|Idris Elba & fiance Sabrina Dahowre|
By Ta-Ning Connai
Last week the black community was delivered some devastating news…
Idris Elba…Gone Too Soon
NO HE’S NOT DEAD, he’s off the market, but you’d think he kicked the bucket based on the sudden hysteria connected to his name. How can one man’s public proposal make one woman so happy while simultaneously shattering the matrimonial hopes and dreams of black women across the globe? And why so many predictions for a negative outcome? Do we REALLY need to go there, hoping he cheats on his fiance? And why all the insults towards her? What in the world did she ever do to us? I’m just wondering how this will affect his box offices sales,‘cause you know us sistahs will put on a petty protest and make the brotha wanna repent for trespassing against us.
We’ve all had our fantasy crushes get crushed once or twice in our lives. For me, Michael Jackson was a tough one. I mean, after all, I was in the 8th grade when I had to face that the King of Pop was never coming to my house to get my mom’s permission to take me out. I took it pretty hard. But I’m sure I don’t have to explain why I’m glad it didn’t work out.
The grass is always greener on the other side, but keep this important point in mind…God created ALL the grass and He gave us all enough water to take care of our own yard. And way beyond every yard sits a house where we have NO IDEA what goes on inside. So let’s be careful not to mourn the “absence” of people that were never meant to be ours because relational goals can still be achieved without them.
So, is all this sorrow truly about the guy that The Wire made famous or
does the displaced resentment go way, way deeper than that?
There’s a downside to the never before access we have to the Hollywood elite and their private lives. Due to social media, entertainment news and reality TV, the compulsion to live vicariously through the lives of our favorite stars has reached an all time high and is completely out of whack. The once distinct line between fantasy and reality has unfortunately become more blurred. Nothing wrong with the imagination as a tool to inspire, but feeling dangled by a thread in front of heavily edited dreams only causes people grave disappointment and major distractions.
It’s not fair for the media to bombard us with these lavish lifestyles and ritzy relationships without equally providing us with the how-to’s for our own lives. But hey it’s not their job, but I can tell you whose job it most definitely is…
No time to feel down and out, pumped and dumped when you’re reminded of the very reason you were born. In Genesis 2:18, God reminds us that women were created to be man’s helper. We come from the lineage of Eve, the original wife and mother of all mankind (we got it from our mama!). And although she is most known for the regretted bite heard around the world, Eve was DEFINITELY much more than that.
Wives are endowed with an innate ability to positively change the course of destiny for their husbands and their household. And it was the devil that perverted Eve’s calling to do just that; by twisting God’s words and mixing them with his own. She was intrigued by that stupid ol’ serpent’s claim that eating the fruit (um, who said it was an apple???) would give her more wisdom. MORE wisdom, which means she didn’t recognize what she already had! Sounds like she thought the grass was greener on the other side too!
Oh, if we all would just realize the value of what we have to offer, we wouldn’t let a few celebrity weddings sway us from the faith it takes to wait for the best man God has in mind. So get on the fast track to walking in wisdom and power because…
whether you desire to be
or remain single and free
this world can’t make it without you
and that’s a reality!