|L-R: Adrienne Banfield-Norris, Jada Pinkett Smith & Willow Smith|
Jada Pinkett Smith is the realest! She’s the perfect mix of class and sass, and will go gangsta on any fool who thinks she won’t! She’s the reigning queen of killer abs and balances work and fam like nobody’s business. All of which is why she’ll always be my #WomanCrushWednesday every day of the week!
Red Table Talk aired May 7th on Facebook Watch, giving us a sneak peek into the real life connections between Jada, her daughter Willow and her mom, Adrienne Banfield-Norris.
I remember years ago, when Jada and Will first became an item, and I could imagine that this “changing of the guard” kinda situation must’ve been tough and filled with many “I’m ‘bout to drag her by the hair” moments. And nobody in their right mind easily relinquishes their very own child into the arms of a stranger, especially one who appears to be benefiting off of your loss. But Jada realized early on that a power trippin’ tug of war would only rip Trey apart, and she nor Sheree wanted that. So she decided to build a relationship with her hubby’s ex, so as to be a better “bonus mom” (Sheree calls her that!) to a little boy suddenly placed into her care.
|L-R: Sheree holding Jaden; Trey holding Willow; Jada hugging Trey|
Jada demonstrated love through her actions. She honored Sheree. She respected her. She tore down territorial lines, had her over for dinners and even invited her to sleep over during the holidays (in a different room OF COURSE). Who does this??? Jada! And who responded rightly? Sheree! These women showed the world that YES we can all get along, IF we try. Doesn’t mean it wasn’t an arduous road, both ladies will attest to that. But they committed to a journey that gave ease to a child who would have otherwise experienced the detriment of divorce like most kids do. Trey could not lose, because he didn’t have to chose, all because his two moms opted for peace.
Romans 12:18 urges us, “If it is possible, as much as it depends on you, live peaceably with all.” But let’s be real, what happened for the Smith’s might not happen for all of us. Some people are accustomed to disharmony, addicted to dysfunction, and choose to continue in strife with those who pose an imaginary threat to relationships they prefer to keep to themselves. But don’t worry about them, God is still watching YOU. And as long as you pursue peace, promotion will always find its way into your home.
It would be years before David the shepherd boy (1Samuel 17:12) became King David, ruler over Isreal (2Samuel 5:1). But it was his pursuit of peace with his predecessor, King Saul, that serves as a lesson to us all…
David may have looked like a shabby little thing, but this kid had the courage of a lion. When an army retreated from the terrorist threats made by the giant Goliath, David was like, “Say hello to my little friend!” And before Goliath could finish cracking up laughing…BAM!!!! A deadly blow straight to the dome, and that was the end of that! King Saul saw the whole thing, brought the little boy under his wing and made him a VIP!
But as David grew older in both wisdom and strength, his popularity followed suit. King Saul became mad jealous, kicked poor David to the curb and wouldn’t rest until he was dead.
Even while running for his life, David vowed to continue his allegiance to King Saul by loving him in spite of his hateful ways and by showing him the honor and respect he no longer deserved. He even spared the king’s life when he could have taken it in self-defense. David was determined to be a peacemaker. And when his attempts to show love seemed all in vain, God showed up to prove him totally wrong. The Lord demoted Saul by death and promoted David to king, for he had proven he was the best guy for the job.
All promotion is not based on experience, as we can see from the story above. The pursuance of peace, no matter the response, can take us to heights that education, training and reputation cannot. So remember, peace and promotion go hand in hand…if you go after peace, promotion will come after you!