gozimas!! It felt good having someone in this culture, openly acknowledge the beauty of another that looks DRASTICALLY different from their normalcy…

  • Natural Newbie's says:

    This was from my girlfriend, Normally it would take a bomb or some type of air raid to get her excited, but we were going out to dinner and she picked me up and I got in the car and she looked at me for a second and said, "Your hair looks great!" then a smile crossed her face and she said "I love it!" – I cant express how much that meant to me, its the best compliment Ive recieved so far.

  • Unknown says:

    Mine came from a random guy in the club.. i was just standing there with my girls feelin all self conscious because i had just cut my hair and was wearing my TWA.. He was like.. "I love your hair! I just love it".. needless to say I was happy for the rest of the night! πŸ™‚

  • Mel says:

    Mine came from my swetheart..i since i'm in the transitioning stage..i wear my hair in wet sets and it gives me an instant fro..he loved it..

  • Anonymous says:

    I get many compliments from my Asian colleagues. I had one good friend (Chinese) tell me that she loved my curls so much that she was going to the salon to get her hair permed. I begged her not to do it since I'm so paranoid about chemicals. I told her thank you, but to embrace her straight hair in its natural state LOL who woulda thunk it

  • Maria says:

    My best compliment came from my 8 year old niece who is now natural, but for a while my sister had relaxed her hair when she was 4. Luckily I was able to convince my sister to stop relaxing my niece's hair so she's natural now, but for a long time she hated her hair in its kinky state (she's 4a). My niece thinks she's a diva and she never hesitates to tell me if I look a hot mess LOL Anyway one day I wore my hair curly and my niece not only told me how beautiful my hair looked, but she asked me to do her hair. Now she actually has learned to create her own curly styles (yes she's 8, I did mention she's a diva). So her compliment meant a lot to me because she only gives compliments when she genuinely means it. Thanks Angie!

  • Anonymous says:

    Once when I was at a bar here in DC I was walking through the crowd and this white guy with eyes as big as saucers said "wow! I really like your hair!" LOL His look of awe just said a lot

  • Anonymous says:

    Happen a few years back. I was in the check out line and was leaving the store. So I'm outside walking and this lady, who had cute locs or dreads I think said. "I just had to stop you, but you were walking too fast." And she told me "Your hair is very beautiful like that love your curls". That day I felt so giddy and glad that she said that, because at that time I was getting used to my natural hair.

  • Anonymous says:

    The best compliment is when women stop me to advice them on how to go natural!

  • Anonymous says:

    When I was still pregnant and I went in for one of my checkups, I had half of my hair out in twistouts in the front and a ponytail in back. Well as soon as my midwife came in the exam room, she was all over my hair! She wanted to know "how my hair did that" etc. She spent a good five minutes on my hair before actually inquiring about my pregnancy! LOL.

    Same thing happened at my postpartum appt. This time it was a male physician. He was really enthralled with my hair too! Once again, before asking about ME, there was a brief discussion about my hair! He wanted to know what the style was, how it was done, etc.
    Well at least my hard work isn't in vain!

  • Anonymous says:

    I got complimented twice by two different Sephora employees! I was wearing 2nd day twist out and one of the ladies just kept gushing over my hair. She asked me if I went to the salon to get it done! I told her I didn't and she wanted to know how long it took me, what's the style called, etc. I told her and she said the look suited me well- that I looked very Bohemian! LOL the other employee "just loved my curls" and just wanted to touch my hair so badly she said! Both said my hair made me stand out (in a good way obviously) bc you don't see many (any other) ppl w/styles like that.

  • Professah Monee says:

    I was at school ( high school, with a mostly white population) and the boy touched my hair and said, "It's all soft like cotton,I thought it was going to feel like a Brillo pad.I love your hair." He then commenced to smelling it.To this day, he still touches my hair and compliments me on it.

  • LuvDeluxe says:

    Wow I am really interested in the Muslim naturals may we have an interview?

  • luvleelox says:

    I get compliments all the time and from all sorts and I work at the Gov’s Office in my state…pretty conservative as are the most of the folk I work with…so just yesterday I went upstairs to visit a friend in Homeland Security (not quite a bastion of diversity) and one of her Caucasian colleagues stops mid-step as she walks past us in the foyer and says, β€œexcuse me for interrupting but I love your hair, I wish my hair did that, it’s free and stylish, makes you take notice!” I thanked her for the compliment and smiled for two reasons: I appreciate a good compliment and I thought to myself how as a child, teen and young woman I would have never thought I’d see the day that a white woman envied my hair like I envied theirs most of my life…what a shift in my paradigm!

