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This is Your Platform…

By January 27th, 202176 Comments

This is Your Platform...

So make yourself comfortable, and dish!

One of the missions of is to provide a platform for YOU, the reader, to be able to share your natural hair stories and experiences. It’s essentially an online hair therapy session- – a safe place to vent, and express your concerns and frustrations with going natural. We’re all here to motivate, educate, and inspire one another! Plus, you’ll get to show off your fabulous hair and share you knowledge with thousands of women– receives nearly four million views a month!

I’m doing an all call for the following:

  • Guest Bloggers– is now taking articles from guest bloggers. Please be sure to first submit a proposal of what you plan to write about. If it’s a re-post from your blog (which I gladly welcome!), send along the article, a link to your blog, and a pic of yourself. Upon posting, you should experience a pretty good flow of new traffic! Thought and discussion provoking topics are most wanted.

  • On The Therapist’s Couch– Tell us your hair story as it relates to your image, and self-esteem. What have you learned? What would you share with someone just starting out? Read, My Story, for an example. Pics are welcome!!!***
  • Curl to CurlSubmit a question you want answered by the community!
  • Style Ideas– Submit pictures of your signature style, complete with instructions for the rest of us!
  • Show & Tell Fridays Throughout the week, send in pictures of your hair looking its best, or your ‘total package’ photos from head to toe. I’ll post ten each Friday for your viewing pleasure. Send submissions to, and use “Show&Tell” as the subject line. Be sure to include a brief description!

Send your submissions to, using the specific category your submission falls in as the subject line.

Later Gators,


**I don’t post nakey pics, lol, or pics of ladies with texturized or relaxed hair that aren’t planning on transitioning. All healthy hair is gorgeous, but this site is purely for the naturally glam divas!

***Submit your story today! You never know who you’ll inspire 🙂


  • Alyssa says:

    I moisturize my hair on a daily basis and only miss about 1 day out of the week. I pay extra special attention to my nape area which tends to very coarse and dry. I wash once a week and condition twice a week and trim my nape area more than the rest of my head. But for some reason I get a ton of split ends in my nape area that get thin and turn a light brown.. Somebody help what can I do?!?!?!?

  • Angel says:

    I have really fine hair and would like to know what types of products or strategies would you recommend I use to thicken it up?

  • lisa says:

    I love your website! I just begin my natural hair journey hopefully one day my hair will be as beautiful as you girls

  • Jessica Coletrain says:

    I would love to see more from women experiencing hair loss / alopecia. This is a big issue in our community that few are willing to talk about openly, but so many experience. Microbraids, kinky twist, any type of tension on the hair can lead to damage.

  • Shanay says:

    Shea butter , coconut oil and olive oil is good for keeping your hair moist.

  • Dena Thomas says:

    How is your journey going?

  • Viki Giles says:

    Hi Amanda818, as a professional, I would advise that you go to a place that will let you sample before you buy. Sephora, Ulta, and Aveda usually have advisors that can give you styling tips, and show you how to use the products. No matter what "my" choice is for the best natural hair care product, everyones hair is different and everything doesn't work for everybody. Even if you classify your hair(3c,4b) the same as someone else, you may not have the same results because you may not have the same technical skills to apply the product the way they did in order for it to work as well. You can go to hair schools (Aveda, Empire, Paul Mitchell, Vidal Sassoon) for a simple shampoo and style for as little as $10 in order to try the shampoos conditioners and styling products without committment. Going to schools is also a great opportunity to get educated on how to style your hair. Although the student is performing the service, the teacher is a licensed cosmetologist that can give you great advise on hair care. Hope this helps and give you some ideas. I use Aveda products for curly hair. They are a little more pricey, but the last long, you use less product and its environmentally friendly..

  • Anonymous says:

    Curly Nikki, could you please please please please do a celebrity interview with Erika Alexander (Max from Living Single) Tempestt Bledsoe (Vanessa from The Cosby Show) and T'Keyah Crystal Keymáh from In Living Color? These natural actresses have been around for a long time and it is only fair they share with the rest of us. And yes, I have been secretly lusting after their GORGEOUS curls!

  • Conroegirl says:

    I love your site, but I have a suggestion. I would like to see more pictures and advise from true 4c curlies. Also so style advise from true 4c curlies. That's the only thing that this site is missing.

