CN: When you first chopped, what were your thoughts and feelings? How do you feel now?
A: The next day I woke up and thought, “OMG I can’t believe I did this to myself”. Seriously. The first week, I was dealing with straight ends and dry hair…I just couldn’t figure out what to do even though I spent so much time researching! About two weeks into it I was thinking about the “R” word.
Now, TO BE HONEST, some days I feel good and some days I don’t. When I’m down about my hair, it’s because I (right now) it’s more work than when I was relaxed. When I was relaxed, I would just unwrap and go in the mornings – 5min top. Now, I have to re-wet and re-style everyday – 15min on a good day. It doesn’t sound like much, but it annoys me. But I know that when my hair is longer I can do simpler things like bun it up and go – can’t wait for that!
On my good days, I’m so impressed (with myself lol) that I choose to present my natural hair to the world. I just feel GOOD about it, esp. when most of the women around me are relaxed. I was such a hair-confident person when my hair was relaxed (my hair is naturally auburn color and was fairly long). I didn’t realize how much of my personal idea of beauty had to do with how I felt about my hair. So now that it’s all cut off and all natural, I’m proud that I still feel beautiful – even more because I’m wearing my hair natural!
CN: How did you cope with the responses from your family and friends?
A: My parents, siblings, cousins, friends, and co-workers were all very supportive. But the person who matters the most – my hubby – STILL HATES MY HAIR! In the infamous words of Method Man, my hubby says similar things to “I don’t like no peasy afros”. It hurts. But I know he sees that I have so much more going for me than my hair. I’m still beautiful, so is my mind, my body, and my spirit. Plus, I think he’s just not a fan of short hair on me – and neither am I. We both can’t wait till my hair has some SWANG!
CN: What are your plans for your hair?
A: My goal is to grow my hair longer than it EVER was when I was relaxed, and that is past bra strap length. After that, I’ll probably play around with the length more. I’m giving myself 5 years, hopefully it will take much less! I’m also planning to henna soon and I’m super excited about it!
CN: Do you find it necessary to ‘doll up’ your look to feel more feminine? If so, what are your favorite accessories, or go to ways to glam up your look?
A: The very first month I did. I was all about the earrings and makeup DAILY. But by the second month, I felt back to my old self as far as my personal style. I don’t wear makeup everyday, and while I do like to wear jewelry every day, some hoops or studs will do me fine. Now don’t get me wrong, I LOVE jewelry, and when it’s time to get cute I GETS CUTE!
Statement jewelry with mascara and blush are my minimum requirements for the glam look. To take it further I can do a bold lip or bold eyes, and I usually like to have a super-feminine part to my outfit like lace or sequins or some killer shoes!
CN: How do you keep it moisturized?
A: I dampen daily with water, then apply the Kimmaytube (from YouTube) leave-in mixture. My hair is soft and touchable. I have 4a/4b hair – so part kinky curly and part kinky coily. This leaves my curls and coils semi-defined.
CN: What products and techniques do you use to style? How often do you style?
A: Water, Kimmaytube leave-in mixture (knot today/aloe vera juice/jojoba oil/castor oil) – daily. I just rake the leave-in through my hair with my fingers (not shingling). I use Kinky-Curly Knot Today with Curling Custard on special occasions using the same raking method.
CN: How do you get your waves or curls popping?
A: Kinky-Curly KT and CC are the only products that consistently give me great results every I want my curls super defined yet with a nice, touchable hold. Eco Styler Olive Oil gel worked great too, but left my hair too crunchy even when I added oil.
CN: How do you preserve your curls at night?
A: Satin bonnet every night. Nothing extra.