|it’s 8:30am here… note the milk ‘stache, stray crayons, and flexi rods. She’s sitting her ass on my serving tray watching Spongebob on my now, thanks to her, ‘speakerphone only’ Iphone. The things I do to steal 15 minutes to write a post.|
In my desperate quest to find something, anything to keep Gia’s situation moisturized and fuzzless for more than a few hours, I’ve tried it all. I’ve used gifted products geared toward the kiddos such as CURLS’ It’s a Curl (Fail.), Cara B (not great…) and Burt’s Bees (whatevs…), even threw my latest and greatest staples in the mix, like Redken’s Smooth Down Butter Treat (aiight) and AG Fast Food (eh…). Due to the highly porous nature of her fine strands, it’s easy to get the moisture in (with most products initially leaving her soul glowing!), but it’s ridiculously fleeting. Her hair dries up faster than bird poo… so yeah, I know this because I was recently shat on… someone said that’s lucky? #Digression
Now, since Boogie wails and screams her way through wash day, we’ve limited the carnage to twice a month. In the meantime, I need a spray bottle and its heavenly contents to keep her curls detangled, soft and moisturized. With water, un-cut, seemingly doing more harm than good, and my lack of patience to whip up our own ish, Blended Beauty’s Kick for Curls, also gifted, on some real levels, has changed our lives. Again, we’ve gone through hella detanglers and nothing compares to the slip, moisture and softening capabilities of this magical spritz. It smells of sweet vanilla and cocoa and leaves her hair noticeably softer and detangled for days… like 3, before I have to re-apply. Game changer. I can use it alone to re-braid or re-puff her hair, or underneath their Happy Nappy Styles for the days I want to really look like a ‘good mom’. I have to constantly remind myself that the state of my child’s hair is not a visual representation of my mothering abilities. Kids will be kids and Boog is a wild child… she turns cute little braids (which take me forever to do ’cause I’m terrible and she’s a squirmer) into poof balls in like 10 minutes flat. Most days, today being one of them, I let it do what it do. But I digress…again.
Now, if you recall, BB’s Happy Nappy Styles (HNS) was my boo for like 2 years, circa 2006ish. It aided in my emancipation from hard hold gels, of which, at the time, I thought I needed to achieve ‘control’ over my curls. I remember HNS leaving me with very soft, very moisturized, very shrunken hair. I’ve revisited over the last two weeks, and it does all of those things except for cause excessive shrinkage. I’ve gotten some pretty good hang time on recent twist-outs and I don’t have to re-moisturize for days. The only con is the ‘producty’ feel you’ll get if you’re heavy handed. But for the most part, it’s non-greasy. This is a very heavy, incredibly moisturizing, deliciously smelling styling butter. It’s also ridiculously expensive and you can only score it online, so whenever you’re in the mood to charge it to the game, I’d definitely recommend it.
Oh, Nikki, I feel your pain…. That you have to " constantly remind (your)self that the state of my child's hair is not a visual representation of my mothering abilities." hurts.
May I suggest washing her hair while in braids? Just divide the hair into maybe six to eight sections,detangle and braid up each section. I learnt to do this on my own hair then tried it with my niece aka Miss TenderHead. She actually began to like wash days when I was in charge because this way, we washed,conditioned and dried the entire head with no drama. Her daddy was beyond pleased with the calm orderliness of my wash days but the drama returned when her mother,jealous that I was getting the job done efficiently and painlessly,charged up and insisted that it would "never get clean that way",proceeded to undo all the sections,dump a boatload of shampoo into the poor girl's hair and promptly tangle it all up to within an inch of its life while she mashed and bashed the strands together and created a puffball of knots. My niece came up to me later and begged, " Auntie, please,pretty please don't let Mommy into my hair ever again!"
You're the one who actually introduced me to BB's Happy Nappy Styles several years ago. It was a nice substitute for the bank-busting Miss Jessie's Curly Buttercreme (and without the petroleum, too). HNS has been on my mind again recently, particularly for my daughter. Perhaps coming across this post is a sign.
