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Laila- Tales of a Current Transitioner

By January 27th, 202111 Comments
Meet Laila… a current long term transitioner who despite resistance from her mother, is pressing forward.

Laila- Tales of a Current TransitionerCN: Are you a long term or short term transitioner, and why?
I’m a LONG term transitioner for two main reasons.. 1) I have a small egg shaped head and if I BC’ed I’m so positive I’d look ill… and I mean sick .. 2) I’ve never had short hair before…ever… the shortest it’s been is probably APL and that’s because I got brave on time and had my hair shaped. I just think short hair is not for me…. I mean I like it, I really do but just not on me.

CN: When are you going BC?
I’ve really thought long and hard about this and the date has changed so many times… originally I wanted to hold out till my graduation ceremony in January 2012 which would make me 2 years and 6months post, but I’m pretty sure that might not happen so for now let’s just say I’ll BC at my 2 year mark on 6th July 2010.

CN: How did family and friends react to your decision to go natural?
Where do I start ladies!?! …. My friends and random strangers are so supportive but my family, not so much. It makes me really sad sometimes, especially my mum. I strongly believe that her and other family members live vicariously through my hair. I remember the day I told her I was going natural… I heard it all….

“Are you crazy… what’s come over you?….why would you do this to me?….. you wont look like my daughter anymore….how will you get a husband”… it was endless really.

I remember thinking wow.. is this real? All this over hair ?, over the fact that I want to let my hair be what it is?

She never has anything nice to say to me about my hair any more and it can be dis-heartening but i’m not doing this to please anyone but myself.

When I first decided to transition, it wasn’t about making a statement about my race, skin colour or culture, but the deeper I got into my transition and the more time I had to analyze peoples reactions to my decision, I realized this transition was about more than just hair… it goes deeper, so much deeper…. Anyway, I feel like all the negativity will be worth it one day when my little girls can look at me and think ‘my hair is big and beautiful just like mummy’s .’

Laila- Tales of a Current Transitioner

CN: What is your transition routine?
I like to keep it real simple. I shampoo my hair once a week in 4 sections and deep condition… that’s it, LOL… I air dry in 4 bantu knots to stretch the new growth if I’m having anything other than a bun, if Bunning then I do it while wet. I don’t use towels anymore just t-shirts and the hair turban thingys (this has changed through my transition, when you find what works just stick to it, too many experiments will lead to unnecessary breakage *I know this* ) oh… I only detangle under running water with condish… a comb never touches my hair unless it’s wash day.

Products I Use

VO5 Herbal Escapes Kiwi Lime Clarifying Conditioner ( Staple…)
Aussie 3min Miracle Reconstructor DC ( Staple… )
Aussie Miracle hair insurance leave-in ( Staple… )
HE Hello Hydration Shampoo
Lustrasilk Shea Butter Cholesterol ((DC, mixed with oils and herbs))( Staple)
Shea Butter Mix ( Staple…)

IC Fantasia Gel ( mixed with moisturiser and oil) for braids and twist ( Staple…)
Eco styler Krytal clear gel ( for bunning and edges ) ( Staple…)

Oils & Herbs ( Used on occasion)–

Dabur Vatika Enriched Coconut Hair Oil
Extra Virgin Coconut, Olive & Avocado oil & Jamaican Castor oil
Indian Ayurvedic Herbal Powders : Amla, Brahmi, Methi, Hibiscus & Fenugreek & Henna

CN: What is your staple hair style during the transition?
French roll with Victoria Rolls at the front or variations of it…. I also bun a lot out of laziness

CN: How do you moisturize your hair to prevent breakage at the new growth line?
I spray my hair with water and glycerine every morning and seal with my shea butter and EVOO mix (My pure shea butter is from my homeland GHANA.. we went there February and I bought A LOT, LOL!). To reduce breakage I try not to play in my hair a lot… LOW MANUPULATION… you read it everywhere because it really works .