  • Amanda818 says:

    I am currently natural since Dec. 1st 2011 but still having hard time finding the right product and time spending a whole lot of money so far with no success please any advise ? I mean I have tried almost everything

  • Anonymous says:

    HELP!!!!! My hair is SOOO Dry!! I drink lots of water and just dont know what to do!?!?! Are there any products out there that will help me?? If so can someone help or tell me what to do. Thinking about cutting off.
    Florida Girl 2012

  • Anonymous says:

    Does anyone have natural products that can be used for babies? I refuse to put anymore chemicals on my daughter. i want to start her hair off right so hair products and she has mild eczema so skin products(washing/lotions/oils etc.). Thanks a bunch.

    Monique & Zoe 🙂
    God Bless.

  • Anonymous says:

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    year’s 84th Annual Oscar Awards.

    Jenell Stewart, creator of Kinky Curly Coily Me is excited about
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  • Anonymous says:

    Hi Curly Nikki:

    I just saw a gorgeous bride on Essence's bridal bliss – February 1st edition. Can she be tracked down to share how she achieved her style?


  • Carlie says:

    Hi Nikki.
    I'd like to propose a guest blog on competing for the America's Next Natural Model competition at

    I have survived 3 eliminations so far and wanted to get more naturals involved in voting.

  • Anonymous says:

    Just saw this online about mtv doing a True Life on natural hair. Sounds like a cool idea.

  • Anonymous says:

    Hello, ladies.

    I hope that you all are doing well and have been enjoying the holidays.

    I am doing research about women's hair choices. Will you help me by answering the questions on the site link you see below? The questionnaire takes less than 8 minutes.(Please participate in this survey only once.) If you are able to answer these questions, please respond by Saturday, December 17, 2011. You may also forward the survey link to other women as well. I am so excited to hear from all of you. I appreciate your time. Thank you!

    Natural hair:Hair that is not altered with chemicals that change the original/natural texture of the hair.

  • Dstar says:

    Hey Curly Nikki ,
    My hair sheds everytime I wash it I did the BC in September is that normal to be losing hair with every wash

  • BlessedBklynite says:

    I just found your site through twitter and let me say that first, I'm Puertorican and Italian. Second, my mom used to put tons of Pink in my hair because she didn't know what else to do to stop it from frowing…Lol. Third, I took cosmetology, not to learn how to do other people's hair, but to learn how to do my own, gurl! So, through the years, many have experimented on my hair, and I have experimented on others and this site is like striking Gold for me! This is tight. I hope I can contribute and at the same time share this site with my friends. Unfortunately, at this time, I have to put in at least three products in my hair to walk out the door half way decent. After National Novel Writer's Month, I will take some pics, maybe even video footage of what I mean and maybe you can help a sistah out on how to keep her hair from falling out at an early age…Lol. Latah!

  • Anonymous says:

    Hey Nikki,

    First let me say, I LOVE THIS SITE!
    Now then, I have always been complimented on my hair ever since I was a little girl because I have naturally curly blonde hair, which a few years ago I started coloring it a dark brown because it looks better on me. I feel better about myself when my hair looks amazing. Your recipes for beautiful hair have helped me leave behind all products (besides color) and go completely natural.

  • mary ellen says:

    Can one of your experts call me before I spend $, I would like all the products I need, and nothing more
    my hair has always looked good until I moved where there is hard water, and i can not afford to wash with bottled water,
    I did purchase the shampo that was right for me, and the free sample seems to help
    I am on unemployment so that is why I can afford exactly waht I need , the bare min.
    please call me Thurs/Friday after 11 am CST
    thanks so much 608-285-5146

  • 1dimplecurlyqt says:

    Hello curly cues,

    I'm a new natural and had a big chop a little while ago. I don't know what to do with my hair. It needs moisture BAD! it's beautiful when it's wet, and the curls get all dried out and frizzy as the day goes on. PLZ HELP SOMEONE! I have a profile on here, but i'm not sure how to manipulate the site yet! thanx in advance!