I didn't read through all of the comments but have you tried Natty Butter by All Things O'Natural? That will seal and keep sealed ANYTHING adding a NICE shine! Check out her site! The pic is of her daughter. http://livingthenattylifestyle.blogspot.com/
My 2 yr old girl has SUPER THICK but fragile and dry coily hair….Of course it only makes sense that she hates getting her hair washed! LOL!!! I echo the ladies sentiments that SM is the TRUTH!!! I think it also helps when I keep her hair in box braids…her hair (like mine) dries out so quickly when its out… @Tia….Please tell me about this silk crip sheet!!! Id love to get one!! Or twelve!! LOL!!
I get that look all the time. It's not for a lack of trying. My daughter has very fine hair (like mine). SMH
Gia is getting so big so quick! This pic is so cute I had to show it off to a co-worker. My 3-yr old has very similar hair; moisturized it twice in a day and the next day it still looked like 'who dun it'.
Awwww…Nikki. No one can fault you for trying! lol I bought a sample packed of Blended Beauty that included Kick for curls, Happy Nappy Styles, Styling Lotion, etc when I first went natural. I don't feel like I got a true try of the Kick since the sample didn't come in a spray bottle and I didn't think to try it that way. I ended up purchasing the reg size Styling Lotion and still use it for wash and go's so the others might be worth revisiting. The styling lotion has to be used on soaking wet hair and don't do much or your hair will be white in some areas.
Will have to get this for my nephew.
Get her a silk crib sheet!
I use Tresemme Naturals moisturizing conditioner as a cowash and rinse out conditioner for my daughter, qhemet's cocoa ghee to detangle and Camille Rose aloe whipped gel to twist. I have also used Camille Rose's almond jai twisting butter. Her hair stays moisturized for days and qhemet and camille rose works on both wet and dry hair.
I use Kinky Curly "tiny twirls"conditioner. It makes my 2 & 6 year olds hair soft, smooth & shiny. My problem is that they are boys & are very wild. I works well until they start rolling on the floor. When their hair is not done, they look like buckwheat. I love the rugged look on them but when I want a more polished look I use this. As I comb this through the afro turns to silky curls. I believe the acidity of the product lays down the cuticle. Its a light product leaving the hair soft & defined after it dries. I use the conditioner alone on soaking wet hair most of the time. Sometimes, I use the styler and shampoo. It costs $10. One bottle for 2 kids will last the entire summer. I'm curious to know what other users think of this product.
I was using Blended Beauty's Curl Styling Butter from '05-'07 and loved it but I was distracted when my pjism kicked in buy now I'm back and loving it. There's nothing like a hair butter with good slip!!
Your daughters hair sounds a lot like my sons and mine. Products with glycerin seems to work best for our hair.
Also, do you have hard water? It will continue to be an uphill battle if you have hard water. There is a dramatic difference in our hair when we wash with water that isn't hard. That's one of the perks of visiting my mother-in-law. Their water really agrees with my hair and skin. St. Louis city water on the other hand is terrible for my skin and hair. My hair/skin had never experienced this kind of dryness until moving to St. Louis. It doesn't matter what products we use, we still end up with dry hair. I'm going to invest in a shower head with a water softener and hope it works.
Thank so much for this! My 2 year old daughters hair is almost identicle to Gia's and it too hates water and nothing keeps it moisturized. I have a closet full of products that have been an epic fail…curls, miss jessies, bee mine, oyin…and the list goes on.Have been interested in trying Blended beauty, but didnt want to spend more money for the same results and would prefer to get something on the ground. Bee mine was $42 for two products and made her hair hard and dry in 30 minutes.
let it be…she's only 2 and she'll get this in time. she has a lifetime for her hair to grow.