  • Anonymous says:

    So,one day I was at the gas station and I noticed this lady looking at me. After starring for a while she came up to me and asked me who did my hair. I told her that I did my own hair and that I was natural. She said my hair was pretty and that she thought it was a wig.
    Another day a couple of my co-workers and I were talking and one the ladies complimented me on my hair. The other lady said" Oh I know how she got her hair like that…'s in a straw set". I was stunned how convinced she was, I took her comment as a compliment.
    love reading everyones posts!

  • c. janae says:

    I was at an AKA Hat Luncheon and was talking to one of my mom's friends. Then I was introduced to two other ladies at the table. One of them said, "I love your hair." Of course, I said thank you. Then the other asked, "Do you get it done here in Sacramento?" My reply: "No, I do it myself." And they replied saying "Oh wow, well it looks great on you."

    Another time, a woman in the grocery store asked me who does your hair. And I said I do it myself. She said, "Really? I looks beautiful." And I just had it in chunky two strand twists pinned into a mohawk. (mind you, my hair is only about 2 or 3 in long)

  • Kyleigh says:

    mine came at the starbucks drive thru window. First of all we all know how friendly those lil starbucks workers are…i belive they are santas elves lol. but we were jokingly trying to figure out what kind of coffe i should get and i pull up to the window and she is all i love you personality….GASP!!! OMG I LOVE YOUR HAIR! IT IS SO HIGH FASHION AND BIG AND CURLY AND I WANT IT! it feels so good to hear that because my family bashes me constantly and leaves me feeling low but that made me feel great. its intresting how people will say its nappy then others will say its chic and high fashion:)

  • Anonymous says:

    So this past Monday I did my second TnC. It took me an hour to do. However when I woke up the next morning, it was NOT DRY. So I decided I was NOT taking out my twists. I took out the rollers, so I wouldn't get fired from work. I couldn't afford to try again the same night knowing I was not gonna get to it until late again. Knowing that I was going to be highly embarrased by the comments I was going to get, it was the COMPLETE opposite response. People loved it.. And everyday this week people loved my curls.. LOL

  • ChiChi says:

    The most I've gotten is "Your hair looks good" and "You are rocking the natural well". Well, I take that back. My bff and another friend said I should have went natural a long time ago and it looks "real" good.

  • Mzbush says:

    I used to wear my hair straightened a lot but I wanted to stop damaging my hair so I finally wore it curly and several people in my office asked me how I got it so curly. When I told them that it was my hair's natural state, they told me that I should only wear it in it's natural state. I was surprised to hear that from them so it made me feel really good.

  • D_luv says:

    I get stopped a lot about my hair — usually black women wanting to know how I achieve my look and where I get my hair done, by whom, etc. I love it! I love the look on their faces when I tell them I do it myself. The best thing about it is that I can't predict when it will happen, much like a guaranteed win scratch ticket but it's been happening an average of 3-5 times a week since I relocated. I even went to a natural salon recently (DISASTER) and I got compliments and questions from the stylists! Of course that was before I let them in my head… πŸ˜›

    I also gets lots of compliments from men on my hair. They stare and like to play in it. Just last week I was with a certain one and we were at a picnic that got rained out with what looked to be a full on typhoon. We got drenched! My hair was doused, and there my curls were, sitting pretty. He stared in my eyes and began to twirl his fingers in it.. very sexy. Then to top it off he says "Never straighten your hair. You're beautiful." (Shivering a bit just thinking about it!)
    The best part is that I just BC'd in Dec with only an inch of hair and that I currently rock a coil out and is between 6 and 7 inches long!

  • NappySince10/01/08 says:

    *stood in the door* oopz!

  • NappySince10/01/08 says:

    from my little cousin during my first month of being natural. I was in the bathroom finger combining. She stood in the stood in amazement and just said, "wow! it's sooo curly!" If only I had a picture of her face :):)

    My mom, one of the main ones who doubted my transition, would not accept that I did not put anything in my hair one day. She kept asking what I put in it to make it "look like that". I only used water once, earlier that day and she would not stop bugging me! I took it as a compliment πŸ™‚

  • Canela325 says:

    I don't have a particular story to tell, but I have noticed that I get a lot of compliments from people of other races. One of my bosses, in particular, told me she LOVES my curls.

