You know and I know that comparing yourself to others is the thief of joy. But knowing something and applying it are two drastically different things. I really don’t mean to do it, but it’s like my mind has a mind of its own sometimes. Recently, I heard a quote from Rick Warren that really shifted my gears. He said, “Envy is saying ‘I must be like you to be happy. I’ve got to look like you, I’ve got to have your money, I’ve got to have your kids, your family, your husband.'”
You fill in the blank. I’ve got to have your looks, your personality, your talent, your success, etc.
There’s really no hope in that, you know? Why waste your life and your gifts by envying what someone else has? When my mind starts to turn on me and the grass starts looking greener, I remember the Rick Warren quote and it snaps me right back.
There is always enough beauty, love, happiness, success and talent to go around. This makes me feel free.
Ladies, you don’t have to worry about whether or not you will get a turn. Don’t look at the next woman and wonder why she has a man and you don’t. Or, how is she such an emotional mess yet still seems successful in her career? Or, why do good things happen to everyone else but me? Don’t believe any self-doubting thoughts that tell you that you don’t have what it takes. Trust your own journey.
Here are some more quotes that you can recall when your mind starts to wander.
“If you compare yourself with others, you may become bitter or vain, for always there will be greater and lesser persons than yourself.”
| from the Desiderata
“We are not diminished when someone else is added upon.”
| Jeffrey R. Holland
“You may think the grass is greener on the other side, but if you take the time to water your own, it would be just as green.”| Author Unknown