  • Teon says:

    My name is Teon
    I noticed a lot of advertisements, and literature concerning any kind of hair care, are geared mostly towards women. I actually created a website that informs all genders and ethnicities, enlightening and encouraging them on their Natural Hair journey called…
    Please Feel free to share any advice or insight. I am a diligent student of life and I welcome any comments.

  • Doctor Lavant says:

    I would love to be a guest blogger. My website is I have been natural all my life and I do speak about natural hair issues (amongst) others on my facebook fan page and on twitter. I am and my facebook page is Georgia Advanced Motivational and Educational (G.A.M.E.) Style Team. I love your site and as a matter of fact, it is featured today on my facebook fan page!

  • Anonymous says:

    First and Foremost, LOVE DA WEBSITE!!!

    I have never found so much useful information in one place!!!

    Second, I'm a guy thats recently decided to go natural. Am I able to possibly share my story on your website?

    If not, I'll be fine and still a huge fan!!!

  • Gabriel Kinder says:

    Hey Curly Nikki,

    If your readers are the sort of people who spend most of their time at the salon, trying to hear the conversations going on in other chairs… They want to check out "Psychic Blowout."

    Scott Wasserman is a hair stylist with more than 12 years experience and a salon in NYC's theater district. He also has clairvoyant gifts. Scott started offering a service called Psychic Blowout after realizing he can make a deeper psychic connection with clients, while doing their hair.

    For the first time, he is allowing cameras in his salon to record the process. KGBco is offering it as a free web series.

    Our pilot features Scott's reading of fashion designer Bob Bland. She came in weeks before giving birth to her first child.

    Please feel free to embed the series pilot:

    I'm also including a raw outtake of Bob's reaction to the reading, which you can also feel free to embed:

    Also, if you are interested in interviewing Scott, please feel free to contact me.

    -Gabriel Kinder

  • Erica says:

    I just started a blog and would love to be featured on Curly Nikki! Can you be featured doing more than one of the activities listed above?

    Also, when are you coming back to the DMV? I missed you the first time!

  • Ayari Cosmetics says:

    Hello, I would like to introduce myself to all of you. I am Emily Bazemore Owner and Chief Formulator of a minority company called Ayari Cosmetics, LLC. I have been developing hair and skin care products for several major companies for over 17 years. I wanted to share with you a wonderful and fantastic natural product. It is called the Elixir Polishing Mist. Made with Coconut oil, Ecocert emollient, Grape Seed Oil, sunscreen and no preservatives. This wonderful product will improve the look of dry hair while making it hydrated, silky and manageable without mineral oil or silicones. It gives you that great polished look and within two weeks of application, your hair will be noticeably improved. It is an ultra-light formula to provide split end repair and reduce frizz while protecting it from UV. The month of May will we have a special running for a 2 oz mist bottle for $3.00. After May, it will be $6.00. I also have a natural hand-made hair and body shampoo soap at the reduced price for this month. These are truly great products. It's worth it! Website: Please use the contact page for additional questions or orders.

  • Alethequeen says:

    I LOVE, LOVE, LOVE Curly Nikki!! I have been on my natural journey for about 5 months now doing a long transition due to a medical conditon (PCOS) and stressing I lost most of my hair in the middle of my head so I am waiting to do the big chop. I have learned SO MUCH from this site and after doing research Curly Nikki is the best natural hair site out there. Glad to be apart of the community.

  • Chiniqua says:

    I really love this site b/c of all the great info I can get. I do have a question about growing out my relaxer. My relaxed hair is very fine and doesn't hold any curls overnight , my new-growth is 4b and I am wondering will I have the same problems or will it "hold up" and not be flat in the AM. I use a satin bonnet for bed, just trying to get an idea what I have in store for me. Any comments appreciated Thanks

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  • Anonymous says:

    Hello Ladies,

    Just had to tell you about my latest and probably my last product adventure. Soft Sheen Roots of Nature feathered wipped curl cream is the stuff! I did the BC in Dec 2010,tried alot of products to soften and give my old school, course thick hair, beautiful curl definiton. I'am a certified PJ as well. This product smells light and refreshing and although it's thick,it penetrates my hair not just sit on it. It make my hair soft not stiff,and the curl definition is to HOLLA for! The curl revive spray springs the curl pattern right back up! no lie!! If you try it, apply to freshly wash hair the 1st time you use it and just let it air dry or diffuse,(I let mine air dry,somtime diffusing tightens my hair)but make sure your hair is soaking wet. I even apply it in between washes just to touch up my curl. Depending on the length of your hair, you won't need much. If anyone else has tried this please comment. I want to submit a picture and will as soon as I can