    I'd transitioned for a little over a year, doing a semi-BC in the beginning (cutting about 6-8 in. off), then cutting the rest off gradually. I'm just now allowing my hair to grow, and it's been a bit of an adjustment. Most of my friends still have relaxed hair, so it's hard for them to identify with the process….and even the mental courage that it takes to rock kinky/curly hair in a straight society. For awhile, I straightened my hair regularly as it was growing out. However, a month ago, I decided that I would consistently rock the natural….The other day I decided to straighten my hair just to see how it's coming along. Why do I miss my curls already?! I'm going back to curls TONIGHT!

    Nikki, I want to thank u and my fellow readers for helping me thru this process. This is one of my FAVE blogs because it's a great place for curly girls to come and get support, offer insight, share tips, etc.

  • puff says:

    i've been wearing my hair in a bun for the past couple of days (bantu knot went wrong, don't have time to retwist for my usual BAA)… my co-worker commented yesterday about how sexy my hair was in a fro, which means tonight i'm making the effort to bring it back for the holiday weekend πŸ™‚ and anytime a guy (well, one in particular) runs his hands through my hair and plays with my curls, i'm happy πŸ™‚ i guess it feels better than plastic extensions or yaki… lol.

  • E_v says:

    These stories are too cute!!!! Keep 'em coming. I get compliments on my pictures on FB but my family nor close friends have seen my hair since I left NY (I have been wearing braids). I'm on my way to NY tomorrow so let's see what happens when they're up close and personal. Can't WAIT to see what my male friends think because they LOVED the long braids.

    Have blessed day!


  • CURLYNIKKI says:

    excellent stories ladies! I agree, the best ones come from our significant others…my hubby's compliments resonate with me for days.

  • O.A.Eddy says:

    That story is soo cuteeeee. I mean the one about the guy staring at you while failing his exam.

    You know I've met a few guys who always want to touch my hair and I used to get upset. But these stories are making me look at it differently. It's kinda cute after-all.

  • Diatta says:

    Not to brag but I get stopped alot whether it is for the natural kinks and curls or the color. I have been stopped in restaurants, ladies rooms, parties, baby showers, getting out of my car etc.

    My favorite compliment is when my husband and I were walking down the hall in the mall and this woman literally RAN up to me to find out who did my color and to get his name, salon and telephone number.

    My husband was initially startled but very proud other people thought his wife looked good. πŸ™‚

  • Hali says:

    It was my last day at school as well as my last final of the semester and I had been cleaning out my dorm room all morning with my hair in a ponytail and in a hat. I took my hat off, shook my hair out and went to take my final. I was sitting down waiting for my professor to come in and this guy looks at me and whispers, I like your hair. It made my day considering I did NOTHING to my hair that day and thought it looked a hott mess!!!

  • Kyara says:

    Right after my BC, when I went back to work, one of my coworkers told me that it suited me so much that he almost forgot my previous hairstyle! I found it to be the best compliment ever πŸ™‚

  • Anonymous says:

    Lol, these stories are cute. I am Muslim, so I don't show my hair in public but I remember one time when I pressed out my hair, my husband was like baby I love when your hair is natural. I was surprised to hear that from him, since I wear it natural only occasionally pressing it out. Also, he loves my fro, lol. I use to hate it but I love it now :- )

  • Liza says:

    I actually get most of my compliments from other naturals (with TWAs, Locs, fros, etc…) and in turn compliment them also. White folks usually say my hair is "cool" but I don't take that to heart b/c they rarely even know what they are looking at. In my experience they consider anything an "afro" regardless of if its a twist-out, braid-out, or whatever.

    I received my latest compliments from two black females with TWAs. They said my hair was beautiful and they couldn't wait until their hair grew out and they could start styling it. I just had in a two-day old twist out, but they were loving it. I told them that they would be there soon and to just enjoy their TWAs while they have them. I never had a TWA, but I know its got to be freeing to just get up and go without fussing with hair in the morning!

  • Unknown says:

    I get complimented at least two to three times a week and it's what I really like most about my hair. But the best compliment was from the youth minister at church..he goes, "that hair looks to good to NOT be on a CD cover!!" i said, "i can't sing!!" he said, "well you need to read poetry, talk, or do something, because you need a cover!!"

