If I had an alter ego like Beyonce’s Sasha Fierce, you’d call me Sunnata Blak. The girl is baaaaad! She’s confident, funny, gorgeous in heels and a red lip and could charm the heck out of any social crowd. Then there’s me. Sherrell. The quiet introvert that worries about the small things, sometimes fears making mistakes and worries herself into rashes (I had one last week I swear).
When I see my colleagues and twitter friends enjoying their lives online, showcasing the things they’re doing and events they’re attending it makes me feel like I STILL need to be doing more. As though my life isn’t fabulous enough or that at almost 25 years old I still haven’t quite arrived. Pause. Since when did my life become a competition with people I don’t even really know?
A few days ago, while indulging in my latest read: The Psychology of Wealth by Charles Richards, PhD, one recurring question I struggled to answer was “what are your values?”
Our values dramatically shape who we are, what we do and the goals we work towards. In a comedy, beauty, fashion, style and wit-centered society it’s a sin to be anything but gregarious, over-the-top and smart-mouthed. After all, it seems that all of the interesting people have the most successes right?
Instead of focusing on all that is wrong with me and right with the “competition” I’m taking a stand against the Sherrell that questions her confidence and abilities and living for the notion that God will conspire to help me to achieve all of my goals and make me the woman I was called to be with or without a successful blog, a book deal, product line, million dollar apartment or a pair of Dior pumps (not that I don’t want all of those things).
Sunnata Blak is going to barter her great traits and share them with Sherrell from now on. Believing in yourself is key. If you don’t know who you are, how will anyone else know the greatness that lies within you?
Sherrell Dorsey is a natural beauty expert, writer, speaker and advocate of health, wellness and sustainability in communities of color. In addition to creating OrganicBeautyVixen.com, Sherrell writes beauty articles for Tyra Banks’s beauty and fashion site TypeF.com, Jones Magazine, MySalonScoop.com and Posh Beauty. Follow Sherrell on twitter at www.twitter.com/organicvixen