I tried Curls 'Its a curl' with my little one EPIC fail. he looked like he had a crunchy jheri curl. Thankfully my product junky'ism was helpful in that I had a plethora of prods in my arsenal to try. In comes Karen's body beautiful Sweet Ambrosia to the rescue, worked like a DREAM his hair is touchable soft and smells great (slight lemony scent from the white tea scented one I use) AND mommy can use it too…talk about your multi-purpose.
Nikki, thanks for revisiting this topic. My son is 2 and has lots of hair. I'm currently using CaraB that I purchased from NRaleigh Whole Food but am not satisfied. His hair lacks shine..my schedule is tight today so I’ll swing by a Target store to checkout SM products… If someone knows of a good product that adds shine, please let me know.
I wanted to add that both products contain glycerin which is a serious NO NO for me usually, especially in the humid summer months, but the weather in Happy Valley PA has been mild, cool and relatively dry. So far so good!
Some stores I know will order it for you if you ask the manager. I know Publix grocery store will do its best to get an item in if a customer makes a request.
Now that's what I'm talking about! I'll check my local Tarjay and Riteaid to see if they keep it in stock. Sweet! Thanks Eleanor!
Sweet! Let me know what you think! Thanks for the comment 🙂
Thanks Anike!!! Good luck in your search! You keep me posted and I'll do the same!
let me know what you think!
Beautiful Curlz? Check. Thanks for the recommendation!
Will do! Thanks Megan! I've been hearing great things about SM and haven't had the pleasure of trying any yet (save for the Leave-in from back in the day). Expect a review soon!
'whew' is right! It's fun though… earlier, I was fluffing my hair with my head upside down and Gia walked in the bathroom, looked at me, bent over and began pulling at her hair! lol! priceless.
Gia snatches my satin bonnets off of her head as soon as I put them on! I'll certainly be checking out the SM and BM lines! Thanks!
I should add that my daughter has also been swimming twice a week for a few months now and this routine has kept her hair soft and moisturized.
I recently started using the LOC method on my 4 yr old daughter who has 4AB dry highly porous curls. Spritz with water (Leave-in), follow up with a mixture of avocado/grapeseed oil and rosemary EO in a spray bottle (Oil), ending with a good creamy moisturizer (Cream). I alternate between Shea Moisture Curl Enhancing Smoothie and Bee Mine Balanced Cream Moisturizer for the third step. This keeps her hair moisturized for about 3 days if she's not rolling on the carpet too much. She also sleeps in a satin bonnet with a stocking cap on top to keep the bonnet on. 🙂
No experience with the products, but I am glad to have a boy after reading this. My hair is enough to deal with. And I think back to my mommy doing 2 daughters hair. Whew!
I do not have children yet, but I use Shea moisture the raw Shea butter and some (only two) the curl and style milk and the curl enhancing smoothie of the curl and shine line 9.99 each at target and Walgreens. Sometimes Walgreens has a bogo sale buy one get one free or when they are on sale online or at the store 7.99. I am in love that my hair stays moisturized for about 3-4 days in this dry Nevada heat! It is said there is a children's line I have not seen it yet. If you cannot find the baby line then give the "mature" products a try. Hopefully no allergic reaction will follow.
My daughter has THE DRIEST hair ever…add dry colorado climate and we're talking the need to moisturize 2-3 times a day…who the heck has time for that?!!? Not me. I just found Beautiful Curlz from whole foods and their leave-in condish is a DREAM!!!!! 🙂
What finally worked for me: in a spray bottle I add water, castor oil, giovanni leave in conditioner, aloe vera gel or juice (really depends on how much hold i want). That's it; i don't measure. This has worked wonders on the little one's hair and it keeps it nice and soft. her hair has grown alot also.
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I've tried everything but nothing seems to work. My daughter has very thick 4c hair and moisture is hard to retain. I might give it a try since you recommend it and see if it helps. If all else fails…..
