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On the Couch with Gina

By January 27th, 202116 Comments

Gina dishes about her love affair…with her hair! Check it out:

I must confess. I have taken a lover. We are still in the honeymoon phase of our affair, so forgive me if I gush about my lover shamelessly. Just indulge me for a moment. I have fallen head over heels for my hair. Yes, I’m talking about my hair, and I am so serious.

I stopped getting relaxers three years ago as an experiment. I always wanted thicker hair…BIG hair to be specific. But I could never achieve the volume I wanted with a relaxer in my hair. As the relaxer grew out, I developed a crush on my new growth. I could tell I was falling hard for it, but as we so often do in new relationships, I still doubted that things would work out between us. As it continued to grow, and the more we saw each other, I just fell deeper in love. I couldn’t stop thinking about it, touching it and envisioning our future together. I knew I was hooked when we would have a disagreement and I no longer felt that our relationship was being threatened. On the contrary, bad hair days brought us closer because I was learning, by trial and error, how to bring the best out of my hair. One day, I threw away the perm box in the closet that I had kept on standby…just in case. Finally, I knew that no matter what came our way, we could work it out and be strong together.

We have been loving and learning each other ever since. It’s all I ever wanted…it’s strong, healthy, quirky, confident and free. Most importantly, it’s BIG. My hair makes me feel true to myself. It reminds me that there is inspiration for every challenge because I know who I am, my identity is clear, and my mind is calm. I’m sure you can guess that this affair is about more than just hair for me. My decision to grow out my relaxer came at a time when my soul was begging for a voice. I’d hidden myself for such a long time, and as my new growth took over my hair, a new attitude and a new perspective took over my life. I mark the three year anniversary of my love affair as a turning point in my life and a celebration of self-love and authenticity.

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On the Couch with Gina
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  • Anonymous says:

    girl i love the way you described your hair and your as having a relationship! THAT IS SO GENIUS AND SO TRUE AND JUST ORIGINAL. your hair is gorgeous and I am further inspired as I am on my transition. I have some road blocks but it is sistas like you that keep me keepin' on. I also have fine hair when relaxed and always wanted big hair. I fell in love with my new growth and kept touching it and i also kept was keeping a relaxer kit ready just in case. 🙂 thanks for sharing.

  • Unknown says:

    Love this story.

  • treece says:

    The hair is slamming yes very gorgeous and the shine is playing no trick games. So I live in AZ and of course the sun is serious and the air is a dry heat. Does anyone know of locations where natural shea butter can be purchased vs's buying online?

  • Maria says:

    Wow this blog post pretty much summed up my love affair with my hair! I love it!


    I'm transitioning as well…and can't wait to be completely natural. This is very inspiring.

    Thanks for the story!


  • GG says:

    Thanks girls! I really appreciate all the positive feedback. My regimen is very inconsistent right now b/c I can't seem to stop trying different things. For the hair in the pics, I used Aussie Moist Conditioner to cowash and leave in and did a twistncurl using Nikki's method. I also used olive oil, shea butter and Herbal Essences Long Term Relationship Ends Treatment. For washngo's I love Kinky Curly Custard…with shea butter on the ends. I'm allllways sealing my ends b/c my hair can get very dry. The most consistent thing I use is olive oil. My hair loves it.

  • Mae says:

    Love this! Now that I'm transitioning, I consider my washing time as "dates", lol. It has been really fun trying new things with my hair!

  • honeysmoke says:

    congrats! more on regimen, please.

  • Namun says:

    Very creative and a wonderful read. Thank you.

  • Alicia says:

    I've been natural all my life and STILL don't have hair as long and healthy looking as yours. Can we get a regimen please?!?!

    Also, why did you perm in the first place? Your curls are beautiful!

  • Anonymous says:

    That is a beautiful love story!

  • Anonymous says:

    Lov your post, so fun to read….your hair is beautiful

  • Anonymous says:

    this is fantastic! superb writing.

  • Ashley Smith says:

    This was a great read. I so can relate to this!

  • Elegance says:

    She has some gorgeous hair! It looks so soft!

  • Lady Rae says:

    HAPPY 3 YEAR ANNIVERSARY! I'm currently transitioning too, for the same reasons and I'm also in a love affair! Your hair is FYE!!!

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