  • Vmarie401(Seattle, WA) says:

    Same here. I Have 4a type hair and have been natural for 1yr 1/2 with transistion 2 1/2 yrs.!!1 I love the journey so far and have shared it with my youtube family. My Youtube name is Vmarie401 and I would love to post picture/videos of the hairstyles I have come up with to help others. Please let me know if this is possible.
    Blessings, Vonnette 🙂

  • Adrian (Queens, NY) says:

    I have a truly TWA and type 4 (I think) – I LOVE IT and I don't think I'll ever let my hair grow back. I'm in the barber's chair almost once a week. I'd like to get the wavy look but I'm not sure what to do to achieve it. When I get a fresh cut and put some oil (or whatever products I test out) I can achieve the wavy appearance but my hair is so course after a good 5 days or it looks really nappy and dry no matter what. I can't go without washing because I go to the gym and gets kind of itchy. Any suggestions. I'm all over your site and I don't know what to try. I'd love to post a picture but don't know where to go….

  • NYDiva2010 says:

    Sooo, I've decided that I want to go au natural with my hair, but Im not exactly sure how to do that. Im not sure whether I need to completely cut it off and let it grow back or just leave it like it is. Can someone please help me? You can email me at JANICEC92@YAHOO.COM

  • Anonymous says:

    Hello Ms. Nikki. I have been natural since June 2010. My hair has always been thick and curly. I decided to cut my hair down to the natural one day after swimming in the pool with my 4 yr. old son. I became very tired of the perm thing. The problem that I have is: I like to change my hair styles very often and I like to be very versatile. I feel like I have already ran out of styles. My hair grows very fast, Since June I have grown out of the "bush" stage and now I wear the front pinned up in various styles and allow the back to flow freely, I am just looking for more styles that can be achieved at home in my bathroom. I have tried numerous beauticians, however its hard to find people who really know how to do my hair. It is very hard to manage, please direct me if possible. I have used, curly pudding, mixed chicks and kinky curly products none of which captures my true curl. Thanking you in advance Chiquita 🙂

  • Anonymous says:

    Hi Nikki

    I'm currently transitioning, it's been 7 months, I'm wondering if I should bc now. My question is: Would bcing help my hair grow faster, instead of holding on to my perm ends. I aldready did a semi bc couple months ago so my hair is not that long.
    If I do bc now I'm planning to do protective style until I reach a desire length. Would that be healthy for my hair?

    Thanks so much CN

    Much love

  • Unknown says:

    hey niki,

    i want to go natural right now………and i have nappy hair…but i dont know what is the best product for my hair.. can you please help me…..

    love nina

  • Anonymous says:

    As of November 22,2010 @ 5:45pm, I am officially natural… I went to the salon and had all my permed hair cut off. It is definitely taking some getting use to… But I am glad I did it.

    AJ of Milwaukee, WI

  • Anonymous says:

    Hey I'm Antoinette (Toni) and I'm trying the natural look for the third time. The very first time was in 1997, my 1st year in college. Since I played ball in H.S and my 1st year in college, I've alway braided my hair while growing out a… gasp!! Jherri curl my dad made me get! lol (that 's a long story). Anyway I ended up getting pregnant w/ my 1st daughter. While pregnant I would either braid my hair or press it or rock two afro puffs. 1997-98 was the healthiest my hair has been since then. Fast foward to 2007 after having given birth to my 3 year old in December, I attempted the natural look again. I had a TWA but just enough hair to continue to braid and do sew-in's. By the summer I had a Waiting to Exhale moment and cut and permed my hair. Actually I wanted a texturizer but the hair dresser (a Dominican stylist) misunderstood what I wanted. So I told her to just cut all my hair off. I 2008 I left NYC and moved to N.C. Once again I had a 'fro and once again I tried a texturizer, after a girl who had natural hair told me don't do it. I wish I would have listened b/c one touch up later I had three bald spots and almost no edges and A LOT of hair on my shower floor, I just figured I'd just get a new hair dresser. Long story short. April of 2010 was the last relaxer I had. I just rocked weaves & braids until last week when I got partial two strand twist. I love it!! I had some kinky human hair added to mine in certain area's but now I have HIH syndrome and I keep retwisting my hair. I'm so excited about my journey. My daughter's are too. My oldest had the same experience w/ perms and texturizers as well. She's tender headed so I thought I was doing her a favor. But like mommy her hair fell out. My three year old will never have to worry about that. They love their hair and my oldest loves her twis & fro hawks!