CN: Why did you choose to go natural?
I woke up one day, took my head scarf off and looked in the mirror, looking back at me was a young woman with healthy long bsl hair but i wanted more…. I was no longer happy with my hair. I’d always loved my natural hair and thought it was time to go back ‘home’, i’d come to a point in my life where i was making changes. I have nothing against Relaxer of any kind… after all i’d loved my own texturized hair and the compliments that come with it but it was time for a change, one that i thought was going to be just physical but ended up being so much more. I’m loving every part of this journey, from the tears to the smiles, the love to the hate and i hope i can inspire someone to keep going.

I love social networking so i’m everywhere–

http://twitter.com/NeffyFroFro (not really hair related but i like to think my tweets are interesting lol)
http://members.fotki.com/Laila-Jean/about/ Follow my journey

http://keepitsimplesista.ning.com/profile/LailaJeanWashington (shout out to all my KISS Siters )

http://www.youtube.com/user/FusionofCultures (More videos to come… just been very busy)

Thanx & good luck to everyone out there!

Laila- Tales of a Current Transitioner

11 Comments

  • Laila-jean says:

    Hey Everyone, thank you so much for the kind words, i've been away for a while but i hope my story helped someone out there to keep going..

  • Anonymous says:

    Your hair and makeup….so pretty

  • Anonymous says:

    your hair is gorgeous and sooner or later your mom will love it and wonder why in the world she didnt see that sooner!Your hair is beautiful!

  • Erika says:

    Well I think that your hair looks really good, for a brief moment in that 2nd picture with your head down I thought you were CurlyNikki lol. Well all I can say in reference to family not liking it, is you can only make you happy in the end. No matter how hard we try to impress our parents or family you either win some or lose some battles.

    But at the end of the day, the only person that really counts is you and know that God has blessed you with that head of thick beautiful hair. Also, please be careful everyone when going to FOTKI account site alot of people are getting, Virsues, Trojans, and sometimes Back Keylogger it hink thats the name of it where some cc some was stolen as well. Also check out www.longhaircareforum they have a thread talking about it as well.

  • Anonymous says:

    time to go home…. I love that comment.

  • Anonymous says:

    I think that your hair is beautiful. I think sometimes people are unhappy with themselves, therefore it is hard to share joy. Stay strong, it is your hair.

  • Nique1076 says:

    Gorgeous healthy hair and a beautiful woman you are! Continue on your path of the natural you and hopefully your family will come around, and if not, too bad for them. Your styles are fierce and remember, you are an inspiration to others

  • Anonymous says:

    Hey Laila! It’s Ty from KISS. Gorgeous hair!! Absolutely love pic #2! Don’t worry about your family not accepting your hair. I’ve gone through and am still going through the same thing with certain family members. Unfortunately some people only know and accept one standard of beauty, but those people are in for a huge surprise. They will come around eventually. Good luck with the rest of your transition 🙂

  • Ms Sassy says:

    My mom was the very same way. "that is not professional nor corporate". After she saw how I could keep my hair looking good even in its natural way, she lightened up a bit, but for some odd reason she always deem it necessary to tell people, "yes you see she is going natural". Almost as if she is still somewhat embarrassed. Maybe she will warm completely up soon. I confident and secure with my hair!

  • SoulfulSista says:

    It sucks that your family isn't supporting you. I understand what you are going through. When I first went natural, my mother had a hard time accepting it. She said all kinds of crazy things, but soon they realized that the negativity wasn't going to change my mind. My mom ended up going natural herself about a year after I started transitioning. Stay strong. You might inspire them to go natural one day. Good luck with your transition. You're such a beautiful young lady.

  • Anonymous says:

    Oh honey, I'm so sorry about your unsupportive fam… I understand completely. I get it from my dad and while no, it doesn't feel nice, it's also almost liberating. It's my opportunity to come to terms with me and love it! It also helps me to understand that others cannot dictate what's best for me. Your hair is gorgeous and I'm sure it's only a reflection of the gorgeous person you are. Keep on moving forward!

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