  • Twitchy says:

    I was in the bathroom at a club dabbing myself with a paper towel because it was so freakin hot! lol This girl walked in with her friend and just started gushing about how much she loved my hair. It was really nice and it made me feel good, but nothing compared to the night I was up talking to this guy that I'm sort of kinda seeing and he just leaned over and put his hands in my hair and said he loved my hair like this. And then a few nights later, we were just laying together talking and he could not keep his hands out of my hair lol I was like, what the heck dude? He just smiled and twirled a few of my curls around his fingers and said he loved the way my hair felt and all the curls. πŸ™‚ Put a smile right on my face and I've been smiling ever since.

  • Anonymous says:

    I received a compliment from a brother who has been natural for most of his life. He rocks locks and they are down his back. He could not believe that I was wearing twist in my hair in public. I BC'd only two weeks ago and have been transitioning for nine months. It felt real good to get a compliment from a brother even though he digs the natural look. Also my family have been really supportive so no matter how anyone else feels or thinks they got me thru and thru

  • Anonymous says:

    I have been getting a few compliments at the job I just started at. I work at Gap and am usually helping customers and ringing them up. I get compliments from men, women, children, etc. It does brighten up your day when someone gives you a compliment.

    Oh and to MeelaJE – I notice that too. I don't get many compliments from other black females (even those with natural hair?). I usually get them from other races.

  • Anonymous says:

    awww these storys are really cute

  • A. Spence says:

    I'm transitioning so my curls are But the best comment came from a co-worker who said she loved my hair curly and thought I should wear my natural hair more. I guess she thought the curls were natural..

  • Anonymous says:

    My favorite compliment so far came from myboyfriend. A couple sundays we were just standing outside church talking and he said, "Baby, at first when you said you were gonna cut your hair I wasn't sure it would look good. But you proved me wrong. You look really good. You got some curls. I didn't know that. I love it." I probably would have laid one on him in front of the church, but I couldn't.

    I just did the BC two months ago so my confidence has gone up and down. Hearing that really helped it stay up.

  • MeelaJVH says:

    I met a woman Saturday before last at my son's music school. She said she loved how my hair curled up and that it looked soft. I am at a TWA stage where I can do a decent-sized puff. It caught me off guard since I really don't hear too many compliments from other sistas. However, this woman was from Nigeria. Many of them are brainwashed, too, about hair and having the "white girl flow" (sorry, had to dig that one out). They resort to perms and weaves, then naturally once their Afro-textured hair starts falling out, they grab a wig which was her current frustration with her transition. Of course I used it as an opportunity to "witness" (we gots to get them some hair salvation, ladies) to her about natural hair, products and the like. Come to find out not only had she been transitioning for about 6 months, but she was a Chemistry teacher at the college level and knew her chemical stuff, but little old me dropped some knowledge on her! She even gave me some cool tidbits. We've exchanged emails so maybe we'll create a new natural hair product line soon…

  • Mechelle B. says:

    My best compliment came from my husband. He is always painfully honest.
    I was wearing my natural hair straight and decided to twist-n-curl. I yelled out a disclaimer before leaving the bathroom and finally had the courage to show him my new do. He looked for a minute, i got nervous, and finally he smiled and told me he loved it πŸ™‚
    I've been twisting-n-curling every since!!! And the compliments keep coming.

  • Libra08 says:

    My best compliment came from this guy I have been crushing on. It was the first time my twist-n-curl actually came out pretty good. This was also the time when I was just starting to get the courage to wear my hair in its natural state. We had an exam, and he sat across from me. I noticed he kept looking up to stare at me, but I thought it was just my imagination. Later that evening I bumped into him after work, and he told me that he loved my hair, and that he couldn't stop staring at how pretty I was while he was failing his exam lol So naturally, I called up my friends and told them what happened :0)

    My second best compliment came from a guy friend. He was sitting behind me during lecture. He started playing with my hair and he said in awe "Your hair is like a forest." I know that might not seem like the greatest compliment, but I love big, thick hair so it was nice to know other people think my hair is big as well.

  • NappySummers says:

    I was shopping this past weekend and this lady came up and told me how beautiful my hair was and I told her how I transitioned etc. and to not give up. She told me that she wouldn't and if she thought of giving up she would think of the lady she saw in Marshall's with the pretty hair as inspiration. It made me feel so good. I didn't even need to shop anymore πŸ˜€

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