By Mwabi Kaira
I heard a song called Medicine by Queen Naija on the radio the other day and immediately thought, “Oh, we’re still doing this.” Each generation hopes that the one behind it gets all that we got wrong right. I really enjoy watching young girls being so sure of themselves these days and I foolishly thought that they had found the formula and were done taking mess from men but the song confirmed that they are out here still discovering that not all men do right and will treat you like an option and not a priority if you let them. In the song, Queen Naija laments about her man ignoring her lately, seeing calls from “just friends” and him coming in at 6 in the morning. She is frustrated because she has been faithful and says she knows what she has to do and turns the tables and gives him a taste of his own medicine…
“How would you like it if I do the things you do
Put you on do not disturb and entertain these dudes
I’ma ride him crazy and you’ll never have a clue
Give another guy everything that belongs to you
I’ma call up Brian, I’ma FaceTime Ryan
I’ma text Lorenzo and I’ma leave you cryin’
Don’t get it twisted I can play this game too
How would you like it if I did the same to you, same to you yeah?”
|Ciara in ‘Like a Boy’ video|
This sentiment has been repeated over and over by frustrated women in songs. Ciara wished she could sometimes act like a boy and run the street, keep a straight face while lying, keep an airtight alibi and be out till 4 in the morning on her 2006 song Like A Boy.
|Beyonce in ‘If I Were a Boy’ video|
Beyonce continued that sentiment in 2008 with If I Were Boy and sang about drinking beers with the guys, chasing after girls, kicking it with who they wanted and never getting confronted for it cause the guys would stick up for him. The message is clear; women are frustrated by men not caring about hurting them and some men just don’t have the capacity to be accountable for the wrong they do. Women feel like showing men their actions by repeating them are they only way to make them pay.