  • Aisha Antoinette says:

    Hey Curlies!

    I've just decided to go natural! Come join me on my journey!

  • Anonymous says:

    Ughhhhhhh Hey Im Tyler and i and iam a sr in High school… i have been natural since my sof yr of school… my curls "were" BEAUTIFUL… they were nice tight spirals… BUT now im fustrated becuz I let my dum friends persuade me in to straighting my hair….AND NOW MY HAIR WONT CURLY BACK UP!!!…IM SO SAD AND ALMOST DEPRESSED…PLZZZZZZZZZZZ HELP ME…EMAIL ME

  • shannon.campbell says:

    Hey Guys im shannnon !!

    Im 16 and im currently in HS. My natural hair journey started my sophmore year when i decided to transition. November 5 2010 i did my big chop and i've never been more than happy ! i currently have a full weave in my hair not because i dont like my natural hair, but because its cold outside and teens are cruel so i rather keep the weave untill it grows a little more. My goal is to have my hair mid back length like how it use to be! i encourage all women especially young girls to be different. Love you first! During my transition i had many negative comments and few positive. Many did not understand the change i was ready for as a junior in HS. However, with change comes happiness and im not ashamed to say that i am natural again!

  • RHOyalRevolution says:

    I try to RHOck my hair in all outfits to show people you can be fashionable & chic with natural hair.
    I think we (as Black women) spend so much time thinking about what our white bosses or co-workers would think of out natural state, but I have experienced all good comments.
    They love my hair!
    They tell me I reinvent myself every week 🙂

    RHOck your hair, ALL ways!

  • Anonymous says:

    Hey Nikki, first off, thank you for taking the time, energy and patience to put together this great blog and web site. I have been natural for 2years and 9moths and my hair type is 4b kinky and nappy. It took me a while to understand my hair type and how important that is ( at least to me) because finding out you hair type can save you a lot of aggravation and expense with your hair.

    I did not really transition but just took all OFF and started over without knowing what i was doing, but I learned along the way and i am finally understanding my hair. It is because of people like you who took the time to put the information out there that has help me along the way. It is a journey that i am enjoying and plan continue for the rest of my life. So, once again …..Thank you.

  • Anonymous says:

    OMG nikki PLEASE help ME!!!!! i have been transitioning for about six months, and ive been having a hard time trying to style my transitioning hair. ive been thinking about the big chop, but hat styles can i put in if i do that?

  • Anonymous says:

    Hi Nikki,

    I have a question I'm a transitioner and I've been washing my hair weekly and using various oils on the daily protective styles I've been wearing. I'm thinking of getting either a braided style or a sew in as a longer term protective style and I want to continue using the oils (black jamacian, amla & cocoanut) while wearing my hair this way. How would I go about keeping my natural hair oiled or moisturized while wearing either style?

  • Cash says:

    Just posted this on my blog! Please go comment and send me some good advice! It's really a struggle for me; I think I just needs some encouraging words from people that have gone natural! Thanks in advance!

  • LV says:

    Ah ha! I just found where to submit. LOL It's amazing what reading a whole post will do for you 🙂 Have a great day!!

  • LV says:

    I am loving your website and your hair is beautiful! It is very informative and inspirational. I would love to submit an article from my own website to your website, but I wasn't sure where to submit. I'm sure I missed it, so I'll keep looking around. Anyway, love your site, keep up the great work!

  • Unknown says:

    Yah! to natural hair!!!! I've been wearing my hair all natural for 7 years and it's been liberating.
    Let the revolution begin!

  • Roccmycurls says:

    Hey Nikki!

    I'm so proud of you. Your site is phenomenal. I remember you from You were our fearless leader. 🙂

    As usual, your hair is gorrrrrrrrrgeous.