Kids Organics Shea Butter Detangling Lotion by Africa's Best simply is the best. It contains shea butter and EVOO, no mineral oil or petroleum; costs $3-$4 a bottle, and has an ultra creamy texture that detangles and moisturizes. Don't be fooled by the pretty straight hair little girls on the bottle. Been using it on my girls lucious curls for years. (Go Boogie-Pie!!)
This post is great. Still trying to find what works best on my munchkin's hair. It dries out so quickly. Wouldn't it be wornderful if I could trust her enough to keep a satin bonnet on her head while she sleeps? LOL! I plan on trying some of my Shea Moisture products on her hair. Works great on mine. I'm liking the SM Curl and Style Milk right now. Right now I like to spray water/olive oil on her hair every now and then before I braid it and that's been working pretty well, but when it gets cold I don't want her going outside with wet hair. So I'll have to switch it up. I use Carol's Daughter's Maguerite's Magic on it sometimes, and it's just okay.
I LOVE this blog by the way. 🙂
Not even in Target?! Wow. I think you can order some of the Shea Moisture line on Target's website, unfortunately not all. The Shea Moisture site is still under construction apparently so you can't buy anything from there. 🙁
This post came right on time! I have always suffered from highly porous hair. I've tried everything under the sun almost. I will be trying this out. Thanks!
We love Bee Mine too. My girls are 3abc and 4a. Works for both. We like the BeeHold Curl Butter and Lucious Balanced Cream Moisturizer
If NikG says Bee Mine, then Bee Mine it is!
lol, thanks chica! I think her hair likes the BB products because they both contain aloe vera! good looking out! xx
Oooh! I've actually used (and liked) Bee Mine for my hair back in the day… time to revisit! As far as cowashing and poo'ing, no holy grails to speak of yet. I use whatever I'm using. Right now though, I'm using up the rest of the CaraB moisturizing wash… it's nice and can be used as a hair or body cleanser without stripping essential oils.
AMEN! At least it's not just me! When I left Gia's fro out for hubby's graduation, I got quite a few looks from the elder women in my family… like, 'so, you're just gonna leave it like that, huh?' Yup.
LOL! Yes! Why must they roll around on the carpet?! I still need to try the SheaMoisture line… this backwards town I'm in doesn't carry it on the ground 🙁
it is quite prohibitive. I'm hoping to find a detangler that's just as effective but half the price and more readily available.
I have never tried their products because of the price. I have visited their web site a time or two though.
When my 2 yr old son isn't pulling or dragging his hair across the carpet, the Shea moisture line works wonders. I've also heard good things about Nubian heritage & edens body works which they have in peppermint or jojoba & they're available on ground at walmarts, targets or Sally's.
"I have to constantly remind myself that the state of my child's hair is not a visual representation of my mothering abilities."
I just loved when you say that because when it comes to children who have curly/kinky hair it's often looked on by some people as "not being done". When those puffs & twists & coils were our intention all along.
When my son was a toddler and I let his curly hair grow my friends and even my own family would say "do his hair". And to me those big curls, little curls, crooked curls had their own personality. And I loved that.
So although he was taken care of & loved his hair somehow represented that I wasnt doing my job as a parent. So I would gel his 3A hair down (as much as I could anyway) just to appease the masses.
I swear by bee mine moisturizers for my daughter, she's 3. I have been using the dejas hair milk and lucious moisturizer for about a year now. Her hair retains moisture better now. But id love to find something on the ground..shipping gets expensive (shea moistures, miss jessies, cara b are no go's for us). Still struggling to find a good shampoo though! What do you wash/cowash gia's hair with? Any suggestions from other moms?
boogy woogy just looks so darn cyute. Awwwww. And hopefully the porosity of her hair will change but you might want to try more acidic mixtures to lower her cuticles like ACV rinses and aloe vera gel spritzes.
I know that the mother who runs the blog beadsbraidsbeyond.blogspot.com swears by it
isn't Bee Mine supposed to be really good in kids' hair?