-Nikki Walton The moment you notice you’re worrying or overthinking: STOP Continue Take your attention out of your head (and thoughts) and down into your stomach, and notice how it rises and falls with each breath. Notice that there are no thoughts down there, in your stomach. Can you see that? The space in your head may be full of thoughts,…
Whenever the impulse arises to reach out to that person you said you wouldn’t reach out to no mo,’ use it as a trigger to become super watchful. Continue Watch your thoughts and emotions carefully— as if you were watching someone else… as if you were watching a movie starring ‘you.’ Feel the loneliness, fully, allowing it to hang out. …
By Erickka Sy Savané Not long ago, I was having a moment about an article I wrote that was pissing a lot of women off. Not everyone, but enough that I started to let it get to me. Being a writer today is interesting because you do your best to convey a message that you believe in, and the truth…
Nikki Walton That general uneasiness that’s always lingering in the background? It’s just a symptom of your forgetfulness. When you forget who you really are, you feel scared, you worry, you stay on edge, hella moody, ready to snap. You don’t even know why! You also stay trying to manipulate & rearrange the outside circumstances in hopes that you’ll feel…
C&D Journey By Erickka Sy Savané We talk a lot on this site about the benefits of embracing our natural hair, but the truth is, many women, even within the natural hair community, still wear weaves either to switch it up or as a protective style. Vlogger Sierra Baynes, 20, from Georgia, is a reminder to all, better yet, a…
The discomfort is the shift. It’s your miracle in disguise. Continue I listened to a great talk by @EckhartTolle the other day. He said that the closer a caterpillar gets to the end of its lifespan, the more difficult things get for it. Its very existence becomes dysfunctional— the things that used to work, like crawling, suddenly don’t work anymore….
Via Black Chyna’s IG By Ta-ning Connai Blac Chyna had a mini meltdown on Instagram last week and you don’t have to be a rocket scientist to figure out why. Unless you’ve been living under a rock, we all know about the Kardashian catastrophe that was doomed right from the start. The relationship with Rob was a no-no. To put…
Aisha Badru By Sharee Silerio Singer and Yonkers, New York native Aisha Badru was three years into college when she realized that she’d had enough. The daughter of Nigerian educators was living a life that she didn’t choose and it was taking its toll. So after much contemplation, she did what would seem crazy to many and she quit. Continue…
Kenan Thompson as LeVar Ball on SNL By Ta-ning Connai Egotist. Sexist. Obnoxious. Who knew that LaVar Ball and Trump had so much in common?! There’s a Twitter War going on between them and they’ve both achieved buffoonery status being portrayed on Saturday Night Live. Kenan Thompson brought the house down yet again recently taking his parodied version of the Ball family…
There’s an uneasiness in you, a restlessness, that causes you to stay checking your phone. Continue Feel it. It’s a symptom of being ‘disconnected’ from your real SELF and the reason for the ‘delay’ in the manifestation of yo shit. The next time that urge hits, STOP, and check-in with yourself. What are you waiting on, or hoping for? A…