  • Anonymous says:

    Hello ladies,

    My name is Amiko, i've been re-reading this site for a while now. I would like to go natural and curly. Naturally my hair is curly when wet, fine and sorta thin. Im looking to thickin up my hair and also have it grow out healthy and curly. I would love it if someone could give me some feedback on how to start. I'm willing to buy whatever products I need, no matter the price. One of my biggest questions would be braiding the hair to leave over night? For the past year now i've been maintaining a short haircut, so i'm not sure how to braid it up with my hair being so short? Any tips or suggestions?

  • Anonymous says:

    Hello Ladies,

    My first time gracing this site was just 2 days ago, I think, and clearly I'm already addicted. Been natural my whole life, but also been lazy that whole amount of time too, so this site is refreshing and is forcing me to try some new thing. I used to have bra strap length, and would bounce between two strand twists, mini box braids, and a good ol' home press with the Gold N Hot. Then I cut it ALL off just cuz I was graduating college and went through my "hairevolution" as I affectionately call it. Grew it back out since then (4 years ago now) and I've got about 3 or 4 inches past my shoulders, and feeling like cutting it all off again. I'm ready for somethin new, and I think that somethin can be found here. Thanks for sharing your experience. Even us lifetime natural girls need the help obviously.

  • Nicole Murchison says:

    Hi everyone….I have a problem…My hair is natural and has been for about two years…it is to my ears and is healthy but it is becoming straight on the ends and I have no idea as to why. I was thinking it may have been because I was experimenting with blowouts at my local Dominican salon bugt I talked to a young lady who is growing hers out too and she says she has the exact same problem..The longer it gets she has some straight areas and some curly how can I rectify this situation. Help! email me please with any suggestions Thanks!

  • Anonymous says:

    Hi Nikki and Other Naturally Beautiful Sisters
    My name is Jameelah and for a long time I talked about going natural. Four years ago I did just that and shocked a lot of people in the process. However I didn't know how to take care of it and was taking care of my hair as if it was still permed. BIG MISTAKE. Thanks to this site and others on Youtube I know better and I am doing better with my Natural Happy Hair lol. I am still learning but loving every moment.I am moving towards living natural in every way and… What better place to start…With my Head!!!!! 😉
    Thanks Ladies–Living Natural

  • Anonymous says:

    Chan (Curly nelly)…
    hi this is not my first time viewing this site but i must say i think i found this site too late 🙁 last 2 yrs i cut off all my hair and went back totally natural my hair grew back in about a year and half but my curls were really tight and im really not good at combing /styling hair so i texturized my hair and it has been gettin curly slash straight. To add more injury i went to quebec this christmas and left my hair open in the cold and now one side of my hair is broken up in a patch so one side is thick and the otherside is thin and limp. Im going through a a hair NIGHTMARE. Curly Nikki i need your advice PRONTO!!! i recently tried to stop worrying …(TRYING…..)and started steaming my hair with olive oil replenish packs, organic scalp scrub…..i have like 2 inches of new growth…idk if to cut all off again start over or just let the hair grow back slowly…curly nikki idk what to do!!!!! please help me….anybody i have been wearing my hair in a pony tail for about 2 weeks now i cant dear let anyone see 'my past complimented on hair' looking like this… thanks and like the writer above i just really needed to vent!!! thanks… Cuddos to the ppl who hair is growing back lovely!!! 🙂

  • Anonymous says:

    Hi Curlies,

    I am newly natural for the 3rd time around. The first 2 times I tried I simply did not know enough to deal with the texture of my hair, however I simply loved the feel of my hair in its natural state and I could picture all that potential natural hairstyles I could wear. So for the third time I decided to transition, this time for a full year. Only to discover that I had heat damaged my hair using a wet/dry flat iron. Now I have chopped but my hair is so uneven due to the spots of heat damage at the crpwn. Nappturals please be careful with heat styling! I learned this lesson waaay to late. Tasha

  • Anonymous says:

    I am so happy to know I am not alone with this issue. I have always had short hair, I have drastically damaged it and just decided to go natural. Currently I am wearing kinky twist,I went to my doc which said i am suffering with trichorrhexis nodosa,I have grown the perm from the back of my hair and currently am trying to do the same with the front. I have extremely dry hair that needs oils twice a day. I would like to know if anyone has any suggestions on deep conditioners and shampoos. My hair is approx 1 inch in back and 3 inches in front just enough to braid. what is the easiets way to transition and keeping my hair moist?

