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A Word For the Transitioners- The Facade of Fear

By January 27th, 2021No Comments
A Word For the Transitioners- The Facade of Fear

via Three Naturals by Winnie

The other night my girlfriend and I were reminiscing about our transition to natural hair.  Looking at her I said, “do you remember having an epiphany when you cut all the relaxed ends off and you noticed how soft your natural hair really was?”. We laughed about how hard the roots used to be when we relaxed our hair and how we couldn’t relieve an itchy scalp because the relaxer would burn…
Honestly speaking, before going natural I was fearful…what would I look like? How would I style my hair? I didn’t want to part with the length and I wasn’t sure how long it would take to grow back.


At a family gathering I caught myself observing my cousin and her niece, Olivia. Olivia was scared of a plant in the kitchen and didn’t want to go near it. My cousin took Olivia right to the plant and began to pet the plant in front of Olivia to show her there was nothing to be afraid of. After much encouragement Olivia finally decided to touch the plant. Not too long after Olivia was independently playing with the plant. I thought to myself, if this little child can overcome fear, what stops us as adults from overcoming our fears?

Fear has a way of crippling us if we allow it to and most times it’s the very thing preventing us from having and experiencing the better things in life. Now that I’ve gone natural and experienced what my hair should feel and look like, I have no intentions of relaxing ever again.

If you’ve already gone natural then you know what I’m talking about. If you’re considering the transition but feeling afraid, I want to encourage you to face your fear, because on the other side of fear’s façade, is freedom!

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