I have always despised the adage “Do as I say, not as I do”. Not only is it contrary to human nature, but it undermines one’s position as a role model and they lose the ability to influence others, especially when it comes to children.
Basically, if we want our children, family members and friends to learn from us, then we must become what we want them to learn and do. It’s simple, it makes sense, and it is in line with the fact that a lot of human behavior is learned.
If we want to raise children that are polite, love others, take pride in who they are, and take care of themselves, then we must become the same.
And this is exactly what Eric Ellis, a D.C. and Los Angeles-based photographer, is doing with his almost two-year-old son, Faruq Ade Ellis.
In an Instagram post captioned, “The Art of Moisture”, Eric shows and helps Faruq apply coconut oil and lotion to his skin and hair.
Because of Them We Can posted the video on their IG account, which has been watched over 36,000 times. Check it out below.
According to “Huffington Post Black Voices”, Eric said that it is important for him to capture such intimate moments with his son because he lost his father at a young age and wants to leave memories behind.
As far as teaching his son how to take care of himself, Eric told HuffPost, “I want him to understand its importance to the degree that it’s not even an option. His mother is very much on top of setting a standard for his diet, and my showing him about his male grooming is the other component to complete that self-care.”
The couple’s self-care routine also includes tending to the mind, body and soul. In another IG video, posted below, Eric and Faruq’s mother practice yoga as Faruq plays, climbs on them and does several yoga poses with them.
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From the #blackboyjoy to the father-son moments, black love, and self-care lessons, Eric’s posts are sure to warm your heart and soul.
This family is a beautiful illustration of the phrase “Lead by Example”, and I’m excited to watch cutie Faruq grow up.
I don’t know about you all, but one day at a time, my hope is to become everything I want my future children to be.