    I need advise, my hairdresser just wants to add relaxers so i'm avoiding her and desperately trying to find additional help.

  • Anonymous says:

    This is my first time on your site….I'm so sick right now. I've been transitioning for the past year and 2 mos yesterday and this weekend while I was doing a DC, I found that I have major breakage on one side of my head! my hair is about 17/18 inches long (healthy, nice) except for the back left quarter of my head which completely broke off to the NG which is about 6.5/7 inches long……After thinking about this since Saturday I CANNOT BC yet. I've never had short hair not even while I was damaging my hair with relaxers and flat ironing everyday my hair was atleast SL. I'd cut my hair as it grew but appartently that wasn't enough! This has been a bad week, I guess it's back to the wig store for me…:( Thanks for listening, I just needed to vent!

  • Anonymous says:

    Hi Nikki,
    My name is Paula and I have what some would probably call virgin hair. It's never been relaxed or texturized or anything. Just hot combed a few times and weaves.I'm 18 yrs old and in college, so I really don't have anyone to do my hair now. I was thinking about wearing my actual hair out, rather than a weave but I have no Idea where to start. My hair is just a big huge afro of non-curliness. So how do I achieve this curly look? Would I have to chop it off or just use certain products? By the way,I'm also afraid of cutting my hair.Lol. Please help!!

  • Dark And Lovely says:

    Hi Curly wurlies:)
    My name is Tiffany and I have been natural since 2007. I decided to go natural after a relaxer episode left my hair shedding. I'd always wanted to be natural but didn't really think about it seriously until two years ago

    I have to say I did not do the big chop. My transitioning period actually was mostly wearing half wigs or ponytails that was easily blendable with my natural curly hair. That's one move I regret because I actually was not taking care of my hair. I had no clue where to start except to trim the straight ends off every two months or so. I also did not know that they had blogs and websites that existed that caterd to the natuaral woman.

    I also figured that since I wasn't wearing my natural hair out; washing would be just fine and putting as must gel as possible to keep my hair from being frizzy. FOR THOSE NOW TRASITIONING DO NO SUCH THING.

    Right now, my hair is extremely dry. I'm in a trial and error mode and the temptation to relax is soooo itiching but i know it'll get better. I went to the hair salon recently and got a blow out and suprisingly my hair was below my shoulders but my hair poofed in no time. I was talkin to the hair stylist and asked her for product recommendation for my hair and she said "gel and water girl". I was soooooooo annoyed and felt like I wasted my money.

    I started taking biotin to help with hair growth and I'll be trying a couple products I saw Nicky is using and see of it works for me. I've trid so many different products and none really work. I want to get to the point where i don't have to apply get to keep my hair from frizzing and i have a regimen that works. I wish to color my hair at some point but until it's healthier i'll hold off on that. The ends of my hair are very bushy and drive and last few months I've cut off (not trimmed) alot of my hair. It grows back but the ends stay busy and don't curl like the roots of my hair.

    As of now,I'm thinkin about doing an actual big chop and get a sew in wavy weave while I let my hair grow up.

    I really appreciate this website because I get to see so many other ladies and their transitions. There's also great product recommendations. Up until today, I had no idea what a cowash was (i googled it) and now i found out. Alot of the the hairstyles, i used to do on my relaxed hair like bantu knots and braids outs but i didn't know there were names to them. Think I wrote enough soooo any advice and words of encouragement r more than welcome and once again thanks for a great website.:)!!!

  • naturalcurls says:

    Just a thought: Transpose the two by placing the new logo overtop of the old one. I really like both and think this might look hot.

  • Anonymous says:

    Oh, wow
    I love your blog. i'm doing my own little hair journey and I'd love to get some tips for my own little blog 🙂

  • Anonymous says:

    I enjoy your site mostly because of the variety of hair types discussed. I have type four hair texture and I get tired of looking at web sites that show all natural hair women with curls and waves. That is not my reality and I appreciate your recognizing women with kinky/ tight curl pattern/nappy hair!
    I have been transitioning for 3 months and your site has been very helpful.

