|Beyoncé photo by Tyler Mitchell|
By Ta-ning Connai
1. She’s not immune to insecurity.
The girl with the perfect curves has had bouts with insecurity. Bey talks about the time she got sucked into society’s expectations of how fast a woman should lose her baby fat. No sooner than Blu Ivy had entered the world, her ambitious mama was scheduling a tour so she could lose the weight while getting ready. Thankfully, when she had the twins, her mindset was entirely different, and she’s at peace with her post-pregnancy self. She’s says, “To this day my arms, shoulders, breasts, and thighs are fuller. I have a little mommy pouch, and I’m in no rush to get rid of it. I think it’s real. Whenever I’m ready to get a six-pack, I will go into beast zone and work my ass off until I have it. But right now, my little FUPA and I feel like we are meant to be.”
|Photo by Tyler Mitchell|
2. She can’t stop, won’t stop.
The 22-time Grammy winner definitely has a conscientious soul. She admits she wouldn’t be here today if it weren’t for artists like Josephine Baker, Nina Simone, Eartha Kitt, Aretha Franklin, Tina Turner, Whitney Houston and more. Determined to hold those same doors open for this new generation of artists, she believes that more diversity behind the scenes means more variety in what we see. “It’s important to me that I help open doors for younger artists. There are so many cultural and societal barriers to entry that I like to do what I can to level the playing field, to present a different point of view for people who may feel like their voices don’t matter.”
4. Her family dysfunction goes wayyyyy….wayyyy back.
“I come from a lineage of broken male-female relationships, abuse of power, and mistrust. Only when I saw that clearly was I able to resolve those conflicts in my own relationship. Connecting to the past and knowing our history makes us both bruised and beautiful,” Beyoncé says of learning that her ancestry consist of a slave owner that eventually married his slave. She prays that she will be able to break the generational curses in her family so that her kids will have “less complicated lives.”
You would never expect Beyoncé to call her journey “to hell and back.” Yeah, she spilled the tea on Lemonade, but we still couldn’t see her human side. But Bey keeps it all the way real when she explains her pain in simple words. “I have experienced betrayals and heartbreaks in many forms. I have had disappointments in business partnerships as well as personal ones, and they all left me feeling neglected, lost, and vulnerable. Through it all I have learned to laugh and cry and grow. I look at the woman I was in my 20s and I see a young lady growing into confidence but intent on pleasing everyone around her. I now feel so much more beautiful, so much sexier, so much more interesting. And so much more powerful.”
For the On the Run II tour, Bey and Jay-Z performed at the Olympiastadion in Berlin, site of the 1936 Olympics where Jessie Owens broke racial barriers by winning four gold medals. 90 years later, The Carters performed to a multiracial crowd in what Bey calls one of her most memorable moments. “When Jay and I sang our final song, we saw everyone smiling, holding hands, kissing, and full of love. To see such human growth and connection—I live for those moments.”
|Bey & her twins|
7. She’s like the rest of us when it comes to her kids.
Beyonce has idealistic desires for her children, no different than you or I. She wants them to be seen and heard and to be whoever they want. She also wants to instill in her son Sir, qualities that often get overlooked. She shared, “I want him to know that he can be strong and brave but that he can also be sensitive and kind. I want my son to have a high emotional IQ where he is free to be caring, truthful, and honest. It’s everything a woman wants in a man, and yet we don’t teach it to our boys.”