By Tiffy Kink
A new year is here and for many, it feels like a well-needed fresh start. And with that fresh start, we make resolutions. The biggest problem with New Year’s resolutions is that we have a tendency to set the same damn goals EVERY YEAR. Go to the gym more often, start going to the gym, lose weight, eat healthier, procrastinate less, and be more charitable to others. What makes it even worse is that we set time frames around our resolutions which do nothing but bring about added stress and anxiety, which is why we usually don’t complete them. I also find that as you start to have a harder time sticking to your resolutions, you may start to experience what I call “New Year Burn Out.” This occurs when you’re trying so hard to stick to your resolutions, that it starts to become more of a chore, rather than the inspiring moments you thought it would be. And for that reason, I want to share with you 5 Unconventional New Year’s Resolutions you’ll actually stick to!
1. Be selfish when you need it.
-In 2017, Self-care, the idea of taking time out for yourself to do the things that you really love or just take care of yourself, became widely popular. Sometimes we are so wrapped up in ourselves and everything in between, that we don’t take the time out of the day to do something that thoroughly brings us joy. This could be anything from, going to your favorite restaurant, taking a personal day/mental break, or perfecting a skill. It becomes less of a resolution and more of task you look forward to doing, thus making it easy to stick to.
2. Stop kee-keeing with people you don’t like.
-We all want friends. But not at the cost of hanging out or putting up with people you don’t like. You don’t have to love everybody and everybody doesn’t have to love you. It’s okay to allow people to leave your life and to leave theirs when you don’t feel like you’re getting the same love you’re giving them. One of the biggest issues is we don’t know how to be alone sometimes and that can translate into putting up with people you don’t like. So unless it’s for professional reasons, you gotta get that coinage, let them go like that song from Frozen.
3. Stop setting unrealistic time frames to get stuff done.
– In the past, one of the biggest reasons I had a hard time with living up to the resolutions I made was because I gave myself a certain amount of time to get them done. Whether or not my timing was realistic, setting a deadline made me consider my resolution to be dreadful or feel a sense of failure if I didn’t get it done by a certain time. Instead, make resolutions with deadlines that have what I call a “Ball Park Time Frame.” This will allow you to set a more realistic time frame around completing your goals. And before setting said goals, think about all the other stuff you have going on in your life. Even when you feel like you may not complete your goals or resolutions in a timely manner, don’t give up. Keep working toward it to make progress.
4. Procrastinate less by actively working.
– I was one of those people who always believed that they had more time than they actually did to complete a task and this year showed me that I desperately needed to get out of that frame of mind. As a writer and student, procrastination kills me creativity and my production was almost nonexistent. One reason for that was how I saw my tasks. I viewed them as unpleasant and put them on the back burner until the pots started to overflow. A great way to procrastinate less is to start right away and with a plan. I find that organization helps with execution and lowers anxiety towards the task. It’s a learning process.
5. Don’t be charitable because you think you should, be charitable because you genuinely want to.
– Don’t make plans to do something nice because it’s the right thing to do. Do it because you want to. And what I mean by that is find different ways to help people. It doesn’t have to be the traditional volunteering or donating to a charity. Or it could be. If helping out or doing something in a big way seems to be too much for you, hence why you never get around to doing it in the first place, find unique ways to give back. Give up your seat on the subway, buy a homeless person a meal, become a mentor, or any other small selfless act of kindness. The idea of giving back means that you are doing it out of the kindness of your heart and that’s what counts.