  • Anonymous says:

    I havent dyed my hair with chemicals in bout 3 months and its still has it highlights with my roots brown and my tips is blonde n goldish color. i was thinkn bout tryn henna and i was wondering what should i use so it wont look crazy. I am all natural no perm in 1 year and a half

  • Cherry says:

    Anyone in LA with a good stylist for cut and conditioning treatments? I can't afford $100 plus for a haircut but wish I was rolling in money like that! LOL


  • Anonymous says:

    I have gray hair and have been using Ms. Jessie's products. I was trying to use the products that you use but the refined shea butter I found is a green color. Are there other options. Gray and Proud

  • Cailín says:

    Hi Nikki,

    I just found your site this week…I am the mother of a set of 2 year old twin girls. They have very different hair textures not to mention the quantity of hair. I am white and they are black. I like their hair down and in fro's. I have had a few black women come up and chastise me because I don't have their hair in braids. I really like the natural look.

    They are gorgeous girls and the hair suits them perfectly. I would like to ask your advice on products for their hair. Right now I am using Pantene for ethnic hair to wash and condition – every 7 or so days. Then I use a mixture of baby oil, water and It's a 10 Miracle Hair Mask to comb through it every other day. What else should I be using? I am going to braid their hair for the summer…too hot not to. But I really like the natural look of their hair.

    Please help. Thanks Cailin

  • Anonymous says:

    Hey Nikki,

    I love this site and have gotten a lot of ideas. I have been natural for 7 years now. I have to honestly say, I am just getting to the point where I LOVE MY HAIR!!!!! I have tried your tnc and love it. I was a maid of honor last week and everyone thought I hd a roller set. Plus, with the products I use everyone couldn’t figure out how my hair had not fallen yet after dancing…. I’ll keep that mystery.. I use products that no one has ever heard of and they are absolutely wonderful!!
    Keep inspiring us!!

  • Anonymous says:

    Hello Nikki,

    I love your blog. I am slowly learning what products are good for my hair. I recently have run across a couple of articles concerning Black Jamacian Castor Oil and its ability to aide your hair in growth and volume! Can you fill me in?

  • Anonymous says:

    I cut all of the relaxer out of my hair about a month a go and lovin your website. It is so real and I don’t think people realize the negative influences that have been given to our young children about what is beautiful. Thank you for providing this forum. I am rockin a twa and plan to grow my hair a long and strong all natural from here on.

  • Anonymous says:

    I’m glad you added the part about not posting texturized pics. I don’t have a problem with them but when someone says they are a 4b I perk up and pay more attention to what they are saying b/c my dauhter is 4b and I’m always looking for products or styling techniques. but if the speaker has a texturizer her 4b hair will have a different reaction than non texturized. It’s easier to know what is a realistic outcome if you know the nature of the hair to begin with.
    Love the site, very entertaining and informative.

  • LovintheBlessin says:

    Hey Nikki,
    gurl, I love your site, I’m a college student who has always had natural hair, but I’ve always worn extensions since I can remember, and I’ve spent the last six years growing out my one failed perm experience. In the last six or so months I’ve spent a lot of time on your site, henna for hair, nappturality, and naturally curly, and I just took out what I hope will be my last set of extensions for a LONG time. Anyway, I remember a few weeks ago, you had a post that you started by saying you know your hair is more than just a hobby when you count the days of the week by the days your style lasts. Well, I think it would be awesome if you start a message board highlighting the crazy way our hair takes over our lives, in a good way of course, but it is hard to justify to a non-curly the idea that I would subject my body to skin numbing sub zero temperatures in the shower just to keep my hair softer, but I would and i do and i ask myself every time if I’m losing it, then I get out of the shower and see the curls and suddenly it’s all worth it. Anyway, I think it would be a good way for all of us to have a laugh over how crazy we really get over the hair on our heads


  • Anonymous says:

    I plan to submit my journey as soon as I can get my hands on a good camera lol Mine is awful 🙁 I’m looking forward to contributing as sooo many women and their stories have helped me!!!

  • Anonymous says:

    LOL @ no nakey pics…gotta put that disclaimer in there though..I feel yah! LOL


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